What stayed with me for 20+ years was the radiant smile of a young man with no arms or legs.
In America, we often hide what does not fit the image of success, beauty, or independence.
But his presence was not erased.
He was fully present and radiant.
My lesson:
To be human is not to be flawless. It's to remain whole inside what cannot be fixed.
5. Pain can be sacred when it is held by community.
A cow sits at the entrance of Vishwanath Gali -- a famous market in Varanasi.
But, this is no ordinary cow.
He's utterly helpless, with two front legs bent in a manner that makes it impossible for him to walk.
Yet, he's fed, bathed, and adorned with flowers daily.
My lesson:
We are divinely held, whether we know it or not.
6. Ritual builds a life of meaning.
In India, meaning was not debated.
It was practiced.
Flames.
Flowers.
Touching the river.
Walking to the temple.
Ritual placed the ordinary inside the sacred.
My lesson:
Without ritual, modern life becomes psychological homelessness.
7. Sacred immersion changes consciousness.
In Rishikesh, I crossed Lakshman Jhula and stepped into the Ganges.
Sand between my toes. Cold water washing over my body.
You don’t think about meaning there.
You feel it.
In America, most spaces are built for speed, convenience, and consumption.
Very few are built to slow the soul.
My lesson:
You need to be held by something older than your thoughts.
8. Uncertainty can open the soul.
On one visit, I was invited to a Palkhi festival in the jungles of Maharashtra.
I was 1 of 3 Westerners in a crowd of 50K+ Indians.
I did not fully understand the language.
The movement of the crowd.
The devotion around me.
Wild monkeys moved through the jungle.
My mind could not organize it.
So I had to let the experience carry me.
My lesson:
Not everything in life can be understood in advance.
Sometimes we have to trust the rhythm of what we are living.
The 8 lessons India taught me:
1. Death makes life sacred. 2. The body knows before the mind. 3. Beauty carries meaning. 4. Disfigurement does not erase dignity. 5. Pain can be held by the sacred. 6. Ritual gives life structure. 7. Immersion returns us to ancient time. 8. Uncertainty opens the soul.
India did not teach me to think harder.
It taught me to feel life more deeply.
This is what I brought back from India:
The analytical mind is powerful.
But it is not the whole psyche.
There is another intelligence inside us:
• the creative brain
• the symbolic brain
• the imaginal brain
On May 26th at 7:30 PM EST, I’m teaching a free webinar on how to use the creative brain to lower anxiety and overthinking.
Dr. Michael Breus is one of the world’s leading sleep experts.
In his latest podcast with Steven Bartlett, he revealed 7 surprising sleep truths that explain why your mind attacks you at 3 a.m.—and how to stop carrying that anxiety into your day.
1. Don’t go to the bathroom at 3 a.m.
Breus explains that middle-of-the-night waking is tied to biology:
temperature shifts, stress and nervous system activation.
The problem is what happens NEXT.
Most anxious high-achievers, let their analytical mind dominate.
They try to foce sleep.
And, the more you control sleep, the more awake you become.
That leads to the 2nd big surprise ...
2. The analytical brain cannot sleep you.
This is the part most people miss.
The same brain that writes lists, checks metrics, plans responses, solves problems, and scans for threat…