Dear lady in your early twenties, let’s talk. If marriage is big on your plan, please indulge me, I have few words to share with you.
It’s a thread ⬇️
1. Take your dating life seriously in your 20s. I know purpose, career & self-discovery are super important but please, learn the rope early enough.
Biology isn’t emotional, the earlier you start learning & getting a grip of whole choices, the better for your feminine journey.
May 5, 2023 • 14 tweets • 3 min read
If you are big on companionship & communication like me, these are the 10 underrated green flags that I think you should look out for in a partner:
1. Being with someone on the same humor wavelength:
You don’t know how much the universe is with you If you’ve never been with anyone where the seed of your joke always fall on the wrong spot or where you’ve to explain your joke or make excuses to deflect.
Can’t emphasize enough.
Mar 19, 2023 • 11 tweets • 2 min read
One of the saddest part of yesterday was the video posted by Sisi-yemmie, where her family were profusely denying being Igbo at their polling unit.
That video unearthed a terrible memory I thought I’ve conquered; memory of the war I witnessed in person - the Ife x Modakeke war.
Two towns closely knitted geographically with slim boundaries.
It brought the memory of how some husbands were killed because they were from the other side; how wives were tragically cut off because they were from the other side & how children were stranded in horror.
Mar 18, 2023 • 8 tweets • 2 min read
WHEN WE ARE READY TO TAKE BACK NIGERIA, WE ALL KNOW WHAT TO DO.
FOR NOW, MAKE WE DEY PLAY.
Pharaohs don’t let go easy!
Many progressive Nigerians want the bloodless freedom but while waiting through the unending route of clutching on a stale hope, the waiting itself continues to be bloody for many innocent Nigerians. Every day, Nigerians die meaningless & avoidable death.
Mar 17, 2023 • 8 tweets • 2 min read
No matter the pressure,
1. Don’t propose to a man. No matter the quantity of the woke cereal that you’ve consumed in your adult life as a lady, don’t propose.
Don’t wear the pant of proposal if you dread embarrassment & if you don’t have a sustainable will to become a husband.
2. Don’t you dare sponsor your own wedding as a woman.
A purposeful man would rather recommend a legal wedding for you or an extremely small family wedding within his capacity & allow you to support.
No matter how blessed you are, support not sponsor.
Feb 24, 2023 • 11 tweets • 2 min read
A young man made a tweet some days ago like, “One year in America today and I’m a home owner”
Out of curiosity, I proceeded into his comment section and I saw that some people dug in & inquired further considering how almost impossible it is to acquire a property under a year..
..in USA, but he resulted into broke shaming & Nigeria-shaming many of them.
As usual, I expected it😊
Most times, when they don’t explain a bit about their process, it’s because they didn’t share it to Inspire but they did for self aggrandizement.
Come to think of it, have..
Feb 22, 2023 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
You and your partner emerged the winner at a wedding game show and you are meant to pick one out of these three options as your prize 👇🏾
1. An extravagant "talk of town" wedding ceremony, a brand new Lexus SUV & a week honeymoon in a luxury resort of your choice in Nigeria.
Jan 28, 2023 • 11 tweets • 2 min read
Someone sent me some screenshots he saw here on twitter weeks ago. In the screenshots, a guy narrated how his father once told him how he once connived with someone at his mother's place of work just to prevent her from getting the deserved promotion she was aiming for back then.
He did it by conniving with an insider to hide the wife's document.
The young man now concluded how he now understands his father's reason because he protected his fam & marriage by limiting his wife's growth. That he would’ve lost the wife if she had made more money than him.
Jan 27, 2023 • 8 tweets • 2 min read
I have this to say in response to the few DMs I have been getting on instagram concerning oral sex as a dealbreaker.
See ehn, any man or woman who threatens to cheat on you or ends a proven solid relationship over the giving of head isn’t your own life partner. Please, Run!
I don’t care if their name is hEadnar, hEadniola or hEadnut & I don’t care how much they enjoy it.
I’ve never heard anymore use 2hours out of 24hours on just head. So, If you are willing to end a fulfilling relationship or cheat on your amazing partner for that, God’s speed.
Jan 27, 2023 • 9 tweets • 2 min read
Dear You,
If you have ever wondered why your ex won’t stop breezing in & out of your life without any form of reasonable commitment to compensate for the past, these are some of the possible reasons below:
1. They are Narcissistic: they intentionally breadcrumb you to flex their old grip on you.
They enjoy breadcrumbing you because it gives them a sense power & it pleasures their ego. They enjoy checking in & leading you on to see if they still have the grip on your heart & sense.
Jan 26, 2023 • 12 tweets • 3 min read
I remember when we were young teenagers, those days when we go shopping in boutiques, there was this corny bargaining strategy we used to apply back then.
The strategy was never to show excitement, attachment & enthusiasm towards any item no matter how much we like it.
In fact, when we price, we do it uninterestingly to dampen the seller’s sense of value towards the targeted product. The goal was to undermine the value of an item for us to achieve a bargaining upper-hand with the seller.🥸
Over time in the recent dating market, I’ve seen..
Dec 19, 2022 • 19 tweets • 4 min read
A lady I was involved in her chaotic situation in 2019 called me few days ago and i was so happy to hear from her.
A little back story..
At 21, this young lady had 6 abortions within a relationship of two years. A larger part of her relationship then was done in cohabitation.
She was in school but was living with this working class guy in the same town where she schooled. She goes to her own hostel only when she’s expecting her parent or a guest.
Long story short, Dude broke up with her after 2 years & 6 abortions. She was still very much..
Dec 17, 2022 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
See that thing that makes you to always take/lobby for free things from your friend’s bussiness but you always take your patronage & money to a famous brand (stranger) because you’re hustling to famz.
Same you would rather post memes than post this your friend’s bussiness flier.
That thing that’s making you to attend detty December shows back to back and be standing for 6 hours plus for your fav while sweating like an afflicted goat but you can’t attend your good friend’s celebration which is just three hours drive away from you.
Dec 16, 2022 • 8 tweets • 2 min read
Dear Wives, these are 7 Important clues to deepen the togetherness in your marriage.
1. Regardless of how much you can afford it, when it comes to a major decision making, make sure you carry him along & when necessary, endeavor to seek for his approval when considering some..
..special sensitive moves even when his 1Naira isn’t tied to it. Good men treasure getting carried along even when the financial power for such decision making isn’t within their grasp - his importance must never be limited to only when he’s the one calling the shot financially.
Sep 17, 2022 • 8 tweets • 2 min read
Sometimes last year, a guy posted his new Camry big Daddy on twitter & he captioned it like,
“I know say e small but I say make i buy this one hold body first before I go get big money to buy Benz”
I smiled.
You know why? The yardstick is so tampered. Status-symbol hustling.
That was how someone asked his old friend,
“Oh boy, heard you finally moved to Lagos from Ondo, I’m so happy for your growth man.. where you dey for Lagos na?”
HIM: “Omo no be island like una o, na that ikotun side I still dey manage jare but I go get there too like you Baba”
Dear people-in-a-committed relationship,
Hear me out!
“Mummy called when you were bathing”isn’t the same as “Your Mother called when you were bathing”
“You are my wife and this is our house” isn’t the same as “I’m your husband and this is my house”
“Did you hear from Daddy?” isn’t the same as “Did you hear from your father?”
“I’m sorry I hurt you with my words” isn’t the same as “Okay, I’m sorry if you think I hurt you with my words”
“I haven’t been feeling loved” isn’t the same as “You never loved me”.
Jul 12, 2022 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
I miss when civilization wasn’t a champions league of nudity.
I miss those days when an underwear was strictly an underwear.
I miss when areola was only seen within the intimate space. Those days, areola was a committed private part of a former private part called breast.
I miss when fat ass wasn’t a god with legions of worshippers.
Gone are the days when N!pples weren’t used as a social weapon.
I miss when partners & mirrors were the only ones privy to nakedness & private body scars.
When camel toe wasn’t a selling point; a bold sign post.
Jul 10, 2022 • 15 tweets • 3 min read
Some where right now in Nigeria,
Some Nigerian men are totally stuck financially but they would rather die in silence than ask for help from the ones they made vow to do this thing called life & marriage with because openly & deeply, events have proven they married their foes.
Right now, a man is silently dying inside, he’s close to making a criminal deal just to fend for his family. He sworn within that he wouldn’t dare brainstorm for a way out with his wife because he believes seeking for help from her is a fierce stain on his inflated masculinity.
May 27, 2022 • 15 tweets • 3 min read
Recently, a woman lamented to me on how she sees her hubby only once in two years & the sex they had during past visits were for procreation. She’s a mother of three.
Makes me wonder how we aren’t talking enough about the nos of economically forced distance marriages in Naija.
Come to think of it, it’s getting worse by the day.
Japa compatibility is like a priority in the dating space today. Abroad has become the core of attraction & planB for many. Many are dating for escape, survival & breakthrough but sadly, love is taking the false responsibility.
May 27, 2022 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
There’s an underrated form of compatibility that I call Smell Compatibility.
For people that invest a lot into in their hygiene & smell department, they’ve a robust intolerance against unpleasant odour & stench. We can’t always blame people that aren’t patient enough..
..to experience your heart & overall goodnesses because your repulsive smell made them to disembark early from the journey of knowing & unveiling you.
Let’s make it easier for everyone. Please, stop smelling like ancestral affliction - invest in your social decency..
