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20yrs working with hundreds of abused boys/men | Highlighting misandry & men’s issues | Author | Former Victim | Supervisor | Trainer | Public Speaker #CSE #CSA
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Nov 22 8 tweets 2 min read
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This is utterly appalling

A few thoughts… Image 2/8
Boys may be more physically active than girls in the playground but this does not necessarily equate to dominance, & even if it does, this is not a harmful version of dominance
Nov 3 21 tweets 4 min read
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‘Why must women become their husbands' unpaid therapists? Inside the rise of 'mankeeping' - and the sad reason why so many men have no one else to turn to after a hard day’

My thoughts follow…

(Use the 12ft ladder we sure to bypass the paywall)

dailymail.co.uk/health/article… 2/20
“To the men reading this: do you talk about your most heartfelt concerns to your wife or girlfriend – but no one else? ….The problem is, chaps, & I hate to be the one breaking it to you, but your significant other may feel differently about this arrangement”
Nov 1 5 tweets 2 min read
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“I’d never suggest that every man is a predator, even the good men seem unable to fully grasp what it's like for us women”

I disagree. I think it’s more reasonable to say that the good men are sick of constantly being grouped in with the bad men & expected to tolerate it 2/5
As for THAT clip on the Graham Norton show, focusing so intensely on how women (who are statistically less likely than men to be attacked on the street) FEEL about being attacked on the street whilst comparatively ignoring how men are most victims of street based violence…
Oct 17 6 tweets 2 min read
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‘Men are refusing to give lifesaving CPR to a women - because they're afraid to touch their breasts’

A few thoughts…
dailymail.co.uk/health/article… 2/6
Perhaps we are heading towards a society where women are scared abusive men will harass/physically harm them, & where men are scared abusive women will harm them by making false/exaggerated allegations
Sep 9 10 tweets 3 min read
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Last month the British Transport Police (BTP) released a report highlighting that violence against women had increased

In addition to language being manipulated (see thread below), male victims were excluded

I submitted a freedom of information request

Here's the response 2/10
Here's a copy of part of my request: Image
Aug 31 14 tweets 3 min read
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7 problem addressing “male violence” in the way we often do & 5 possible solutions

Thread 🧵 2/14
1. Prejudice: The narrative surrounding the issue strongly promotes prejudice, suggesting it’s OK to generalise & vilify boys & men (based on the harm the minority of them do) but no other demographic. Hateful & unhelpful
Jul 18 10 tweets 3 min read
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It goes without saying that the abusive behaviour by anyone needs to challenged & dealt with

Some of the examples in this video clearly show men behaving inappropriately & disrespectfully, & this of course needs to be addressed…. 2/10
It is also important not to exclude important context. 20 men out of a large number of men does not represent men in general, & I think it reasonable to say that many of the men we see were being complimentary, not threatening
May 3 25 tweets 16 min read
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We’re told some women prefer the bear because men don’t do enough

Men do plenty!

We just see the media reporting on the bad the minority of men do, a lot more than they report on the good many more men do

Thread addressing how men do plenty 2/25
‘Shocking moment mob turn the tables on violent prowler after he was seen punching a woman on NYC street amid flurry of random attacks’
dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1…
Nov 17, 2023 21 tweets 5 min read
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‘Government ignores calls for sex education targeted at boys to tackle harassment’

My thoughts…

@HouseofCommons

committees.parliament.uk/committee/328/… 2/21
“… existing relationships, sex & health education (RSHE) in schools is less engaging & applicable to boys than girls, despite boys & men being most responsible for harm & abuse”

Here’s an idea. Stop generalising boys like this & you may find that they are more engaged
Sep 10, 2023 13 tweets 2 min read
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“they retain power, wealth & status”…

… a minority of men - not men in general

I present to you the apex fallacy in all its glory

theguardian.com/commentisfree/… 2/13
Referring to men as a “dominant” group… I can’t decide if this is fuelled by stupidity, ignorance, hate, ideology or all four…
Aug 7, 2023 7 tweets 2 min read
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A message for boys/men: when you get a get angry some of you may feel the urge to hit something. This is a natural urge for many boys/men which is supported by a wealth a science but here are 4 tips on how to physically express your anger appropriately if you feel the need… 2/7

1. Inform & discuss
Consider telling your partner that when you get very angry you feel the urge to lash out (obviously you can choose your own words) & that this is a natural emotion that needs to be expresses & men on average express physically…
Jun 23, 2023 7 tweets 1 min read
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‘The sexual exploitation of boys: Lost on the margins of GBV responses?’
sciencedirect.com/science/articl… 2/7
“Perhaps most striking was how many people had misconceptions about the sexual exploitation of boys, for example that it was all perpetrated by homosexual or foreign tourist offenders...
Jun 23, 2023 7 tweets 2 min read
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‘Sexual exploitation of children: Barriers for boys in accessing social supports for victimization’

“The global evidence regarding sexual exploitation of children (SEC) is expanding, however, the majority of research continues to focus on girls”
sciencedirect.com/science/articl… 2/7
“Legal frameworks create barriers when binary gendered terminology defines sexual violence, thereby excluding anyone other than women and girls from protection”

“For example, laws described victims of sexual crimes with language inclusive of women and girls only”
Jun 23, 2023 19 tweets 3 min read
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‘Frontline support services for boys who have experienced child sexual exploitation: A thematic review of survey data from seven countries’

Shame the research uses ideological phrases & demonises masculinity. We need less narrow & more open thinking
sciencedirect.com/science/articl… 2/19
“Child sexual exploitation and abuse (CSEA) affects all children, but research on the needs and experiences of boys is lacking, support services are limited, and workers lack specialized training to meet their specific needs”
Jun 23, 2023 13 tweets 2 min read
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‘Enhancing a survivor-centred approach to healthcare provision in Afghanistan: Understanding and addressing the barriers faced by male victims/survivors of sexual violence’
sciencedirect.com/science/articl… 2/13
“Men and boys may experience sexual violence, particularly in conflict settings. However, in Afghanistan little is known about the barriers they face accessing healthcare services”
Jun 23, 2023 5 tweets 1 min read
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‘How to Solve the Education Crisis for Boys and Men’ - Ted talk by @RichardvReeves

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“Compared to girls, boys face two structural disadvantages in education. Their brains develop later… boys have higher levels of sensation seeking and significantly lower levels of impulse control”
Jun 23, 2023 8 tweets 2 min read
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'Which groups are most affected by sexual violence? A disaggregated analysis by sex, age, and HIV-status of adolescents living in South Africa'
sciencedirect.com/science/articl… 2/8
“While girls *reported* higher rates of exploitative (18.4% vs 12.3%) and contact sexual violence (12.3% vs 4.6%), there were no differences in levels of non-contact sexual violence by sex”
Jun 23, 2023 6 tweets 1 min read
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Some new research papers around the sexual abuse & exploitation of boy has been released. Here's one:

'A global systematic scoping review of literature on the sexual exploitation of boys'
sciencedirect.com/science/articl… 2/6
“A total of 254,744 boys were represented across 81 studies”

“As victims, boys have received much less clinical and research attention”

“Professional failures to recognize and respond adequately to boys' sexual exploitation may prevent access to support”
Jun 22, 2023 9 tweets 2 min read
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In this podcast (& others) Rylan seems insistent on pushing the phrase “toxic masculinity”. There are some good bits but there are some bits that aren’t so good in my view
bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/p0… 2/9
Janet suggest men are “running everything”. She says women are expected to do too much work in the home & blokes don’t do enough. Really? Who fixes the car, paints the shed, sorts the car, does the heavy lifting?
Jun 22, 2023 5 tweets 1 min read
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Warning: content some may find distressing

“Ann's case graphically demonstrates why it is so important to preserve female-only safe spaces & services”

No it doesn’t

Ann’s experience is without doubt horrific & abusive… & at the same time…
dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1… 2/5
It is not (as is implied here) typical violent behaviour of females OR males

The sad reality is that a minority of people (men AND women) can trick people into thinking they’re safe people in order to perpetrate abuse….
Jun 21, 2023 8 tweets 2 min read
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'Does patriarchy exist in the West today, except as a lazy slogan?'

Good blog by Eric Anderson via @CentreMalePsych

centreformalepsychology.com/male-psycholog… 2/8
"...scholars have made the mistake of assuming that if something is controlled by men, it must also always favour men. Yet, controlled by is not the same as controlled for"

"This makes the gender pay gap an illusion of patriarchy"