I'm a Harvard-trained psychologist

When I finished my Ph.D, I traveled to Tibet to fulfill my dream of crossing the Himalaya

After years of working with the Tibetan and Dalai Lama, I've collected some timeless wisdom the West has forgotten.

These 5 ideas will change your life: I worked for the Dalai Lama, advocating for Tibetans through Amnesty International.

I also met my husband at Tibet House NYC, and a Rinpoche blessed our union in our backyard.

The Tibetans have a special place in my heart.

Here're 5 valuable lessons they've taught me:

I'm a 63-year-old Harvard psychologist who studied consciousness with the Dalai Lama.

After 40 years treating patients, I finally understood something profound:

Your imagination is the ultimate solution to your anxiety, stress and depression.

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"Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world."

— Albert Einstein

As a Harvard psychologist who worked with the Dalai Lama, I learned…

Why, despite horrendous traumas, the Tibetans are immune to anxiety, chronic stress, and the depression epidemics...

Here's the ancient wisdom Western medicine is hiding from you:

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Mental illness is a silent killer in Western society:

• 78% report daily anxiety.
• 1 in 3 are chronically lonely.
• Depression tripled since 2020.

These trends are mostly in young adults (18-29) and the elderly (65+).

They are staggering.

The most glorified and encouraged mental illness millions are suffering:

Chronic Lying.

It's literally destroying your brain, relationships, and even causing Alzheimer's.

Here's the science behind humanity's favorite addiction: 🧵 First, let's be clear what lying actually is.

A lie isn't just an untruth.

For centuries, people taught their children the earth was the center of the universe. That wasn't a lie—they believed it.

For something to be a lie, you must KNOW it's false.

The most dangerous, oddly glorified, yet overlooked problem in the world:

Chronic Procrastination.

It's why you're stressed, anxious, depressed, and your immune system is in chaos.

Here's Andrew Huberman's 7-step protocol to escape the prison of procrastination: 🧵 First, let's understand what's really happening in your brain.

Procrastination isn't laziness or weakness.

It's a dopamine problem.

Huberman discovered that without sufficient baseline dopamine, you literally CAN'T feel motivated—no matter how hard you try.

The most powerful experiment about the human mind:

The Skinner Box.

It's the true root cause why 97% of people are anxious, depressed and feel trapped in life...

Here's how to tell if you're like this rat and a 5-step protocol to break free today: 🧵 B.F. Skinner arrived just before WWII with a radical claim:

Emotions and inner experience were irrelevant to science.

To him, you had no free will—just programmed responses, listen to this:

Your doctor won't tell you this about anxiety, stress, and depression...

They are not a brain problem. It's not a mental health issue.

It's your GUT-MIND connection.

Here are 5 ways to stop your gut from sabotaging your mental health (backed by science): 🧵 First, meet your "second brain":

Your gut contains 100 million nerve cells - as many as your spinal cord.

This massive neural network controls not just digestion, but your emotions, stress levels, and even decision-making.

Scientists call it your "enteric nervous system."

The Native Americans had a word that could heal anxiety naturally:

"Hakomi"

In 1970, Ron Kurtz turned this ancient wisdom into one of the most powerful therapy methods ever.

Here's the protocol: 🧵
While psychiatrists were prescribing pills for anxiety in the 1970s, Ron Kurtz made a radical discovery:

The body holds trauma that talk therapy can't touch.

His search for answers led him to Native American healing traditions.

I'm 63.

I'm a Harvard-trained psychologist who works with ultra-successful individuals...

And I hate to tell you, but the cost of overthinking and anxiety is the life you could have lived.

Here's the 3-step protocol that actually works: 🧵
Procrastination...

It's not laziness. It's dopamine desensitization.

Your brain needs increasingly intense stimulation to feel rewarded.

That's why checking email feels better than deep work.

And why can't you focus without your phone buzzing nearby?

Modern therapy is built on a 17th-century lie...

Philosopher Descartes said: 'I think, therefore I am.'

But Vico said: "Imagination creates reality."

As a psychologist who spent over 40 years to healing the mind, here's what most therapists won't tell you: 🧵 For 400 years, Western culture has worshipped at the altar of Descartes.

"I think, therefore I am."

We've built therapy on this foundation: analyze your thoughts, understand your patterns, and think your way out.

But what if Descartes was catastrophically wrong?

No matter how much you spend on therapy and pills...

You're still anxious and stressed 24/7.

It's called "Self-Abandonment Syndrome" & millions suffer silently.

After 40 years of healing clients, here's what's happening & a 3-step protocol to unblock your mind: 🧵 Every time you hesitate before speaking your truth, it's not shyness.

Your nervous system is protecting you from an ancient wound. In my practice, I see this pattern daily.

Your body remembers when authenticity meant losing love.

When I was young...

My mind was a prison.
I made horrible decisions.
Anxiety trapped me for years.

Then, I found Søren Kierkegaard's teaching, and it became impossible to be trapped, stressed, or anxious.

Here's his 4-step protocol to unlocking mental freedom: 🧵- At age 21, Kierkegaard watched his 5th sibling die.

By 30, he was engaged to the love of his life and set to become Denmark's most prominent theologian.

Then he did something that stunned Copenhagen society...

I'm 63.

When I was young, I wasted years lost, anxious, and depressed…

Then I found Friedrich Nietzsche's "3 Metamorphoses", and it literally reprogrammed my reality.

This took me 40 years to realize. I'll teach you in 2 minutes: 🧵
Nietzsche believes we are one of the 3 Metamorphoses of the Human Spirit:

• Lion
• Child
• Camel

Here's what each means, and why they matter:

The man who heals what therapy can't:

Ramana Maharshi.

At 16, he discovered a method so simple yet profound that anxiety, depression, and suffering vanish when you truly understand it.

Here's his 5-step approach to absolute inner peace: 🧵 At age 16, he was a normal teenager in South India when something extraordinary happened:

A sudden, intense fear of death gripped him.

Instead of running from it, he did something that would change the course of spiritual psychology forever...

This man who heals what doctors can't:

Jiddu Krishnamurti.

It's impossible to be psychologically trapped, stressed, or anxious after understanding his teachings.

Here's his 5-step approach to unlocking mental freedom: 🧵 At age 14, the Theosophical Society declared Krishnamurti the next World Teacher.

By 27, he was set to lead one of the largest spiritual organizations in the world.

Then he did something that shocked everyone...

HOT TAKE:

Traditional therapy is a SCAM for 99% of high-achievers.

I've spent over 20 years as a Harvard-trained psychologist helping CEOs & founders worth $100M+.

They were all suffering from the same ONE problem.

Here's the protocol I created that actually works: 🧵
Most of my clients are accomplished professionals — dentists, doctors, and company founders with impressive careers.

Despite their success, they struggle with overthinking and procrastination, they can't seem to shake it.

But why?

Your anxiety didn’t start in adulthood.
It started when you became "The Good One."

People-pleasing is harmful.
It rewires your brain and fractures your sense of self.

Here's what most therapists won't tell you.
This is important. Please open 🧵 Being a people pleaser is an adaptation that hides your true self.

Over time, people-pleasing:

1. Reshapes your brain for survival.
2. Destroys your sense of identity.
3. Sets you up for chronic anxiety.

Here’s what you were never told:

Emotional intelligence is a superpower.

After 30+ years as a Harvard psychologist, I can spot people with high emotional intelligence (EQ) in 30 seconds.

It's not about being nice or controlling emotions.

They share these 12 traits... 🧵 1/ They feel emotions without becoming them.

When anger arises, they notice: "I'm experiencing anger."
Not: "I AM angry."

This tiny linguistic shift represents massive neural rewiring.

They have emotions. Emotions don't have them.

I'm 63.

At 10, I began my 53-year study of ancient Eastern texts—Kashmir Shaivism, Vedanta, and Buddhist sutras...

What I discovered? Most Western "gurus" are reselling kindergarten versions of Eastern philosophies.

Here are my 7 best insights from a lifetime of spiritual work:🧵
1. Consciousness Creates vs. Consciousness Observes

Modern day: "Consciousness means being aware of the present moment."

vs

Ancient texts: "Consciousness is the creative force that manifests all reality."

This changes everything about how you practice.

I'm 63.

I've spent over 20 years as a Harvard-trained psychologist helping high performers inlcuding CEOs & founders worth $100M+.

They all face one similar issue.

If you're burnt out, stressed, and your immune system is always in chaos, read this: 🧵 In my PhD program at University of Texas Austin, I discovered the mind isn't just thoughts...

It's a whole system that includes your body, emotions, and nervous system...

This insight has helped my highest-performing clients recover from burnout when nothing else worked.

Modern medicine is built on a 2,000-year-old mistranslation.

103-year-old Dr. McGarey discovered this after Gandhi changed her life with a single glance.

She spent 70+ years proving why 90% of healing happens without drugs.

Here's the secret doctors won't tell you: 🧵 This is 1930s India.

A train departing for Bombay.

A 10-year-old American girl presses her face against the window, grieving her departure from the only home she's known.

Then she sees him, Gandhi, leading a crowd, carrying only a staff.