Thread by @LauraBeckerReal

Shame is a deeply selfish state. Often, instead of taking action to right whatever wrong was committed, the person collapses into self loathing, leaving their error unresolved. 🧵

They then justify avoidance of repairing the issue through self loathing. A convenient way to never change. It is selfish because not changing hurts others.

Much easier to declare yourself “a piece of shit” to avoid accountability than to improve through better choices.

The person then justifies even more sabotage and the shame cycle repeats.

Want to break that? Get in integrity. You already know what you should fix. Stop self pity and allow compassion. Punishing yourself hurts others and your future self.
You deserve forgiveness and change.

Shame is not an individual burden. Everyone around you gets hurt when you prioritize self loathing over self compassion.

Does this feel shaming to you? It is.

Now Let’s ask this: Is your priority to hate yourself and be a victim or to create joy for yourself and others?

You’re free to choose self sabotage and ruining relationships. But look at the root: shame. The feeling of failure.

You want to stop the cycle of feeling like a failure? Take action! Become worthy of your own self respect. Live by higher values. Care about your impact on others

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