In this thread I'm going to dig in and find out. Warning - not PG13.
First point to keep in mind is that wordless vocalization has a stronger impact than words. This is clear in erotic media for men. In some genres noises are continuous through the entire video. Hentai is a great example because there are voice actresses specifically to do this.
I can't emphasize the benefits of wordless vocalization strongly enough. So, if you haven't read it yet I suggest you click on the link in the next post and go through the examples and explanations included in my seduction advice.
Ok, so words aren't as important as vocalization, but that doesn't mean words don't do anything. They seem to have a big effect on some men. It's not super easy to quantify this. To figure out which phrases work best I came up with a multi-pronged approach.
First, I asked AI to do a statistical analysis of phrases used by the female character in erotica written for men. Yes, I know hardly any men read erotica but that doesn't mean there's no information here. Results in the next post. But don't stop (lol). We're not done yet!
Most common phrases used by female characters in erotica written for men.
By now you should all know that AI makes stuff up. On top of that we have the issue that few men read erotica. So, we can't assume that this list is good. We need to keep looking.
To follow up I asked AI to run a statistical analysis of discussion of lewd phrases in online forums and identify which phrases were most upvoted. That gave me the following list.
As you can see, the two lists are very similar. So, that seems to confirm that these phrases work well on men.
But, I'm just not very trusting. AI might be making stuff up. That's why I waded into the forums myself.
I did my best to look at all the pages where lewd phrases were discussed that included a large amount of commentary and feedback. What I found was somewhat different from what AI claimed. I was able to identify a few "magic words" whose potency isn't clear from the AI list.
No, I'm not going to tell you what they are yet. I'm afraid you have to keep reading this thread...
So, one thing I found was that "you're so big" has to be used cautiously. Gone are the innocent days when you could convince any man he's big just by saying it enough. Men who know they aren't big don't like this one at all.
More generally speaking, men agree that when lewd phrases sound inauthentic, they're a turnoff. Now, that doesn't mean they have to be original. Generic ones work, and the ones that work best are pretty generic. But, you do have to sound like you mean them.
Now I'm going to share the specific posts proposing lewd phrases that got the most upvotes and most enthusiastic replies from men, starting from the bottom of the list and working up to the most powerful. These tend to have better formulations than the AI lists gave us.
The first one here, "you can do whatever you want to me," is widely agreed to work, although it didn't appear on the AI-generated list. "Make me yours" got a lot of upvotes, but we'll see a more potent formulation of the possession concept in the next set.
In this group we see a very powerful cluster of phrases. I don't need to say much here beyond pointing out that these direct invitations/expressions of lust benefit from some elaboration and variation. "Take me now" works, but the highly upvoted examples aren't quite that simple.
Here's a little analysis to generalize the pattern in this cluster. I should probably find more examples, because there are many useful variations. But, that will have to wait till a day when I'm prepared to do more than a few hours of wading.
Begging should be highlighted specifically. "The girl who's begging for it" is a very common male fantasy. Begging displays submissive desire for your lover and this makes him desire you more in return. An especially potent approach is to whine and plead repeatedly in a cute way.
Someone's at the door so you're going to have to wait a few minutes for me to continue this thread and arrive at the most powerful phrase to use on men.
By the way, while I was asking AI to run these analyses and erotica on forums I thought it would be interesting to do another analysis of erotica written for men. You can see it in the next post. Any surprises?
Most common traits of female characters in erotica written for men, according to AI analysis.
Ok, let's continue. This next set of phrases won extremely enthusiastic approval from men. If you've read DISPELLING BEAUTY LIES you probably know about the unique seductive power of offering oral, but these phrases take that even further and are highly recommended.
Amazingly though, we still haven't gotten to the phrase most widely agreed to have the biggest and most consistent effect on men. After much time wading through these forums I decided that the magic words were a short phrase not particularly emphasized in the AI analysis.
So I said to AI: what gives? Why didn't you put this phrase at the top?
And below you can see how AI replied.
So, I would list the actual best phrase to use on men as "come for/inside me" because these two variants seem to be about equally liked.
Here you can see some of the many forum posts with high upvotes totally gushing over this phrase. As you'll notice, there are a number of variations too, but in this case variation and elaboration don't seem to be necessary.
One word I forgot to mention is "please." If I had to pick a single sexiest word (rather than a phrase) to use on men it would probably be this.
A few closing tips before I give the TLDR. Uniqueness isn't important. Generic phrases work consistently and can be used repeatedly, so there's no need to complexify. Vocal tone matters. For voice instructions, read the section in DISPELLING BEAUTY LIES that I'll link at the end.
So, here's a quick-and-dirty summary of the four best phrases to use on men.
Please reply with your feedback to this analysis, if you have any good ideas or corrections I will update the section. Link to voice and vocalization examples below. Study hard, girls!
Experience teaches me that only about five women will pay attention to this thread (three will write that I changed their lives). So what we need now is for Sydney Sweeney to say "come for me" live on the red carpet. At the current rate of progress I expect this late next year.
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To simplify, immodesty progressed in three main stages.
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