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Dr. Bob Beare

@DrBobBeare

Aug 1 • 13 tweets • 4 min read • Read on X

The fawn response is the silent trauma survival mode.

It keeps you people-pleasing, exhausted, and disconnected.

It’s trapped in your body, draining your energy and authenticity.

Here's how body-based healing can help you break free: 🧵 (by a PhD psychologist)

Everybody knows about fight, flight, and freeze.

But the fawn response—the hidden trauma survival mode—is often overlooked.

It's why you keep sacrificing yourself to avoid conflict.

It’s leaving you drained and stuck.

The roots of the fawn response lie in childhood trauma.

If you grew up in an environment where love or safety was conditional on pleasing others, your nervous system learned to suppress its ability to stay safe.

Dr Alex Howard

This learned behavior becomes a survival mechanism: constantly accommodating, hiding your true self, and losing touch with your own feelings.

Over time, it becomes a reflex, ingrained deeply in the body’s response to stress.

Most trauma survivors engage in people-pleasing behaviors without realizing it’s a survival mechanism.

It leaves you burned out, anxious, and stuck in a cycle of self-erasure.

When you’re in fawn mode, you’ll do anything to avoid conflict, even if it means abandoning yourself.

This response hijacks your nervous system, forcing you to constantly give and never receive.

Dr Nicole LePera

Fawning isn’t just a habit—it’s trauma in action.

Your body carries the weight of this survival mode, from tight shoulders to shallow breath.

It’s time to start listening to the signals your body is sending you.

Somatic healing is the antidote.

-Grief work
-Anger work
-Breathwork
-Trauma healing workshops
-Somatic Experiencing Therapy

These solutions release the tension trapped in your body, giving you the power to stop fawning and start living authentically.

Every time you feel the urge to people-please, check in with your body.

-Is your chest tight?
-Are you holding your breath?

This is where healing begins.

Recognize it, release it, and reclaim your power.

Don’t let the fawn response control your life.

Your body holds the key to your freedom.

That’s why I created my free course,

Emotional Integrity 101—to help you access and heal your emotions for lasting change.

If you would like to take your healing work to another level:

I’ll teach you how to reconnect with your emotions to start living authentically.

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