I cannot understand weddings right now. I cannot. If being legally married matters to you for sex and you can’t wait a second longer go get a document at a courthouse and suck off your partner. If legality isn’t the issue then fucking why wouldn’t you want to WAIT?
I know about deposits. But that’s a sunk cost. You cannot get the money back by having a shitty half-full wedding where you spread Corona.
I usually try my hardest to be as generous as possible and assume there are circumstances I don’t know about. But a wedding is just a party. (A marriage is not and is bigger). Anyone having a party right now is a selfish prick.
The loss of a future/a goal/a long term dream/a plan is SAD and worth grieving over. So the same way you would allow yourself sadness and fear and messiness in grief over death, allow yourself it for this.
I think the next part is to try to tease out what is and is not lost. There are some good things still. There is work to do still. There are people to help and aunts to call and spaghetti dinners to eat. Not everything is lost and not everything will be.
A lot of people are finally waking up to the likelihood that their lives will not go like their parents’ lives went, and it’s very hard to let go of that expectation. I also think a lot of people already knew that and are at a later/different stage of grief.
Like babe we’re not getting mortgages and children and college educations and Roth IRAs. Sorry but you’re not gonna be 60 years old talking about your new hardwood floors with your best friends on the back patio.
I feel like personally I did a lot of grieving about 6 years ago when I realized how bad the climate change situation is and I had to let go of a LOT of personal and professional goals and it SUCKED ASS
It’s weird when people who are white, cis, straight, able bodied and relatively well off talk about moving out of America. Like your rights are relatively unchanged. The problem is people worse off than you...That doesn’t disappear if you move to Canada.
Like if you feel ok living in Canada or Europe or wherever without a care for people in america whose rights ARE being threatened, then you should be fine living here and ignoring the issue. Is your problem SEEING this stuff happen??
This is not to say that there aren’t many many people whose lives would be improved abroad for a whole host of reasons (health care, basic rights, less white supremacy or white supremacy with less militarization). But so many people talking about leaving are not even effected!
I used to throw it around too!!! But then someone explained that the companies that are on that list are mostly fossil fuel companies and when INDIVIDUALS use their products (ie drive cars, take cruises, fly, etc) the study counted that as emissions from the corporation
Which is... misleading.
Again!!! I would like most corporations to be broken up and for all the people involved to b*rn in h*ll. But there WILL need to be individual sacrifice. People will HAVE TO change their diets. People will HAVE TO use less oil.
you are not the editor of other people’s timeline. you’re the reader. You do not need to point out what they said that is wrong. Life is so much better for everyone around you when you stop being a cunt.
Look I used to be a big twat who corrected people on minor things like lesser/fewer, among/between, was/were and guess what!!!!! It did NOTHING other than shame and belittle people. No one thought better of me.
So when I got to HIGH SCHOOL, I stopped.
Anyone who does the whole “I’m going to correct you in the replies as a joke” bit gets muted. That’s my rule.
I HAVE TRIED TO INCLUDE A PHOTO IN THIS TWEET LIKE 493,248,204 TIMES AND @SubstackInc IS STILL NOT LETTING ME I DON'T KNOW ANYMORE JUST READ THE ARTICLE HERE ARE PHOTOS I TRIED TO ATTACH
Frankly it's a bit frustrating that some men have kind of willfully misunderstood what is and is not creepy and have, instead of learning to read social cues, decided to say that they simply cannot tell what women think is creepy!!!!
I feel like women especially are told that feeling competitive or insecure about another woman is anti-feminist or means that you’re vapid and petty whereas when men feel competitive it’s talked about more positively.
The truth is we all have people who bring out our most insecure selves simply by existing and it doesn’t make you a bad person for feeling insecure !!!! You just have to be careful what you do with that insecurity/comparison.
One thing which I find equally bewildering and skin-crawlingly creepy is the sheer number of people who believe that it being legal to have sex with someone means that it is appropriate to have sex with that person.
Legality is arbitrary as hell. Nothing makes someone more appropriate to date/fuck on their 18th birthday vs being 17 years and 364 days old.
I just feel like that’s a huge part of the general conversation missing right now. (Not from the Jeffery Epstein situation specifically or anything; that was not 18 year olds anyway). Like you’re still gross if you’re 48 and hitting on a 22 year old. You’re gross.
There is literally no way around the fact that we have to change our personal buying habits in order to survive climate change as a species. People get so caught up in the idea that individuals *shouldn't* have to make changes because it isn't our "fault," that the world warmed.
But it is. It is our fault that we still import SO MUCH from overseas. It is our fault that we demand high quality produce and meat to be constantly and cheaply available.
middle and upper class people HAVE to change their habits. We have to stop taking cruises and flying in planes. We have to stop ordering 18 shirts from Amazon and trying them on at home and then returning a bunch. We have to stop demanding that our stores have 487 cereals.