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Jun 15 12 tweets 3 min read Read on X
There are things some men take for granted.

It's not even proper for your friend to help you financially, through your wife.

If he wants to help you, he should give it to you.

Men who know this can accuse that friend of trying to sleep with the wife.

If she reaches out to
you privately for financial help, never do anything without discussing with your friend.

Even if her husband is not your friend, if a married woman meets you for financial assistance, do it through your wife or any woman you can trust.

Same applies to relationship or marital
advise.

In solving issues or trying to correct things, a man must show that he's in charge.

And that whatever solutions, corrections or discipline he's proffering, it's based on his wisdom & experience.

Don't go saying..

"I've discussed with my friend, and it's what he
advised me to do, that I will do".

At that moment, you make your wife pissed & she'll see you as a weak man.

The worst is telling her that you have gone to discuss with your mother, or you report her to your mother.

She'll just call you a mommy's boy.

Women are attracted to
men who command respect, wisdom & authority.

They'll show you their stubbornness but if you insist on the right thing to do, & you correct them with examples, they'll adjust.

This is what it means to treat them how they ought to be treated, and not how they wish to be treated.
In the DM that I shared a while ago, you read from that man's wife, calling me a "puppet" in my home.

I didn't even take offense with what she said.

She was replying to her husband who perhaps, has suddenly realized that he hasn't been leading his wife right, despite all his
sacrifices.

And his wife is suddenly feeling uneasy because she is no longer having her ways like she used to.

Although there is a back story to it, it's still obvious that the man has been mentioning me in their discussions.

And he was just begging her & looking for "pity"
from her.

More like...

"Remember all the things I have been doing for you. Why are you treating me this way?"

Women will not pity you.

And if you try to guilt trip them so much with your pity pleas, they'll tell that "what is it that you've done, that other men have not done,
or even more?"

What I teach here everyday is how to have a healthy relationship and marriage life.

So I make no apologies if you decide to apply them in your lives & they backfire.

It's only those that want to genuinely improve that will eventually come to appreciate the
teachings.

A wife that wants to be insidious will frown at it.

A girlfriend that wants to be greedy will frown at it.

A man that wants to be pampered or loved, will frown at it.

But for those who know what they're gaining, they will value the teachings & be mature & discrete
with it.

Let your partner or spouse see you changing for the better, & become curios as to what is happening.

If both of you are followers in this community, you can jointly seek for guidance from me.

I've resolved many couples issues in this community.

Nothing bad in that.
But that doesn't mean that I must feature in every of your discussions, as if you were not existing before you came across this page.

Or you start using the teachings to be wicked to each other, or to be deceitful or blackmailing each other.

Keep it mature & real.

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Jun 13
It hurts to see a relationship that has lasted for years, crash because of the lady's infidelity.

It damages her self esteem.

And reduces her ability to bond effectively with her next man.

Because she'll likely marry a man that is not supposed to be her husband.

The moment
you find yourself in a serious relationship, you as the lady will know.

It's not easy to win a man's commitment because it's the most expensive thing a man can give to you.

A lot men will lose interest after the first or second sex.

They'll reduce how they communicate with
you & allow you to start doing the chase.

Not until something sparks in him, will he realise that this lady is different.

He cannot pin point why he suddenly feels committed to you, & then he'll start to show more interest.

Once you notice as a lady, it's a big break for you.
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An absentee father:

1) may not remember the birthdate of his child

2) may not remember the class or year his child is in sch

3) doesn't care to know how his child is fairing academically

4) doesn't know when his daughter sees her first period

5) never took his child to sch
for once at least

6) never attended any event of his child in school

7) will see his kids run into their rooms when he returns home, & they're happy when he's away

8) cannot command respect from his kids even when he's away (although this depends on his wife)

9) shows more
love to a particular child & encourages competition & envy amongst his kids

10) cannot pay for the delivery of his child

11) allows his wife to make key decisions about his kids, without consulting with him

12) doesn't pay for the school fees of his kids

13) comes home drunk
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Jun 9
I've always believed it, but covid made the final call on it.

When I started working remotely, it afforded the opportunity to study my wife's daily routine.

She wakes up before me.

She goes to bed after me.

And this happens 7 days in a week.

Except the days she is sick.
I started to put myself in her shoes.

Then I quickly realized that it was a tough task to do.

Mine was to wake up, face my task for the day in my work room, ask for food, and take a shower later in the day.

As the lock down became relaxed a bit, I'll go to a bar on the evening
to drink beer & relax.

She'll be left at home with the kids.

Going through their studies with them & following them around to make sure that they're safe.

I don't want to hear any stories.

After all, they lack nothing.

Now tell me..

If your wife does the same 9-5 as you
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Jun 8
A married man must show reverence to his wife when it comes to her territory.

He should never allow his siblings or parents come before his wife.

His wife's decision, feelings & opinions must be taken into consideration before he acts.

If you're not doing this as a man, then
you married the wrong wife.

Or your wife has taken undue advantage of the privilege.

Reading that DM from a married woman, it says alot about her matrimonial home.

A home where the husband can just go out to anywhere, without informing his wife of his whereabouts.

Let me tell
you all this.

Even if you're planning to go an cheat on your wife, tell her where you're going to, even if you'll not give her the details of what you're planning to go and do.

She should be aware of where you are, even if she doesn't know what you're doing there.

If you're
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Jun 2
Let's move on.

Here is a DM from a man that married an older woman.

I'm not sure what advise you seek for, but it's clear (from your story), why you're experiencing what you're experiencing in your marriage.

Your wife told you that her parents didn't want her to have a

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a boyfriend in uni, but they wanted her to just bring a husband.

Let us do a bit of arithmetic.

Your wife is presently 33 & you're 32.

And your marriage is 6 years this September.

Meaning you married her when she was 27 and you were 26.

At almost 27, she traveled to come
see you on your birthday.

And she knacked you.

Meaning, you didn't meet her as a virgin.

This is someone that said her parents frowned at her having any relationships.

Did it not occur to you, that she wasn't a novice?

And then because of what she did, you fell on love with
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May 31
This is why with women, how you start with them is how you must continue.

In the DM I shared from that 2 month old married woman, you could infer that she was used to her husband always apologising when things go wrong.

Then in marriage, the man has refused to continue in his
old ways.

Now she feels "deceived" in the marriage.

As a man, you don't go quickly saying "sorry" to your woman.

You only say "sorry" when it's expedient.

And it'll be worth it & justifiable.

Others, you show remorse through your actions.

You don't allow a woman manipulate
you into saying sorry all the time.

1) she'll see you as weak and even get irritated without letting you know.

2) you're painting the wrong picture & giving her a faux reality of how your relationship with her should be like.

3) as a leader in the relationship, you are not
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