1/15
A charity surveyed more than 10,000 children aged 13-17 in England/Wales about their experiences:

“In contrast to DA in adults, the survey found boys in relationships are more likely to say they experience violent or controlling behaviours (57%) compared to girls (41%)” Image
2/15
If the data showed girls were saying they experience these behaviours more than boys, I suspect gender would be focused on much more in the headline, in the article & in comments made by commentators

Here’s a link to the actual report: youthendowmentfund.org.uk/wp-content/upl…Image
3/15
Boys admitting more perpetration doesn’t necessarily mean they’re perpetrating it more. It may simply means girls admit it less, especially if they want to appear as the victim to hide their abusive actions

The rates of sexual violence are very similar Image
4/15
“Surprisingly”!?

This has a rather strong implication behind it

When we constantly give boys the message that they matter less, & give girls the message that they must be respected at all costs, perhaps these percentages aren’t surprising at all Image
5/15
Notice the wording of the report. It says boys are more likely to be involved in violence but that “the rates are high for girls too” when it’s 24% & 16% respectively but no such commentary is used regarding sexual assault - 6% for girls & 7% for boys Image
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6/15
It looks like young people were asked about seeing violence against women & girls online. I wonder if they were asked about seeing violence against men & boys online? Image
7/15
Figure 1.2 highlights the proportion of 13-17yr olds who perpetrated violence in the last 12 months

I think more accurate to say it highlights the proportion of 13-17yr olds who *admitted* to perpetrating violence in the last 12 months Image
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8/15
The report shows boy participants more than girl participants report experiencing higher rates of violent & controlling behaviour from a partner; higher rates of partner going through their phone; & higher rates of sexual coercion but…. Image
9/15
… look at the wording below. What does this imply? It’s OK for boys to experience violence & abuse if the impact is not as severe compared to the impact reported by girls who experience violence & abuse?

Why were no questions asked about impact? Image
10/15
A wealth of literature shows boy & men are less likely to report severe impact & more likely to minimise the effects compared to girls/women

The report does not acknowledge that but…
11/15
… it does imply that boys & girls having different thresholds for what they consider violence or abuse could lead to boys being more likely to say they experienced abuse
12/15
In a world where abusive words towards women are considered violence, & non-physically violent actions against women come under ‘VAWG’ it’s astounding that the report implies how different perceptions may influence how only boys & not girls may interpret violence
13/15
If the report showed more girl participants than boy participants reported violence would we see commentary implying different perceptions girls may have of violence may influence their interpretations?

The bias here is blatant
14/15
When asking boys & men about their abusive experiences it can be useful to ask about injuries as this avoids interpretation. Recent ONS data showed male victims were more likely than female victims to report severe injury 👇 Image
15/15
Sadly, bit not surprisingly this is yet another example of how the abuse of boys/men is minimised & to some degree dismissed so there can be a focus on the abuse of girls/women even when the data shows boys are reporting it more

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Nov 22
1/8
This is utterly appalling

A few thoughts… Image
2/8
Boys may be more physically active than girls in the playground but this does not necessarily equate to dominance, & even if it does, this is not a harmful version of dominance
3/8
A wealth of science shows boys naturally being more physically active than girls & benefitting from being physically active & the article provides no clear evidence that boys being physically active comes at “the expense of girls”
Read 8 tweets
Nov 3
1/20
‘Why must women become their husbands' unpaid therapists? Inside the rise of 'mankeeping' - and the sad reason why so many men have no one else to turn to after a hard day’

My thoughts follow…

(Use the 12ft ladder we sure to bypass the paywall)

dailymail.co.uk/health/article…
2/20
“To the men reading this: do you talk about your most heartfelt concerns to your wife or girlfriend – but no one else? ….The problem is, chaps, & I hate to be the one breaking it to you, but your significant other may feel differently about this arrangement”
3/20
Ignoring the condescending tone, this comment completely fails to take into account that the partners of many men don’t want them talking to others about their problems
Read 21 tweets
Nov 1
1/5
“I’d never suggest that every man is a predator, even the good men seem unable to fully grasp what it's like for us women”

I disagree. I think it’s more reasonable to say that the good men are sick of constantly being grouped in with the bad men & expected to tolerate it
2/5
As for THAT clip on the Graham Norton show, focusing so intensely on how women (who are statistically less likely than men to be attacked on the street) FEEL about being attacked on the street whilst comparatively ignoring how men are most victims of street based violence…
3/5
… I don’t think this is something to be proud of. If women were statistically most victims of street based violence, but we focused more on men’s fearing it, there would be outrage. It was a no less intolerable in the reverse
Read 5 tweets
Oct 17
1/6
‘Men are refusing to give lifesaving CPR to a women - because they're afraid to touch their breasts’

A few thoughts…
dailymail.co.uk/health/article…
2/6
Perhaps we are heading towards a society where women are scared abusive men will harass/physically harm them, & where men are scared abusive women will harm them by making false/exaggerated allegations
3/6
I think it’s important point out that most women do not make false/exaggerated allegations against men & most men do not harass/physically harm women
Read 6 tweets
Sep 9
1/10
Last month the British Transport Police (BTP) released a report highlighting that violence against women had increased

In addition to language being manipulated (see thread below), male victims were excluded

I submitted a freedom of information request

Here's the response
2/10
Here's a copy of part of my request: Image
3/10
Here are some important points to note: Image
Read 10 tweets
Aug 31
1/14
7 problem addressing “male violence” in the way we often do & 5 possible solutions

Thread 🧵
2/14
1. Prejudice: The narrative surrounding the issue strongly promotes prejudice, suggesting it’s OK to generalise & vilify boys & men (based on the harm the minority of them do) but no other demographic. Hateful & unhelpful
3/14
2. Alienation: Because of the prejudiced narrative boys & men & male victims are left feeling alienated, like they don’t matter, & this can contribute towards isolation, lack of disclosures or engagement with services, poor mental health & suicide
Read 14 tweets

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