Why *did* so many western nations seem to decide on a policy of infinity migration so suddenly, with seemingly no fanfare or public debate or even mention about it prior to backlash?
for example the change in Canada here from 2015-2019 looks genuinely crazy. Huge change to a previously conservative system, more than doubled. Possibly it made local news but not in the US.
But then the post 2020 change blows *that* out of the water
2022/2023 more than doubled the 2015-2019 averages in a lot of countries. And some of those 2015-2019 averages were already high, as we see with Canada, which makes these bars look less weird than they really are.
I do wonder if a system that relies heavily on inertia simply had a door pushed open, somewhere, somehow. I think its plausible. Though many people will reject this as not presuming enough malice. But in many ways that's more frightening.
big % of the loneliness epidemic and fertility crisis is downstream of the fact that men now pursue a girl for 2-10 seconds total and if it doesn't work go "oh well"
women probably also reject far too quickly but that just means not giving up matters even more
there seem to be many different shades of "no desire" at play. If you really like someone you should probably try harder before giving up. But second if you like someone and they reject you you should be learn from that. Actually consider how you can be more likeable
A lot of times I see someone pursue someone else but its truly half-hearted. Like the pursuer hardly seems to want it. Or they want to overtly act like they cannot possibly be that interested even if they are. No lust, no laughter. Romance seems like a bore with those people.
A: You can leave keys in your car
B: You can leave car unlocked
C: You have to lock car
D: You have to lock car and conceal any valuables
E: You cannot keep anything in your car
F: E + and you have to leave it unlocked so they don't smash the window
IMO just buy Siggis 4% yogurt and cut up small pieces of what you already eat to feed them
3 babies in: We have never made a puree, never bought "baby food", and the only baby-specific thing we've made is roasting sweet potato cubes, which we mostly stopped doing
There are a lot of things that just don't compute with respect to relationships. Beyond dating too, like male loneliness crisis. Everyone has more avenues than ever before to resolve loneliness, they don't seem to want to. Or are unwilling to lift a finger.
People have more windows to peek into societies than ever before.
One explanation for large scale dating or friendship woes is that people are just not very good at rating their own place in that larger system that they now have a view into.
If people self identify with the best of what they see, but do not put in any work to be "better" themselves, then simply adding the ability to see very far mostly results in mass delusion
one long thought that's difficult to justify concisely is that almost all housing cost issues are downstream of crime and social disorder
people claim things like "house prices are high because owners vote and they want to keep their property values high" but this is glib and partly begs the question. They don't want to all price their own kids out. But maybe they feel they have to.
Maybe they feel they have to because what really bothers them is that (for instance) there's too much traffic and noise, much more than 20-30-40-50 years ago. They would be correct of course, with larger roads and cars than ever, that go faster than ever (around here, anyway)