Thread by @jon_d_doe

He's not married yet, but please read.

I understand him to a very large extent.

But in other not to mislead some ignorant or inexperienced minds, I'll explain in brief.

Especially because of what he said in the last screenshot.

When I was young and dating my wife, sex was

very frequent and it was done multiple times in a day.

But after some months, I started struggling to keep up, and sometimes, maintain erection.

It got so bad that I started becoming afraid of myself.

I met an uncle, and told him what I was experiencing.

His response?

"Young man, give yourself a break. There is nothing wrong with you".

And in truth, I got my vibe back after some weeks of no sex.

But this is where I'm heading to.

I those periods that I experienced sexual fatigue, I still did not feel tired of my wife or the relationship.

And in hindsight, this was the first time that I got to understand the difference between sexual attraction, & sexual compatibility.

The frequency of the sex reduced, but it became stable over time, with our own routine.

Our relationship lasted for 9 years until we got married.

For you young people in relationships, this is very important.

Especially if your relationship is new.

Sex, will be exciting and interesting for a while.

But later, the man will start to feel fatigue.

He'll start to doubt his sexual stamina in his mind.

But if he sees a

new toto, he'll perform optimally.

This stage in your relationship is when you're supposed to start checking for sexual compatibility.

All the initial "gra gra" have died, and the reality of who you're dating and the the relationship will come in.

For the women, their sex

drive towards you have not died, she'll ever be ready for you at any healthy time.

But you the man, will be struggling to keep up.

This is where the temptation of cheating on the side of the woman will become high.

And if you did not meet her as a virgin, she'll start to miss

her ex.

And if she decides to go and cheat with her ex, she'll experience explosive sex again.

Then she may later regret it silently.

Last night, I talked alot about sex in marriage.

Learn these things now that you're not yet married.

A fall in your sexual drive & stamina

as a man, should not necessarily translate into you not loving her anymore.

And the woman should not feel that she's not loved anymore.

Your relationship is entering another phase.

A phase where she can be in your home for days, and both of you are cool without sex.

You now

see each other in a more family way, beyond just sex.

If you know this well, then you'll be able to cope in marriage.

Because sex is very important in marriage.

And sexual compatibility is "importanter".

So to the young man that sent me this DM.

You said that the lady was

really good to you.

But you felt you didn't love her anymore because you lost your sexual appeal towards her.

A question.

Why didn't you then marry any of those girls that you cheated on her with and had explosive sex?

Were they not good enough?

You see that the circle

will continue?

Marriage requires maturity and patience.

You must shift from sexual attraction to sexual compatibility.

So that when you marry a woman, you'll not love her less, because you're cheating on her, and experience something new outside.

It had almost nothing to

do with her wearing beads.

A woman's vagina will not always be healthy.

It's not spiritual either.

You just didn't recognize the phase that you were, in the relationship.

And you lost a good woman because of it.

If you see her today, I bet you'ld fuck her 5 times.

End.