You think you're “too nice,” “too intense,” or “too anxious?”

It’s not your personality.

It’s trauma—hiding in plain sight.

Here’s how to spot it—and heal it in your body, not just your head. 🧵 (by a PhD psychologist)
Most trauma doesn't show up as flashbacks.

It shows up as tension, overthinking, burnout, irritability—everyday symptoms we normalize.

Your body remembers what your mind can’t explain.

And healing doesn’t start with insight.

It starts with safety in the body

Dr Gabor Maté

If you're a narcissist—or keep falling for one—you're not cursed.

You probably have unresolved trauma. And it's stored in your body.

This IS NOT about minimizing the hurt caused by toxic people. It's about healing.

Here’s how to finally get free.🧵 (by a PhD psychologist)
90% of people diagnosed with personality disorders also have complex trauma.

Childhood trauma increases the risk of choosing abusive or narcissistic partners.

Neglect, emotional absence, or abuse wires the nervous system for defense and trauma bonding—not connection.

1 in 5 kids is diagnosed with a mental or learning disorder.

But what if they aren’t disordered at all?

What if they’re different—and the system just refuses to make space?

Here’s why “normal” is the real problem—and what we can do instead: 🧵 (by a PhD psychologist)
Most systems weren’t built for difference—they were built for obedience.

-Schools want conformity and compliance.
-Workplaces want submission and productivity.
-Families want tradition and obedience.

But brilliance doesn’t come from fitting in. It comes from breaking the mold.

What if your chronic pain isn’t just physical?

88% of people in pain have unprocessed trauma.

And most doctors completely miss it.

Here’s what trauma really is—and how healing actually happens:🧵 (by a PhD psychologist) “Talk therapy” isn’t enough—because trauma doesn’t speak in words.

It shows up as tension, shutdown, panic, numbness, rage, immune disorders.

Your thinking mind can’t solve it, because your survival system is hijacked.

The body holds and keeps the score.

I’ve spent decades in trauma work and recovery.

Worked with thousands.

I've seen the same patterns over and over: emotional numbing, people-pleasing, codependency.

It's not your "mindset."

It's pain lodged in your body.

Here’s how to break free 🧵 (by a PhD psychologist)
These patterns aren’t character flaws.
They’re survival strategies.

You adapted to chaos, neglect, or emotional unpredictability—and built your identity around what kept you safe.

Now those same strategies keep you stuck.

Let’s unpack the problem—and the solution:

His name was Rumi.

He lived 800 years ago.

And today, he’s the best-selling poet in the United States.

He knew things about healing that we're only now beginning to understand. 🧵 (by a PhD psychologist) Jalal al-Din Rumi was born in 1207 in what is now Afghanistan.

He grew up in a time of war, exile, and religious tension.

His family fled the Mongol invasion, settling in Konya (modern-day Turkey).

Grief is not weakness—it’s our biological healing mechanism.

When expressed fully, grief activates the parasympathetic nervous system, calming the body and restoring balance.

Here's how to understand grief and allow it to heal you: 🧵 (by a PhD Psychologist) Unexpressed grief doesn’t disappear—it embeds in the body. The long-term effects are staggering:

- 32% increased risk of heart disease
- 44% higher likelihood of developing autoimmune disorders
- 3x higher risk of major depression

Why do we push love away, fear success, or feel like we’re never enough—no matter how much we achieve?

It’s not mindset. It’s your nervous system, wired by trauma.

Here’s how early wounds shape us—and how to heal (by a PhD psychologist): 🧵 1 in 6 U.S. adults has experienced 4+ types of childhood trauma (ACEs).
This kind of stress reshapes the brain:

- Hyperactive fear centers
- Numbed emotional regulation
- Distorted self-worth

Trauma isn’t “just in your head.” It’s in your wiring.

Dr. Gabor Maté

Childhood trauma reshapes your brain, disrupts your biology, and speeds up aging from the inside out.

Here’s how to uncover the hidden root—and start reversing it today (by a PhD psychologist): 🧵
I've spent 25+ years studying trauma and walking people back to their true self.

Real healing doesn’t start with insight.

It starts with safety.

And safety is rebuilt—through the body not the mind.

You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. You’re not too much.

You’re carrying unprocessed trauma in your nervous system.

And until you heal it, everything will feel harder than it should.

Here’s what trauma is—and how to begin healing today (by a PhD psychologist): 🧵 As a PhD psychologist, I’ve spent decades guiding people through survival, shame, and the long journey back to self.

Real healing doesn’t start with insight.

It starts with safety.

And safety is rebuilt—through breath, presence, and meaning.

You don’t just remember trauma.
You relive it—every single day.

In your posture.
Your reactivity.
Your inability to relax.

Here’s what The Body Keeps the Score reveals—and how to finally heal it (by a PhD psychologist):🧵 Trauma isn’t what happened to you.
It’s what happens inside you when you don’t feel safe.

It’s the nervous system stuck on high alert.
It’s your body bracing for danger that’s no longer there.

"Trauma comes back as a reaction, not a memory." ~Bessel Van Der Kolk

You don’t over-apologize because you’re nice.

You over-apologize because your nervous system was trained to equate conflict with danger.

“I’m sorry” isn’t a habit.

It’s a trauma reflex.

Here’s how to break the cycle and reclaim your voice—(by a PhD psychologist): 🧵 Up to 70% of adults have experienced at least one traumatic event in their lives (SAMHSA).

Even seemingly mild trauma can have long-term effects.

Over-apologizing is often a survival mechanism—not accountability or repair.
Dr Josh Mirmelli

Trauma isn’t just in your head—it’s in your body.

Science shows trauma can alter gene expression, shape stress responses, and even be passed down to future generations.

Here’s how to break the cycle and rewire your system for good (by a PhD psychologist):🧵 U.S. National Academy of Science called trauma "An unrecognized epidemic".

• 75% of people worldwide are affected by it
• 70% of adults in U.S.A have experienced trauma in some way
• 66% of kids have experienced 1 traumatic event by the age of 16

You’re not “easygoing.” You’re not "too nice".

You’re stuck in a trauma loop of people-pleasing and overthinking.

You learned to stay safe by staying small.
Now you can’t tell what you really want.

Here’s the truth—(most therapists won't tell you): 🧵 In my 25+ years as a psychologist, I've learned:

People-pleasing is the compulsive need to prioritize others' comfort over your own needs.

It's not kindness—it's a survival response developed in childhood when your authentic expression was unsafe.

Why has modern therapy failed so many people?

In the 1950s, Dr. Alexander Lowen made a radical discovery:

The root of emotional pain isn’t in your mind—it’s in your body.

His work flipped psychology upside down and changed how we understand trauma and healing forever 🧵 Before becoming a psychiatrist, Lowen trained as a gymnast and dancer.

He didn’t just study movement—he felt its power.

This deep connection to the body gave him an intuitive understanding most psychologists lacked:

We are our bodies—not just minds with meat suits.

If your nervous system is stuck in fight, flight, or freeze…
No amount of therapy, meditation, or journaling seems to help.

One small comment can still trigger panic, rage, or shut down.

Here’s how to rewire trauma patterns in 7 days—not years (by a PhD psychologist):🧵 Most people think trauma healing takes years of talking about your past.

But what if that’s keeping you stuck in the very state you’re trying to heal?

Because trauma isn’t just stored in your memories.
It’s stored in your nervous system.

Does the phrase “Inner Child” make you cringe a little?

You're not alone.

But that cringe is shame—born of trauma.

Neuroscience now confirms: 𝗘𝗔𝗥𝗟𝗬 𝗘𝗠𝗢𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡𝗔𝗟 𝗪𝗢𝗨𝗡𝗗𝗦 𝗟𝗜𝗩𝗘 𝗜𝗡 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗕𝗢𝗗𝗬.

Here’s why it matters — and how to heal: 🧵 The ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) study found:

- 60%+ of adults have at least one ACE
- Higher ACE scores = higher risk for depression, addiction, and even cancer.

Until we heal, it stays alive in our nervous system.

And causes most of our problems.

Dr Amen explains:

I've been a trauma and addiction specialist for 25 years.

Trauma doesn’t cause addiction.

It’s comforting to think that if we just heal our wounds, the addiction will vanish.

Nope. The truth is complex and far more inconvenient. 🧵 We reach for substances and other self-soothing to numb the pain of trauma.

But using a substance or behavior to cope is not the same as becoming addicted to it.

Most who endure trauma don't become addicts. And most people who use —even heavily—do not become addicts either.

Most parenting advice today is upside down.

We’re told not to pick up crying babies. Use timeouts. Be firm and detached.

But Dr. Gabor Maté says, "If you don’t get the first three years right, you’ll be doing damage control for decades."

Here’s why: 🧵 60% of American children under age 5 are in non-parental care for much of the day

Children need attachment to survive.

A child’s brain can’t handle an attachment void.

Most therapy focuses on your past.

But one Holocaust survivor changed everything.

Dr. Viktor Frankl endured 3 years in Nazi concentration camps—

And discovered a truth that rewired modern psychology: 🧵 After the war, Frankl developed 𝗟𝗼𝗴𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝘆.

Focused on our primary drive.

𝗠𝗘𝗔𝗡𝗜𝗡𝗚

He proved the power of purpose in the worst conditions.

Codependency is not just a quirk of personality - it's an addiction.

Neuroscience has shown how it affects the brain.

Excessive people-pleasing changes our chemistry, and we get addicted to it.

It's serious - here's why: Science has found that the brains of people with codependency have been rewired.

It starts in childhood with distracted parenting, affecting the "mirror neurons" in the brain.

"Attentive parenting leads to becoming autonomous adults." Viladarga, 2012