If you don’t touch her, things get awkward. Touch itself is attractive.
This post explains why touching matters for seduction, covering why physical escalation is key and why you should focus on it.
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First, why is touching needed?
You need to get her comfortable with your touch.
Here’s a quick example:
You meet a stunning girl, charm her smoothly, and she’s into it. Everything flows perfectly—she’s easy to talk to, you vibe, and you feel like a team.
She shows interest: long eye contact, blushing, smiling, wide pupils, pouty lips. It’s on!
You suggest leaving together, maybe grab food, and now she’s at your place, sitting on your couch with a drink. You’re feeling great about the smooth pickup.
You meet a girl, and she’s sizing you up, expecting you to jump through hoops to impress her. After a date or two, you deliver—charming her with your confidence and game. She’s hooked, calls you “interesting,” and you’re in bed soon after…
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But then it gets messy. She catches feelings, expecting you to follow suit. When you don’t, she’s pissed, thinking she’s entitled to your heart just for existing. She’s used to guys falling at her feet, so your indifference throws her off.
She assumes you’re playing her, when really, she didn’t do shit to impress you.
Clueless about what men actually want, she falls back on her only move: sex. She ramps it up, thinking it’ll spark your emotions. Big mistake.
Early in a relationship, after a man sleeps w/ a woman, the power dynamic shifts. He’s got what he chased—regular sex, a steady partner. Now, she flips the script, chasing him for commitment, aiming for a deeper relationship
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She’s at her peak charm—sweet, feminine, on her best behavior—to lock him in long-term.
If he resists committing beyond her threshold, she’ll start to pull back, auto-rejecting the relationship.
Her good behavior fades. The man, wanting the old dynamic back, starts chasing her. Slowly, the frame shifts to her control.
Once she secures commitment—moving in, marriage, kids—she often becomes the one holding the frame.
Six years ago, when I started figuring out how to attract women, I thought it was all about being the most fascinating guy in the room, proving how amazing I was, and easing their fears that I was just after one thing.
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Looking back, I can only laugh at how clueless I was! 🤦♂️No wonder I struggled so much.
The real keys? Move fast and dodge the boyfriend label (while still being a guy they like).
Here’s how to move quickly and effectively with women:
1. Kick off with bold, genuine interest:
Start with something like, “I saw you over there, and I had to come say you’ve got the coolest vibe I’ve seen today. I’m Jake.”
A man with a clear purpose is magnetic. Whether it’s building a business, mastering a craft, or chasing a big goal, a purpose shows drive and ambition. Women are drawn to men who know where they’re going.
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Without this, you’re just drifting — not exactly boyfriend material.
2. Pick a Captivating Passion
A passion like playing guitar, martial arts, or even something niche like salsa dancing screams depth and confidence. It’s not just about the activity — it’s the skill and enthusiasm you bring.