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May 21, 2025 10 tweets 3 min read Read on X
You don’t just remember trauma.
You relive it—every single day.

In your posture.
Your reactivity.
Your inability to relax.

Here’s what The Body Keeps the Score reveals—and how to finally heal it (by a PhD psychologist):🧵 Image
Trauma isn’t what happened to you.
It’s what happens inside you when you don’t feel safe.

It’s the nervous system stuck on high alert.
It’s your body bracing for danger that’s no longer there.

"Trauma comes back as a reaction, not a memory." ~Bessel Van Der Kolk
Traditional psychology got a lot wrong.

They taught us to talk about trauma.
To analyze it.

But trauma doesn’t live in your logic.
It lives in your nervous system: Image
The most shocking truth in The Body Keeps the Score?

You can’t heal trauma just by talking about it.
You have to feel your way out of it.
That's how you rewire the nervous system.

And that requires a different kind of medicine:
One rooted in the body, safety, and attention. Image
Here’s what the science shows:

• Trauma rewires your brain’s threat systems
• The amygdala stays in fight/flight
• The prefrontal cortex (reason) goes offline
• The body gets stuck in a loop of tension, fear, and shutdown

And talk therapy alone can’t reach that loop. Image
That’s why trauma survivors often struggle with:

• Random panic attacks
• Emotional numbness
• Chronic pain or fatigue
• Digestive issues
• Feeling “stuck” or dissociated from life

Not because they’re broken—
But because their body still thinks they’re in danger. Image
So how do we heal?

We stop intellectualizing. We start regulating.

The new science of trauma healing is body-based.

• Body awareness
• Breathwork
• Polyvagal exercises
• Safe emotional release
• Inner child connection
• Nervous system repatterning Image
I used to think I could outthink my trauma.
Journal it away.
Pray it away.
Affirm it into oblivion.

But healing came when I stopped running from the sensations—And started meeting them with safety, breath, and presence.
I've spent 25+ years studying trauma—both as a psychologist and through my own journey with addiction, loss, and toxic relationships.

What I discovered changed everything:

Subconscious rewiring is the key to changing these patterns.
👉Thanks for reading.
👉If you enjoyed this, please follow me and repost the first post (below).
👉Reply with your thoughts on body-focused healing.

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Jan 30
You’re not “easygoing.” You’re not "too nice".

You’re stuck in a trauma loop of people-pleasing and overthinking.

You learned to stay safe by staying small.
Now you can’t tell what you really want.

Here’s the truth—(most therapists won't tell you): 🧵 Image
In my 25+ years as a psychologist, I've learned:

People-pleasing is the compulsive need to prioritize others' comfort over your own needs.

It's not kindness—it's a survival response developed in childhood when your authentic expression was unsafe. Image
The popular understanding frames people-pleasing as a bad habit..."Just say no."

This completely misses what's happening in your body and brain.

People-pleasing and overthinking are survival tactics developed to keep you safe.

They're not bad habits—they're trauma responses. Image
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Jan 24
A friend once said, “You’re selfish.”
I said, “Would you rather I be you-ish?”
He didn’t get the joke.

Then he added, “You’re self-centered.”
“Where would you have me be centered?”
That didn’t help either.

A thread on healthy selfishness 🧵 Image
Underneath the jokes, I knew what was happening.

I’ve been on both sides of that moment.

When I’ve accused someone of being selfish, something in me was usually hungry—

For attention, care, or love I hadn’t given myself.
When people say “you’re selfish,” they often mean:
“You’re not doing what I need.”

Old needs resurface in present moments.

They look for a place to land.

They usually land on the nearest relationship.
Read 12 tweets
Jan 23
Healthy sex and love feel different in the body.
Not dramatic.
Not addictive.
Different.
🧵 Image
Let’s talk about what health looks like in relationships.

Especially for those of us with sex and love shadows.

Which is all of us.

Healthy sex and love shows up:

-In our priorities
-In what we tolerate.
-In how we stop the constant chase.

It changes everything important.
SPIRITUALITY IN SEX AND LOVE

A connection with something larger than our urges changes how we love.

Whether its a 12-step group, a (healthy) religious practice, or in a trauma healing circle...

We have to find that "spiritual feeling" we were chasing through sex and love.
Read 9 tweets
Jan 21
You don’t just remember trauma.
You relive it—every day.

In your posture.
Your reactivity.
Your inability to relax.

Here’s what The Body Keeps the Score reveals—and how to finally heal it (by a PhD psychologist):🧵 Image
Most people think trauma is only what happened to you.
More importantly, it's what happens inside you.

Our nervous system gets stuck on high alert.

It’s the body bracing for danger that’s no longer there.

"Trauma comes back as a reaction, not a memory." ~Bessel Van Der Kolk
Traditional psychology got a lot wrong.

They taught us to only talk about and analyze trauma.

Understanding and remembering is important.

But we must also address how It lives in our nervous system: Image
Read 11 tweets
Oct 31, 2025
60%+ of adults had Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs).

This doesn't even include more subtle forms of trauma like family enmeshment.

The more ACEs, the higher the risk for depression, addiction, autoimmune disease, and even cancer.
These wounds don’t fade with age—they embed in the nervous system. Image
You can’t grow out of them.

You have to grow through them.

That's why I created the free course, "The Inner Child Toolkit."
See below. 👇👇
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Sep 6, 2025
This is Viktor Frankl.

• He survived 4 Nazi concentration camps
• Wrote Man’s Search for Meaning (16M+ copies sold)
• Developed Logotherapy: the “therapy of meaning”

Here are his 7 timeless lessons on finding purpose when life feels meaningless: 🧵 Image
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Before we begin:

Some statistics about the current state of mental health globally:

• 280 million people have depression
• 301 million people have anxiety disorders
• 1 in 10 people report their life feels meaningless

Frankl’s wisdom provide a timely perspective for us today:
Lesson 7: Find your Why

Frankl: “Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear almost any ‘how.’”

In 2025, most of us don’t feel tired—we feel empty.

We numb with work, substances, and dopamine hits.

Your nervous system doesn’t need more distractions. It needs a reason to keep going.
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