Most people default to London, Barcelona, or Amsterdam for their kids. Great cities. Also: €2,500/month for a 3BR in Amsterdam. £15K/year school fees in London. Per child.
A friend of mine, well-known author, just moved his family from Lisbon to Genoa. Nobody saw that coming. His reason: the food, the proximity to France, one of Europe's best pediatric hospitals.
That conversation sent me down a rabbit hole.
7 cities where your family will actually thrive, usually not that considered, that I'd opt in for myself.
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I took the cities my friends with families like the most and re-assessed with some criteria.
What I looked at for each:
- Safety and walkability
- International schools (quality + real cost)
- Pediatric healthcare
- Monthly budget for a family of 4
- Parental leave and childcare
- Outdoor life, beach and mountain access
- The honest downsides worth mentioning
The output is the below list: not just places to park your family. But places where kids can grow up well and you can actually enjoy life too.
Let's go.
1/ Valencia, Spain 🇪🇸
Population: 824,000
Family of 4 budget: €2,500–3,500/month
3BR rent: €1,200–1,800
Valencia is one of my favorites. Many people consider it, but somehow not too many mention it online.
Same beach as Barcelona. Same weather. Better paella (this is literally where it was invented). A fraction of the price.
City of Arts & Sciences. 9 km Turia Gardens park built on a former riverbed. Kids cycling everywhere. Parents having wine at outdoor terraces while the kids play.
One of the lowest crime indexes in Spain. Safer than Barcelona, safer than Madrid.
Schools: American School of Valencia (IB, €5K–20K/year), British School of Valencia (IB, ~€11K/year), Caxton College, Cambridge House. Serious options at every level.
Spain just expanded parental leave to 19 weeks per parent at 100% salary (32 weeks for single parents). One of Europe's best.
Hospital La Fe is a top public facility. Private pediatric care: €50–80/visit.
The expat family community here is real and growing. Play groups, school WhatsApp chats, international parent meetups. You won't feel alone.
Beach: 10 min. Alicante: 2 hrs. Madrid: 4 hrs. Ibiza: 1 hr flight.
Downsides: Spanish bureaucracy is real (55% of expats frustrated with paperwork). You need Spanish, English is limited outside tourist areas. Job market thin for non-Spanish speakers. Rent rising 6–8% yearly.
But for a Mediterranean city with this infrastructure, this safety, this lifestyle, at half Barcelona's price? Valencia is the single strongest play on this list.
2/ Bordeaux, France 🇫🇷
Population: 274,000 (metro: 1M+)
Family of 4 budget: €3,300–4,500/month
3BR rent: €1,200–1,800
I'll be honest, Bordeaux surprised me when I started looking at it through a family lens.
Wine capital of the world. UNESCO World Heritage city. Atlantic surf. TGV to Paris in 2 hours. You can live the French life without the Parisian stress.
Significantly cheaper than Paris (rent alone is ~40% less). Every bit as beautiful. Arguably more liveable with kids. The Miroir d'Eau turns into a giant splash pad in summer and the kids go absolutely wild.
Schools: Bordeaux International School (bilingual, ages 3–18, €8K–18K/year). International School 33 (IB, French/English/Spanish/Chinese immersion).
Hôpital Pellegrin-Enfants: 225-bed children's hospital, 15,000 pediatric surgeries/year. Regional referral center for 6 million people. This alone makes Bordeaux a serious family pick.
France's family benefits are among the best in the world. From 2026: each parent gets 2 extra months paid leave on top of 16 weeks maternity + 28 days paternity.
Atlantic beaches: 45 min. Basque Country: 2 hrs. Spain: 2 hrs. Dune du Pilat (Europe's largest sand dune): day trip. Weekend surf trips become a family ritual.
Downsides: You need French, non-negotiable. Winter is rainy (it's the Atlantic). No metro, you'll want a car. Housing market competitive. French bureaucracy is legendary.
But for a UNESCO city with world-class wine, surf, a top children's hospital, and a 2-hour train to Paris? Bordeaux is the coolest family city nobody's talking about.
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Population: 843,000 (metro: 1.8M)
Family of 4 budget: €2,500–3,500/month
3BR rent: €800–1,100
As I recently discussed, Turin is truly underrated. 1 hour by high-speed train from Milan and yet a completely different city.
The Alps are RIGHT THERE. Food capital of Italy, slow food movement was born right here in Piedmont. Fiat, Lavazza, Nutella, all Turin.
50 parks. 320 km of tree-lined avenues. The most green space of any Italian city. Way cheaper than Milan. And honestly? More liveable and real.
Schools: International School of Turin (IB + American diploma, since 1963). World International School of Torino (IB, €8,300–18,800/year). Lycée Français. Vittoria International. Four solid international options for a city this affordable is unusual.
Ospedale Infantile Regina Margherita: one of Italy's oldest and largest pediatric hospitals.
Italy's assegno unico: up to €175/month per child. Parental leave extended to 14 months in 2026, with 80% salary for 3 months. Daycare subsidies expanding.
Saturday mornings? You're at a farmers market with some of the best produce in Europe. Sunday? Skiing with the kids. That's the Turin life.
Ski slopes: 1.5 hrs. Milan: 1 hr (high-speed train). Geneva: 3 hrs. French Alps via Fréjus Tunnel: 2 hrs.
Downsides: Po Valley winters are cold, damp, and grey. Fog is real. City can feel disconnected from the rest of Italy. Italian bureaucracy. Nighttime safety uneven in some areas.
But for a city with the Alps at your back, the best food in Italy, world-class schools, and rent under €1,000? Turin is the gritty-cool Italian pick that nobody's making. I keep coming back to it.
4/ Thessaloniki, Greece 🇬🇷
Population: 816,000 (metro)
Family of 4 budget: €3,500–4,500/month
3BR rent: €750–1,300
Another one I recently discussed, and I keep rediscovering it. This time as a serious fit for families.
Greece's second city. Mediterranean climate. 7+ km waterfront promenade. Arguably the best food scene in Greece. And Greeks love kids. I mean genuinely love them. Your toddler will be treated like royalty at every taverna.
Everyone looks at the islands or Athens. Thessaloniki is the family play nobody's making.
Schools: Pinewood American International School (Pre-K to Grade 12, €6,600–12,550/year). Anatolia College (IB + American, scholarships up to 100%).
A brand-new SNF University Pediatric Hospital is opening. World-class. LEED Platinum. Full neonatal and pediatric ICU.
Greece offers 17 weeks maternity + 14 days paternity + 4 months parental leave (first 2 months paid).
Halkidiki beaches: 45 min. Mount Olympus: 1.5 hrs. Meteora: 3 hrs. Your weekends look very different here.
Downsides: Greek bureaucracy is paper-heavy and slow. Language barrier is real for admin. Economy is modest, local earning potential limited. Petty theft in center. Some specialists still require Athens.
But for a Mediterranean city with swimmable beaches, a brand-new pediatric hospital, serious schools, and Greek family warmth at this price?
Thessaloniki deserves to be in every conversation.
5/ Málaga, Spain 🇪🇸
Population: 592,000
Family of 4 budget: €2,500–3,500/month
3BR rent: €1,000–1,600
Easy pick. Winning choice.
Picasso's birthplace. 320 days of sunshine. Costa del Sol without the tourist kitsch.
630+ tech companies have opened offices here (including Google). It's becoming Spain's tech hub. But the beach is still 10 minutes away and tapas are still €2. Your partner works from a coworking space with sea views. Your kids are at the beach by 4pm. That's Málaga.
Schools: British School of Málaga (€7,700–10,450/year). NovaSchool Sunland International (British, €6,200–11,450). Sotogrande International (IB full pathway, boarding available).
Hospital Quirónsalud Málaga: top 20 in Spain. HM Málaga: top 5 private hospital nationally. Costa del Sol children's hospital is award-winning.
Same Spanish parental leave: 19 weeks per parent at 100% salary.
Low crime index, one of Spain's safest cities.
Downsides: Overtourism is becoming a real issue and locals are frustrated.
They raise some valid points, and overall mobility and healthy competition among places and cities bring real benefits. Since I’m not from there, I’ll defer to people with deeper local knowledge. On the measurable side, the digital nomad influx is increasing demand for housing, and rents are rising quickly. Beyond the historic center, some neighborhoods feel more modern and uniform.
An English-speaking expat community can also form easily. Learning Spanish helps you connect more deeply and experience the city as locals do.
But for a safe, sunny, affordable city with top healthcare, strong schools, and one of Europe's best-connected airports (150+ direct routes)? Málaga is the open secret that's getting louder. Move before it does.
6/ Bolzano, Italy 🇮🇹
Population: 108,000
Family of 4 budget: €3,000–3,800/month
3BR rent: €1,000–1,400
This is a unique play. And let me tell you why.
Trilingual.
Your kids don't just learn a second language. They grow up thinking in three. Italian at home, German at school (or vice versa), English as a third. That's the default here. Not a private school perk. The default.
Officially bilingual: Italian AND German. Surrounded by the Dolomites. Autonomous province with its own budget. Italy without the chaos. It's called South Tyrol.
And it actually works.
South Tyrol is Italy's wealthiest province. Infrastructure works. Buses run on time. Healthcare is excellent and efficient. If you've ever said "I love Italy but I wish things actually worked," this is your city.
Schools: Bilingual education is built into the public system. Free. Your kids come out bilingual with strong English as a mandatory third language. Without paying a cent in tuition.
Italy's assegno unico PLUS South Tyrol's additional regional family support. Subsidized childcare. Free school meals in many municipalities.
Downsides: Cost is higher than the rest of Italy (Alpine premium). You need both Italian AND German to fully integrate. Culture is more Austrian than Italian, if you want la dolce vita, look south. Housing supply is tight. And it's small. 108,000 people small.
But for an Alpine city where your kids grow up with three languages, the Dolomites outside your window, and infrastructure that actually functions? Nothing else in Europe compares. That's why it's the wildcard.
7/ Genoa, Italy 🇮🇹
Population: 565,000
Family of 4 budget: €3,200–4,200/month
3BR rent: €900–1,400
Genoa is the blindspot I myself had before chatting with my friend. He's a well-known author, moving his family from Lisbon to Genoa. When I asked why, he said: the food, the port energy, the proximity to France. Truly underrated.
A Mediterranean port city with real character, incredible pesto and focaccia culture, and the French Riviera 2 hours away.
Not polished. Not touristy. Just deeply, authentically Italian.
Schools: International School of Genoa (IB continuum, ages 2–17, ~€8K–9.5K/year). First IB Continuum school in Liguria. Languages offered: French, Spanish, Mandarin, German on top of English and Italian.
Healthcare: Istituto Gaslini. This is the one. One of Europe's best pediatric hospitals. Nearly 400 beds. 18,000+ hospitalizations a year. JCI certified. Only Italian pediatric hospital with a Da Vinci robotics surgery center. If you have kids, this alone puts Genoa on the map.
Same Italian benefits: assegno unico, 14 months parental leave, expanding daycare subsidies.
Nice: 2.5 hrs. Portofino: 30 min. Cinque Terre: 1.5 hrs. Milan: 1.5 hrs. The Ligurian coast is right there.
Downsides: Traffic and parking are painful (steep, narrow streets). Limited direct international flights (27 routes, you'll connect through Rome or Milan for long haul). English is limited in daily life. Job market thin for expats. Some areas to avoid at night.
But for a Mediterranean port city with Europe's best pediatric hospital, an IB school, the Riviera next door, and a cost of living well below Milan or Rome?
Genoa is the pick that insiders are making quietly. My friend included.
The comparative picture:
- Best overall value: Valencia (lifestyle + cost + safety + infrastructure)
- Coolest lifestyle: Bordeaux (wine + surf + TGV to Paris)
- Best food city: Turin (slow food capital, fight me)
- Best beach access: Málaga or Thessaloniki
- Best for trilingual kids: Bolzano (Italian + German + English by default)
- Best healthcare: Genoa (Gaslini, one of Europe's best pediatric hospitals)
- Best parental leave: Valencia/Málaga (Spain's 19 weeks at 100% salary)
Who should consider each:
REMOTE WORKERS WITH YOUNG KIDS:
→ Valencia (safe, walkable, affordable, beach)
→ Turin (cheap, green, Alps, great schools)
SUN AND SEA FAMILIES:
→ Málaga (320 days of sunshine, beach in 10 min)
→ Thessaloniki (Halkidiki 45 min, Mediterranean warmth)
FAMILIES WHO WANT CULTURE + COOL:
→ Bordeaux (wine, surf, UNESCO, TGV to Paris)
→ Genoa (port city soul, pesto, Riviera next door)
FAMILIES OPTIMIZING FOR EDUCATION:
→ Bolzano (trilingual by default, free)
→ Turin (4 international schools, IB options)
If I had to pick ONE city from this list for you?
Valencia.
Safe. Warm. Affordable. Beach in 10 minutes. Turia Gardens for the kids. Paella for dinner. Spain's best parental leave. Growing tech scene. International schools at every level.
Not glamorous enough to be overrun. Not obscure enough to lack infrastructure.
But since I'm Italian, personally? I'd take Genoa.
Valencia is amazing for many. Genoa is the one that speaks to me.
Of course, three important rules before relocating with your family:
1. Visit in WINTER with your kids. If it works in February, it works all year. 2. Talk to parents already there. Not bloggers. Not influencers. Parents. 3. Facebook groups. School WhatsApp chats. That's where the truth lives.
This Easter, most families will go back to planning a 2-week holiday to the same overcrowded spots.
A few will start planning something bigger.
The best cities for growing a family aren't trending. They're just underratedly excellent.
And this was just Part 1.
I've got a Part 2 coming with 7 more cities that almost made this list.
Some of them might surprise you even more
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Dozens of parents wrote in with the cities I'd missed.
Almost none of them were Mediterranean. I'm Italian, I love the Med, that's why Part 1 leaned south. The parents pulled me north.
7 more European cities where families actually thrive. Cheaper than London. Better schools than your hometown.
And one of them might be the most surprising city on either list.
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Same method as Part 1. I called friends actually living in these places, asked the parents from the DMs to walk me through their daily life, then cross-checked everything against the data:
- Safety and walkability
- International schools (quality + real cost)
- Pediatric healthcare
- Monthly budget for a family of 4
- Parental leave and childcare
- Outdoor life, beach and mountain access
- The honest downsides nobody mentions
Same rule too: underrated only. Otherwise I'd just be telling you to move to Switzerland.
Less sunshine. More infrastructure...
Let's go.
1/ Porto, Portugal 🇵🇹
Population: 230,000 (metro 1.3M)
Family of 4 budget: €4,000–5,000/month
3BR rent: €1,800–2,800
Full disclosure: I know Porto well. We have offices there and I spend a meaningful amount of time in the city. So this one isn't desk research, it's lived experience.
The cheapest serious city on either list. And it's not even close.
Everyone moved to Lisbon. Porto stayed itself.
Atlantic on one side, Douro Valley on the other, port wine cellars across the river in Vila Nova de Gaia. The food is heavier, the people warmer, the rent half of Lisbon's.
The wider Porto area is genuinely incredible. Matosinhos with its seafood and surf beaches. Vila Nova de Gaia with the wine cellars. Foz at sunset.
Porto also has my favorite restaurant in the world. I won't name it here, otherwise this whole thread reads like a sponsored post.
There are European countries that keep coming up in conversations but NEVER go mainstream.
A friend moved to Cluj, Romania 10 years ago. I didn't get it for a long time.
Italian friends recently moved to Albania to open ice cream shops. Crazy as that would have sounded 20 years ago.
I selected 7 underrated European countries, with specific cities to make it tangible, plus a bonus, that have a real chance of emerging in the coming years.
One will likely surprise you
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I won't be covering Portugal or Spain or alike. Everyone knows about those.
These are the countries that offer real tax advantages, lower cost of living, strong infrastructure, and genuine quality of life.
Yet almost nobody talks about them.
Let's begin:
1/ This is Cluj-Napoca, Romania:
- 1% tax on micro-company revenue (under €100K)
- Salary from foreign employers for work performed abroad: tax-exempt for residents
- Gigabit fiber internet for €9/month
- Growing tech hub with a serious engineering ecosystem
Total monthly budget: €1,200-1,500
My friend moved here when the micro-company revenue cap was €250K.
Today the cap dropped to €100K, but the rate is still 1%. I thought he was crazy. He saw something the rest of us didn't.
Rural Europe is going to become a lifestyle destination for millions, not just Europeans.
Thousands of historic towns sitting half-empty. Stone houses for €30-80K. Solid houses built for generations, realistically yours for under €200K. Often with incredible tax regimes.
The two things that were missing: internet and services. Starlink fixed the first. And these aren't the rural areas of the 90s, many towns close to larger cities are now perfectly served. People are moving back.
This is my "Starlink guide" to rural Europe: 10 places I'm considering for living or investment myself.
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First, why Europe? Because nowhere else has 2,000 years of micro-cultures compressed into a continent the size of the US.
800-1,200 year-old communities, each with its own dialect, cuisine, architecture.
I moved to the beach outside Lisbon and proved it to myself.
You build your own fortress, everything changes.
I mapped 10 places I'd consider myself.
Here's what I found.
1/ INTERIOR ALGARVE, PORTUGAL
If I wasn't near Lisbon, I'd be in the Algarve. No question. Warm climate. Huge international community, especially British. Some of the best sport and fitness centers in southern Europe.
A friend is opening a hotel there in April. I go down frequently. It's the easiest transition for anyone coming from northern Europe.
Interior Algarve is where the real value is. Move 15km inland and prices collapse while quality of life stays world-class.
Best for: Northern Europeans wanting sun + community. Families. Crypto holders.
Drawback: Car essential. Seasonal tourism. Portuguese bureaucracy.
I'm Italian. After my thread on Italy's hidden cities blew up, a close French friend called me.
"You did Italy. Now do France. But don't embarrass yourself, let me 'elp."
We spent a weekend going back and forth. He'd suggest a city, I'd research it. I'd push back, he'd prove me wrong. By Sunday night, we had a list.
7 hidden cities in France that most people, including most French, will never think to visit, let alone move to.
No crowds. No tourist markup. Insane quality of life.
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France has 34,875 communes. Tourists visit maybe 20.
The cities on this list are genuinely incredible. Where wealthy French people peacefully live their best lives, completely off the radar.
For each one, I broke down property prices, nearest airport, population, who it's actually for, and the honest downsides you should be aware of.
7 cities I'd personally relocate to. Data on every single one:
1/ BAYONNE, The Basque-French Crossroads
This is where France meets the Basque Country, and neither side won.
Two rivers. A Gothic cathedral. Half-timbered houses painted oxblood red and forest green. The kind of food culture that makes Lyon jealous.
My French friend grew up near here. One thing he always says: "Everyone goes to Biarritz. Nobody looks 7 km inland." He's right. Biarritz is the show. But Bayonne is the substance. The food is better, the people are more real, and you'll pay a fraction of the price.
Population: 51,400. This is a proper city, not a resort town.
€3,500-4,000/sqm. Compare that to Biarritz next door at €9,000-10,000/sqm.
I'm Italian. I wrote about 7 hidden cities in Italy. Since then, one thought has been haunting me. I missed one.
A city my trusted CLO is from. We've worked together for over a decade. In all that time, I don't think he's ever used a word more than strictly necessary. Centered, sober, elegantly precise.
The opposite of what you naturally associate to Italian cities.
Turin.
This is why it's the most underrated big city in Italy
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First, the historical context.
Turin was Italy's first capital from 1861 to 1865. Before Rome. Before Florence. The House of Savoy built it like a European capital, not an Italian town.
Grand boulevards. Baroque palaces. 18km of arcaded porticos. The Alps visible from your window on a clear day.
As a Roman, I felt it every time I went there. People speak quietly. Restaurants don't shout at you from the street. Nobody's performing.
Everything is measured.
What most people don't know: Turin invented more of what we call Italian culture than almost anywhere else.
Vermouth, 1786. The whole aperitivo tradition.
Gianduja, which became Nutella when Napoleonic blockades forced chocolatiers to mix cocoa with Piedmont hazelnuts. Pietro Ferrero made it spreadable in 1946.
The Slow Food movement. The first Eataly, opened in a former vermouth factory in 2007.
The Egyptian Museum here is the second largest after Cairo. The Mole Antonelliana houses the National Cinema Museum.
The Royal Palace complex is UNESCO World Heritage.
Over dinner, old friends and I started arguing about the same thing we always argue about: which cities in Italy are genuinely incredible but nobody ever talks about?
We went back and forth for hours. By the end of the night, we had a list.
7 hidden cities that most people, including most Italians, will never think to visit, let alone move to.
No crowds. No tourist markup. Insane quality of life.
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Italy has 7,904 municipalities. Tourists visit maybe 15.
These aren't "cheap places to test it out." They're cities where wealthy Italians live their best lives, completely off the radar.
For each one, I broke down property prices, nearest airport, population, who it's actually for, and the honest downsides you should be aware of.
7 cities I'd personally relocate to. Data on every single one:
1/ TRIESTE, The Central European Hybrid
This isn't a typical Italian city. It's Vienna by the sea.
Habsburg architecture, historic literary cafés (Joyce wrote Ulysses here), and a vibe that's half Austrian, half Mediterranean.
I have a close friend from the area. One thing that always struck me: people in Trieste are always impeccably dressed. There's an elegance there you don't find in other Italian cities. It's the Viennese influence.
Understated, refined.
Population: 198,000. This is a REAL city, not a village.