Thread by @Sanilac_J

MAGIC WORDS TO USE ON MEN

What phrases turn men on the most? This updated version of my definitely-not-PG13 thread will tell you the answer. Many thanks to my readers for their feedback and suggestions.

Most lists of lewd phrases are either a random selection, or the author's personal favorites. The list of top phrases I'll give you here is going to be better and more trustworthy, because it's neither of those things.

Yes, this thread is full of lewd phrases. But, in a SCIENCEY way.

I started off by asking AI to analyze the most common lewd phrases found in:

1. erotica for men, and
2. discussion on internet forums

Here are the two top lists of lewd phrases as determined by AI analysis. When a phrase appears on both lists it's a safe bet that men like it.

That said, AI isn't very reliable. It got the order wrong, missed some good phrases, and didn't identify when elaboration and variation help the most.

So, I went wading in to learn more. Turns out the most potent phrases and the most common phrases aren't quite the same. For instance, "don't stop" is one of the most common phrases everyone uses, and of course it works. But it's not especially POTENT for creating excitement.

According to further AI analysis of men's reactions, "come for me/come inside me" is the most potent single phrase.

I waded into the darkest corners of the internet and found men repeatedly gushing over this phrase. Not only was it one of the most popular phrases, but also the most upvoted with the most positive replies.

There's a big debate over whether "come for me" or "come inside me" is preferable. My best guess based on analyzing discussion is that "for" is a safer default phrase to use on most men. But, some strongly prefer "inside."

As I mentioned above, this phrase is harder to use than most because it needs to be reserved for the right moment. While they are indeed magic words, this makes them less generally useful than you might hope.

So, let's look at some other great phrases that are high on the list.

"It's so big" makes both of the AI-analysis frequency lists. It also appeared often in my own examination of discussion and reaction to lewd phrases. However, what I learned is that this phrase is USUALLY a bad idea.

Men like compliments, but it's both safer and better to compliment BEHAVIOR you're enjoying.

Ok. Are you ready to go deeper?

I'm going to excerpt more of the most-upvoted, most gushed-over phrases. Oftentimes these are more specific and elaborate than the simplified versions on the AI list.

Men seem ESPECIALLY KEEN on verbal initiation of fellatio. And of all the possible ways to initiate it, the top example here is likely the best. With the right tone of voice these magic words have guaranteed results.

I've already explained in this linked section of DISPELLING BEAUTY LIES why initiating it yourself instead of waiting for requests is so important.

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The most obvious phrase usually requires a little variation. Some examples in the next post.

First phrase listed here is one of the best. Implying ownership seems to increase the potency of lewd phrases.

Here's a random selection of a few more winners.

One important thing I learned from studying men's experiences is that announcing your climax too far in advance is usually bad: it tends to cause an interruption of the rhythm. Instead say "don't stop" until you're really going.

"Please~" is the sexiest single word to use on men because it expresses insistent desire and submissiveness at the same time. "Yes" is good, but not nearly as potent as "please." With the right vocal tone, "please" is enough for you to conquer the world.

Any form of begging gets a great result. Sometimes this is as simple as adding the word "please" to the phrases we've already seen! Or, you can just say that one word. It doesn't get any simpler than that.

Before I get to the summary list of the best phrases I'll share a few more that were sent to me by readers while I was revising this section of DISPELLING BEAUTY LIES.

Final note: nobody's expecting you to read Shakespeare here. It's okay and even good to keep it simple.

THE TOP EIGHT MAGIC WORDS TO USE ON MEN

(As a reminder, this list is derived from a combination of AI analysis of frequency in erotica for men and forum upvotes, and my own analysis of men's reactions in discussion. Not just my own opinion on some random words. Certainly the best concise list you're going to find!)

In closing, I want to emphasize how important vocal tone is. The right tone really magnifies the effect of magic words. For instructions and audio examples of vocal tone, see the "Sounds and Voices" section of DISPELLING BEAUTY LIES. Link below.

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By the way - have you shared the DISPELLING BEAUTY LIES podcast with your friends yet? Don't worry, our first season is a LOT tamer than this thread!

There's never been a better time...

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