1. The Lazy-These people live in a state of inertia
They can be âniceâ people, and âgoodâ people, but they will never be successful people in anything.
They live to survive, not thrive
You spend too much time around these people, your energy will start falling to their energy
And they are energy vampires, because youâll always feel obligated to âlift them upâ, but they live to stay stuck, and your efforts will be futile
2. The Venomous-These are the people who live on bitterness, ill will, and resentment
Theyâve got dark hearts, & their core is driven by hate & self loathing
Their motivation comes from getting back at someone, or something. Life is a 0 sum game to them
What is blood in the game? I characterize it this way
Blood in the Game-When you play the game knowing loss is guaranteed, the question is how much. Blood in the game comes down to who can lose the most & remain standing
These games are deadly for most, & require extreme robustness, resources, & pain tolerance
Skin in the Game-When you exposed to risk and the possibility of losing
Soul in the Game-When you are staking your reputation on the game working in your favor. This is the riskiest position arguably, as if you lose, you lose it all.
10 Essential Skills and Principles to Learn in Your 20s
1. Compounding Consistency
What you repeat is what you become, and what repeats is amplified by increasing magnitude the longer you do it
Compounding is when what repeats increases itself, this applies to EVERYTHING
Money
Love
Learning
Skill building
Relationships
The past is ALWAYS building the future. If you can "get" this, the world and everything in it is yours, IF you ACT to make it so
2. Learn how to Learn
Learning is a superpower. Those who can learn quickly, practice readily, and improve at a higher level have an incalculable edge over those who are slow to learn
Learning how to learn is training your thinking, and removing your ego
10 Strategies Skinnyfats Need to Implement (and things to avoid)
1. Fix Your Hormones First
-Your entire lifestyle affects your hormonal health. A lack of sleep, a lousy diet, too much time in front of the computer screen, all are ruining you slowly
Your high sugar, high carb, processed food diet, and especially drinking lots of alcohol, this is going to wreck your health.
High amounts of sugar negatively impacts testosterone, high carbs reduces insulin sensitivity and makes you more prone for fat gain
Drinking lots of beer and dark alcohol also lowers test and increases estrogen. A lack of sleep halves your testosterone further
Setting yourself up for success requires you to take care of yourself first.
If you waste your 20s, you go into your 30s having to make up for lost time
And fixing your past mistakes.
2-Your 20s are the best time to optimize your
Health
Learning
Environment
Social circle
Youâve got the most freedom youâll ever have, & can create a platform of success for the rest of your life, IF you choose to (and act accordingly)
3-Your 20s establish your lifelong habits and practices
Undoing bad habits and starting new ones becomes harder as you get older
This is the decade to sharpen your edge and create a Mode of Being that keeps you continuously improving
1. Progressive Overload-To grow in size and strength, you must view your training as a quest to get stronger over time.
Physical development is a continuum
And you must be Patient in doing this.
2. Prioritize Compound Movements
Squat, deadlifts, presses, rows, and then isolation exercises. Those patterns are the cornerstones of training, and competency must be achieved in them before anything else
3. Master technique and understand the principles behind it
If you lift with poor technique, your results from training will be subpar. and you will injure yourself. Proper technique is based on GRAVITY. Gravity goes straight down. Technique=efficiency
-anxiety
-anger management (and being angry in general)
-comparison complexes
When you spend your life trying to please others, you neglect your own internal mechanisms of self control, expression, and confidence
Men that are pushovers, they've spent their lives being everyone's punching bag
-never been assertive
-never been respected
-angry at people, despite not being worth respecting
-constantly anxious because they've never been the gravity in any situation
I get contacted a lot by young men, some of whom express having anger issues, anxiety issues, people not respecting them
But they are not respectable themselves
Dont lead
Dont represent themselves with strength
Dont communicate well
Dont convey confidence
-I didnât fully believe in the idea, until I started working with people, and people would express outright that they didnât believe they deserved to be better
You ask people to imagine a stronger, healthier, better version of themselves
And theyâre embarrassed to do so,
it feels stupid trying to think about it, shameful even
You dig deep enough, you eventually hit raw emotion
People are ashamed to admit what they want,
Theyâve got a whole hoard of self limiting beliefs in place to protect their ego and inadequacy
Some Notes on building a personal brand I just found from last year
Branding in Real time:
-what actions are being taken?
-what needs to get done?
-what is most pragmatic to do right now?
-what message is being conveyed?
-what is creating momentum?
Growth
-What is the medium?
-Go to where the people are
-Presence-message X proliferation =growth
-Content, someway somehow some form, what is your content?
Personal/Professional Development
-What do you need to be learning?
-Strengths?
-Weaknesses?
-Opportunities?
-Traps?
I moved back home with my parents over a year ago after an ex girlfriend convinced me it was the only way to start over (I was in a bad position financially)
I did not want to at all, as it felt like failure
But sometimes we need to be humbled
I moved out this week, got my own apartment entirely to myself in the exact neighborhood I wanted to live in,
Life is at an all time high
I worked relentlessly the past 18 months to rebuild myself
Being fully independent is wholly gratifying
Some of you gentleman have asked me what I think of âliving at homeâ
If you maximize the advantages of it, go for it
But do NOT do it to lapse into comfort
I was in monk mode the past year, the goal was always to get back out
1. The divide between world reality and collegiate education had continued to widen. Campuses are ideological safe spaces policed by weak people who are slaves to SJW ideology. Campuses are dystopian reeducation
2. College teaches you to follow a narrative
There's no sense of personal leadership truly, a degree is a done for you plan, all the steps laid out. This engrains being a follower
You THINK youre focused/productive, but youve no idea how to plan for yourself
3. College rewards the lowest common denominator
Outside of top universities and STEM fields, colleges increasingly cater to the lowest common denominator. The quality of education has been vastly diluted, and excellence is no longer the norm
You create momentum for yourself. Followers, viral tweets, a shared article, some interaction with bigger nodes that draw an audience, some consistency in content for a few weeks
But you STOP
Momentum is what creates TIMING,
You have the Timing of Acceleration-being prolific and making a push for growth
You have the Timing of Cruising-sustaining creative momentum and production, most especially between spurts
It does not matter WHAT domain your personal brand is in, DOES NOT
It doesnt matter whether its digital or physical, for that matter
When you have breakthrough moments, high energy moments, growth moments
And one of the "redflags" of a futile attempt to change lifestyle is when all of someone's friends are living in the "past" that they are trying to get away from
I call this the "stupid shitty friends effect"
=when peoples friends or family are completely impeding their efforts to change
It becomes multiple obstacles to deal with
Self Doubt is already going to try to sabotage you, because doubt by practical definition is self-sabotage,
There is another pitfall to watch out for that ends up being worse oftentimes,
1. Until you get Serious, you are staying fat
When your life falls apart enough for you to give a shit, thats when people decided they need to get serious
What will be your get serious moment? Heart attack? You decide
Human beings are special in that we will wait to get away with things for as long as possible, and until you hit your personal threshold of breakdown, or pull out the internal drive within yourself to unfuck yourself
you're going to stay fat
2. You are going to be hungry at times, more than you'd like
Even if you follow a low carb, high fat, moderate protein (which is increasingly proving itself to be the best diet for fat loss and overall health),
1. Don't believe injuries are a guarantee.
Catastrophic injuries are uncommon compared to the âstupidâ injuries people incur that are entirely avoidable
Lift to be able to lift LONG TERM
2. Remove your ego
-Most men get hurt because of ego
-bad technique
-too heavy
-something to prove
-stupidly planned workouts
-no warmup
This all emblematic of the bullshit in your life that you create.
Remove ego, get out of your own way, dont get hurt
3. Take care of your rotator cuff & shoulder ROM
Pressing heavy wont go forever, but if you can always maintain full ROM in your shoulders, and keep rotator cuff health up as much as possible, youâll still be muscular and functional well into your later years
1. Reading "success" books
Wanting to know people's "success" reading material is myopic. It an attempt to extract prescription (hat tip to @KapilGuptaMD )
And experience>reading regardless
And ironically, the most classic success books are still older books (Think and Grow Rich).
Remember that you are still going to be in "shit" mode when you start something new, regardless of how much you read about what it takes for being "successful"
2. Morning Routines
-Ive been asked this myself, I've heard it asked in interviews, and after so many responses, I realized how redundant it was.
Again, its prescriptive bullshittery that attempts to comb out some special edge where there isnt one
How to Be Horrifically Miserable with your Life (Thread)
1. Say Yes to everyone
You will have no identity of your own, you will never lead yourself. Every decision you make will be to please someone else, and you'll be a useful slave for whatever's popular
2. Be friends with people you don't like and dont respect
-Do it because its the "right thing" to do. Do it because you've known them a long time. Do it because you're too afraid to ever assert yourself and being walked all over is all you know
3. Be as Nice as possible
-Say nothing upsetting, think nothing offensive, let yourself be beaten down by whomever asserts authority over you and you're too scared to speak up.
17 Habits of Effective Assholes Who Are Happier Than You (thread)
1. Saying No to people
What you say No to defines the borders of your life and the boundaries of your lives. No is mandatory for doing what you want
2. Not pretending to like anyone that they don't like
-Theres nothing more soul draining than having to wear face for people whom you cant stand. This doesnt mean be anti-social. But don't be friends with people you don't like
You don't have to be, so don't
3. You got hate in your heart let it out
-If you don't like to do something, anything, DON'T DO IT. Doesnt matter whether its activities, types of social gatherings, food, films, music, entertainment, types of people
In one sense, its romantic sounding. Making claims of the power of love has existed as long as stories have ever been told about people and relationships
On the other, its frightening. Because being willing to do anything can mean some very bad things.
When you are younger, such an attitude is attractive in a way. Love is absolutism, its obsession, its all consuming
Whether you actually âloveâ someone that way or not, that manic ideal exist heavily in popular culture.
-The Email already went out, but lets have a dialogue on this
There are 10 steps to mentorship
1. Do you NEED a mentor?
Ask yourself what it is your looking for, & define what the relationship is that you think you need
2. Know yourself, and find a better version of yourself
-What kind of Man or Woman are you trying to turn into? Again, DEFINE this.
Now, find that version in REAL LIFE. Someone that is ahead of you. A role model is always above yourself
3. Study their operations and personality
-Success is predicated on personality. Whether its online or offline, look at them personally, meet them if you can, see how WHO they are has created WHAT they are. How does this compare to yourself?