Thread by @AdamLaneSmith

Your wife is frustrated. Complaints are constant.

Sex? Rare, if ever.

You’re trying to “fix it,” but nothing works.

Here’s the truth: it’s not about what you’re doing wrong. It’s about what you never built right (because you didn't know how).

Let’s talk about attachment. 🧵👇

Marriages don’t fail because of arguments or mismatched sex drives. They fail because of unresolved attachment issues.If you and your wife didn’t bond securely at the start, cracks will show under stress—and right now, they’re showing.

Here’s why. 👇

Most men think marriage problems are about surface-level issues: money fights, house chores, or mismatched libidos.

Nope. These are symptoms of a deeper problem: disconnection. Without secure attachment, even small stresses feel like relationship-ending disasters. 🛑

What is secure attachment? It’s the bond where both partners feel seen, safe, and valued. When attachment is secure, you’re a team—even in the tough times. Without it, every disagreement feels like a threat.

Does this sound familiar in your marriage? 🤔 Here's what to do:

Attachment issues don’t mean you’re “broken.” It means you’re human. Most of us were never taught how to communicate, connect, or build intimacy. Without that blueprint, your relationship was built on shaky ground. Stress only makes it worse.

So let’s fix it. 🛠️

Think of your marriage like an engine. If it’s sputtering, the problem isn’t the fuel—it’s the design. Communication, intimacy, and trust are the parts. Attachment is the blueprint. When one’s off, the whole engine struggles.

But the good news? Engines can be REBUILT. 🔧

Right now, your wife’s complaints and frustration aren’t about the surface issues. She’s trying to tell you she doesn’t feel connected.

And low sex drive? That’s not about her rejecting you—it’s her body’s response to emotional disconnection.

This is crucial to understand. 👇

Repairing your marriage isn’t about saying the “right” thing or trying harder. It’s about learning the fundamentals: secure attachment, clear communication, emotional safety, and intimacy. Just like an engine, every part has a role. Master it, and the engine thrives. 🚀

Building secure attachment isn’t guesswork. It’s a skill you can learn. Start with small changes: listen without defensiveness, validate her emotions, and rebuild trust step by step. These changes compound, and you’ll see the connection deepen over time. 💡

The bond you crave with your wife isn’t out of reach. Learning attachment and communication is a skill—just like fixing an engine. Follow the blueprint, rebuild the foundation, and watch your marriage transform.

Are you ready to start? Here's what you can do right now:

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