Dear Men!!!

After almost 2 years of working as a nurse in a male ward, I can tell you 2 things I've observed.

1, As a married man, the only person who's going to be by your bedside when you are sick is your wife. I repeat, your wife. On rare occasions, your kids will be there. For a while though. Only your wife can leave whatever she's doing to be with you.

Your siblings may come and go, your friends may visit, but she is the only one who will wholeheartedly stay with you throughout youyour ordeal.

Yesterday, I went to First Bank to use the ATM,
I got there and looked around and joined the long queue. A young lady came to meet me and asked how much I wanted to withdraw.

She said she over withdrew money; She was supposed to withdraw ₦3,000 but mistakenly pressed ₦30,000. She will give me ₦20,000 cash, I will transfer it to her account.

This is what shocked me; I have been standing on the queue for approximately five minutes and I never saw this Lady around that ATM, she wasn't on the queue, she never made any withdrawal.

A man worshipped Allah for seventy years, then committed adultery, as a result of which all his (good) deeds were wiped away. He (later) passed by a needy person and gave him a piece of bread (in charity/sadaqah); as a result, Allah forgave his sin and returned (to his credit) his deeds of seventy years. (Ibn Mas'ood).

The effect of sincerity in carrying out any act of worship should never be underestimated.

Abu al-Zar’a reported: Abdullah ibn Mas’ud, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “A monk worshiped Allah in his hermitage for sixty years

TAKE A CUE 💦

For the married and those in the queue. An aged father asked his grown up daughter a simple question:

“What is the most important thing in your life, beti?

She replied, “Daddy, it is the kids !!! They mean everything to me”.. He then turned and asked his son-in-law the same question, he also (beaming with pride) said : “It is the kids of course; they are the reason why I work so hard to ensure they have a better life”

"Well said, my children. I don’t mean to intrude on how to run your family life,

Some brothers think that Polygyny is an easy pill to swallow, they discuss women reaction to it as if it is Haram.

I was discussing with one of my male colleagues some time ago he told me that an elderly friend of his wanted to take thaniyah but he was so scared of breaking the news to his wife so he took her to one of his ustadzs who broke the news to her with wisdom, he said his friend told him that on their way going back home in his car that his wife began to shiver and was sweating profusely even though the car AC was on,

As a husband you have to learn to balance between firmness and softness. Too much of either isn't good. But more importantly you have to learn to acquire the intelligence to see through emotional blackmails and not let it get to you. If you have a justifiable reason to say NO keep it that way. Not even a bucket full of tears or screams of how wicked, uncaring and difficult you are should change it. But it has to be balanced. Sometimes you just choose to look the other way and let them have their way.

I use this time to pray for a Sister, she's a Muslimah, a religious sister, May Allah ease her affairs. She met a brother through someone, and the relationship led to marriage. The brother she married has HIV, prior to the marriage, all efforts to do a thorough background check were not possible, she insisted on medical tests, the brother stylishly turned it down and they eventually got married. Months into the marriage, the brother fell terribly sick, it was on the sick bed that he confessed to her that he had the virus,

NO DINNER FOR YOU TO NIGHT .

A MUST READ THREAD.

I had a quarrel with my wife yesterday morning. She was angry with me and I was also very angry with her. I tried to tell her what she did was bad, and all I wanted was for her to accept corrections. She in turn had her own reasons for doing what she did, and she blames it on me for making her do what she had done. Not until I accept my own mistake, she was not ready to accept hers.

We shouted vehemently at each other before I left the house.

Message to Sisters (4) by Imam kay

Jinn Attack

Our sisters (including jilbābīs and niqābīs) are easily struck by Jinn. A visit to an exorcist will tell you this reality.

This is so because our sisters are only strong in dressing but unfortunately weak in spirituality. They are lighter than the feather of a bird in the hands of shayātīn (soldiers of the devil).

Shaytān has used their phones to set them against their Lord, even obligatory acts of worship are either nonchalantly done or aren't done at all.

They say: "A wife is expendable - you can change her at any time just like changing a shoe that no longer fits."

Yes, you read it right, this is what some of our parents' generation say and believe. Many times it comes under an unprovoked contest of wife vs. husband's family in general, or worse, against the husband's mother or sister(s) in particular.

Then comes a religious spin on this, that is, Allāh commanded kindness to one's parents, especially the mother. Granted, what does this have to do with degrading one's wife?

My daughter was memorizing Surah Al-Ahqaf, and one day I was surprised when she asked me: "My father how old are you?"
I said to her smiling: "Sure, there is something behind your question."
She said: "My father tell me how old are you?" I said: "44 years old my daughter."
She said: "That means you have reached 40 years four years ago, do you say the Du'aa of those after forty say?"
I said: "Is there a special Du'aa at the age of forty years?"
She said while acting like a teacher:

LADIES PLEASE TAKE NOTE!!!!!

Men attend to Women for two reasons, SEX, and LOVE, but in most cases, men do not Marry for Sex or for Love, they marry for STABILITY.

Let me explain
A man can Love you and not Marry you.
A man can have sex with you for years without marrying you. But immediately he finds someone who brings stability in his life, he marries her.

What I mean by Stability is "Peace of Mind"
I have seen some guys who made this statement "I love this lady but I don't think I can spend the rest of my life with her."

ZINA💔

When ZINA penetrates the body of a fellow human being, Wallahi it is extremely difficult to get rid of it. ZINA is addictive. When you start, you hardly stop. And it is dangerous. Every thing you touch, Allah removes Barakah from it. Even Friends who follow you, Allah remove their barakah. When you earn money, it finishes as if fire eats it. Every day you are in this problem or the other. Your heart will never settle. And if you pursue ZINA for the rest of your life, for sure ZINA will kill you. And if you die as an adulterer,

Sisters, even if you're not able to pray during these last ten days. Make sure to get up at night, especially the last third, to make Du'a.
Because the woman who is menstruating is not allowed to pray, she can spend the night in doing other acts of worship apart from prayer, such as:

1-Reading or reciting Qur’aan.

2-Dhikr – such as saying Subhaan-Allaah, La ilaaha illa-Allaah, al-Hamdu Lillaah, etc. She can repeat the words “Subhaan-Allaah wa’l-hamdu Lillaah, wa laa ilaaha ill-Allaah, wa Allaahu akbar

Narrated By Abu Huraira: While we were sitting with the Prophetﷺ, a man came and said, "O Allah's Apostleﷺ! I have been ruined." Allah's Apostleﷺ asked what the matter with him was. He replied "I had sexual intercourse with my wife while I was fasting." Allah's Apostleﷺ asked him, "Can you afford to manumit a slave?" He replied in the negative. Allah's Apostleﷺ asked him, "Can you fast for two successive months?"

He replied in the negative. The Prophetﷺ asked him, "Can you afford to feed sixty poor persons?"

❤❤❤

Have you noticed when you meet a particular brother or sister for the first time, you get along with them instantly. You agree on most things, you feel comfortable in their presence and most importantly you talk to them as if you have known them for years. You even express yourself in a way that would take you months or even years with other people. You don't hold back what you want to say and can express yourself freely in their presence.

BE DUTIFUL TO YOUR ADKAR

Perhaps, the reason why the scorpion which crawled up to you while you were sleeping last night didn't sting you was because you recited your evening Adhkar (supplications) yesterday. So Allah saved you from it's harm.
. Perhaps the reason why the spider that was descending from your roof didn't land inside your mouth while you were sleeping with your mouths opened was because of your Adhkar.
Perhaps the reason why the black ant didn't sting you when it went inside your undies in the night was

It was a Fajr Salaah, Umar ibn Khattab radiAllahu anhu had only made the first Takbeer, when his murderer Abu Lu'lu Al Majoosi stabbed him twice with a poisoned dagger. He went on to stab 13 other muslims who tried to wrestle with him, out of which 7 persons died on the spot while 6 were writhing in pains on the floor, before the serial murderer committed suicide by stabbing himself to death.
.
Yet, despite this critical and disastrous situation, Umar ordered Abdurahman Ibn Auf radiAllahu anhu to lead the Fajr Salaah.

ISTIKHÃRAH

Istikhãra literally means "to seek that which is good" or seeking blessings and guidance from Allah in a decision...and istikhara is the third part of a 3-step decision making process:

1-Preparation - Use your own rationale and assess your circumstances. Do your own research.
2- Istishāra (seek advice) - Ask someone of experience and knowledge in the matter you're looking for guidance on.
3- Istikhāra (seek goodness) - Maybe you've narrowed it down, but are conflicted in making your final decision. You want confidence and clarity

When my father proposed to my mother, he dedicated Surah Al-Imran, which he memorized off heart, as her "Mahr" (dowry). And when my husband proposed to me, my father told him that he would have to memorize a Surah of the Quran as my mahr. The wedding will not go on unless I've received my mahr I was asked to pick one of the surahs. I chose Surah Al-Noor. For all the laws that Surah contained within it and for the fact that it seemed hard to memorize on my behalf.

And before our wedding day;

Gone are the days🤩

When the parents were always doing the thorough investigation on their children's behalf, they were the match makers, later, the two parties would be brought in to complete the process. It will be a big problem for you to single-handedly intend to carry out thorough investigation about your intending partner, because emotional attachment sets in before you know it, and you start seeing a person you are to critically examine