Something I have noticed among Nigerians in general is that we have an "asking question" problem. We shy away from asking questions because we either do not want to appear too forward or to be seen as stupid. But often times the questions we don't ask come back to bite us. Ive seen this happen in different aspects of life. For example, you visit the doctor's office, a nurse checks your blood pressure and you don't ask what it was. Instead your worry trying to read the nurses' face thereby increasing your anxiety and in turn your blood pressure.

I was reading an article the other day about how the prevailing feminist climate has shifted attention from teaching women how to behave to focusing on making men unlearn patriarchy. On the surface it seems that men are learning to be better humans and women are (perhaps innately *smiles*) better humans. So the world should be a better place for all right?

One thing single mothers raising boys should come to terms with is the fact that they are already at a disadvantage. Boys need their fathers.

But this does not mean that when life throws you a curve ball you cannot raise strong masculine men. A knotty issue is always how to talk about sex with boys. It can't happen intuitively given the biological differences between men and women. But reading up helps. Also, having responsible men you can turn to for advice is always good.

Was having a conversation with my son this afternoon and asked him what he would do if his wife was aggressive enough to grab his shirt spoiling for a fight.

He looked me straight in the eye and says, I could never be married to someone like that. I acted like he actually could marry without knowing what the woman is capable of. He asks me what they will be doing during courtship that will stop him from finding out what her true disposition is.

I am proud of my son and his level of maturity even though he is a teenager.