A study of over 70,000 people found:
Those who focused on being the best, driven by external measures had worse outcomes than those focus on getting better.
When extrinsic aspirations dominated intrinsic, it was “universally detrimental” to their well-being.
The people who thrive aren’t driven by comparison. They’re fueled by curiosity and growth.
Those who focused on being the best, driven by external measures had worse outcomes than those focus on getting better.
When extrinsic aspirations dominated intrinsic, it was “universally detrimental” to their well-being.
The people who thrive aren’t driven by comparison. They’re fueled by curiosity and growth.
Psychologists Emma Bradshaw, Richard Ryan, and colleagues called it “the dark side of the American dream.”
Across more than 100 studies, they found that when external goals—money, fame, image, winning—dominate, well-being plummets.
People report more anxiety, burnout, and disconnection from what once made their pursuits meaningful.
Across more than 100 studies, they found that when external goals—money, fame, image, winning—dominate, well-being plummets.
People report more anxiety, burnout, and disconnection from what once made their pursuits meaningful.
We’ve messed up the balance.
We glorify ambition and outcomes but downplay curiosity and joy.
We turn “doing our best” into “being the best.”
And in the process, we trade sustainable drive for chronic stress.
We glorify ambition and outcomes but downplay curiosity and joy.
We turn “doing our best” into “being the best.”
And in the process, we trade sustainable drive for chronic stress.
It’s not that ambition is bad.
We need goals, standards, and competition. They sharpen us.
But when your worth is tied to how you rank instead of how you grow, every stumble becomes an existential threat.
You start playing not to lose instead of playing to learn.
We need goals, standards, and competition. They sharpen us.
But when your worth is tied to how you rank instead of how you grow, every stumble becomes an existential threat.
You start playing not to lose instead of playing to learn.
At first, outcome obsession can work.
Fear is a short-term motivator.
You push harder because you have to.
But over time, it erodes curiosity, autonomy, and intrinsic motivation...the very things that fuel long-term excellence.
Fear is a short-term motivator.
You push harder because you have to.
But over time, it erodes curiosity, autonomy, and intrinsic motivation...the very things that fuel long-term excellence.
Athletes and performers who thrive for decades don’t love winning more than everyone else.
They love the craft.
They measure progress internally.
The scoreboard might guide them, but it doesn’t define them.
They love the craft.
They measure progress internally.
The scoreboard might guide them, but it doesn’t define them.
When you chase outcomes, your nervous system lives in threat mode.
Every result feels like a referendum on your worth.
But when you chase mastery, your body and brain experience challenge instead of threat.
Stress becomes something to work with, not run from.
Every result feels like a referendum on your worth.
But when you chase mastery, your body and brain experience challenge instead of threat.
Stress becomes something to work with, not run from.
The research doesn’t say, “Stop caring about results.”
It says: balance your motives.
A little external drive keeps you sharp.
But anchor it in something internal—interest, curiosity, meaning—and you’ll last a lifetime instead of burning out in a season.
It says: balance your motives.
A little external drive keeps you sharp.
But anchor it in something internal—interest, curiosity, meaning—and you’ll last a lifetime instead of burning out in a season.
“Be the best” is an empty chase.
“Be the best at getting better” is sustainable.
Progress rooted in purpose outlasts success driven by fear.
The first feeds your ego. The second feeds your growth.
“Be the best at getting better” is sustainable.
Progress rooted in purpose outlasts success driven by fear.
The first feeds your ego. The second feeds your growth.
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