Treat this night as though it might pass naturally like any other night.
As if today you went and visited her at home, sat with her, had dinner together, then escorted her to the gate and bid her farewell.
This is "a night like others."
it is the anticipated night and the real privacy, and the first time you test yourself and she tests herself, and you will read her and she will read you.
It has its specificity, but don't let this specificity reach a degree that makes this night terrifying for the wife, and possibly for you too.
This is "a night unlike others."
2. From Sexual Tension to Psychological Tension
What do I mean by sexual tension and psychological tension?
The tense young man who insists on achieving something specific may create a crack in the wife's psyche that remains with her for the rest of the marriage, like saying:
“Listen, today this thing must happen like this and this and as I want.”
it's true that she's been in the engagement period and perhaps there have been some flirtation’s between you, but she might not be prepared for what’s on your mind.
There's the issue of fear of pain from the (virgin) woman's side, and the fear of failure to perform from the man's side.
You MUST forget much of what exists in illusions in media, customs, and traditions.