Sex workers, stigma and mental health.
A thread

Dedicated to my darling friend. (You know who you are)
😍😍😍😍😍 Last week a dear friend and I were chatting.

We both revealed to each other a very big thing.
We are both struggling with depression.
I can’t speak for my awesome friend’s symptoms, but mine involves panic attacks.
Attacks so great...I fear I am dying. ☠️💀☠️💀

Are the Australian Adult Industry Awards rigged?
A thread.
On Wednesday night the Australian Adult Industry Awards were held. A function that claims to recognise the best in our industry. And on Thursday the usual complaints began that the awards are rigged.
Let’s take a look Full disclosure here.

I was nominated for 4 awards. I didn’t nominate myself for any of these awards although you can nominate yourself. Nominations for Alpha and Industry Ambassador really took me by surprise. I didn’t win.
I’m not bitter in the least.

Catfishing, Racisim and Sex Work
A Thread

If you’ve been a provider for even a short length of time you’ve had a prospective client ask for photos. Regardless of the fact you may have lots of photos in your advertising, this client wants more. When you ask them why the 10 or so photos on your ads plus the selfies you place on social media aren’t enough they tells you they’ve “been fooled before”
What they are referring to is something called “catfishing”
We’ve all seen the MTV show.

1) I’ve been every dress size between 6 and 18 in my life. I’m sitting comfortably at a 12-14 now.
As The Beauty Myth stated 30 years ago...a generation of starving women cannot fight back.
Women obsessing about everything they eat can not stage a revolution. 2) I’m a very beautiful women. Not only physically attractive, I’m smart, accomplished and highly intelligent. You won’t find a more loyal, faithful, passionate person than me.
I refuse to be classified in life by what dress size I wear.

Watching the to-do about Prince Andrew and Fergie is hysterical. It shows how people don’t really look at facts but are happy to believe any old shit they are told.
How many fabulously wealthy eligible still decent looking PRINCES do you know who flat mate with the ex? Yes....sharing a household for 20 plus years for the sake of children long grown up and moved away.
Not only do they “share” a house but they always holiday together. Because divorced people LOVE to holiday together right?

1) Okay. So if you haven’t noticed I’m a REALLY big James a bond fan. Thinking about recasting Bond has started me thinking about my perfect fantasy cast for the next film. No get it out of your head! It’s not going to be Idris Elba.
people.com/movies/idris-e… 2) When Bond is recast it will be a total shake up of the brand. In the past they’ve carried over some casting to keep continuity. I suspect that this new reboot will throw the baby out with the bath water. So don’t expect to see ANYONE from the old cast. Like Spider-Man

1) Monday morning. Going to your job. Sometimes it’s dull and repetitive. Sometimes it’s frustrating yes? You like some parts of your job more than others. Maybe it’s the people you work with, maybe it’s the monotony. Maybe it’s just that you’d rather have stayed in bed today. 2) Now imagine if you had impossible pressure placed on you to ALWAYS be happy in your job. Always empowered and fulfilled from it and at no point ever could you complain or let your guard down. At all times you must smile and trill about the joys of your job....

Being a white sex worker I suspect is a little like playing in the sandbox of oppressed minority. I can always dust myself off and leave unlike my POC brothers and sisters and my trans brothers and sisters. And I’d like if I can to use that privilege for good rather than evil. Because I’ve had the benefit of being white, and receiving an excellent education and living on 3 continents growing up. I’ve had more privilege than most white people to be perfectly honest.

I know that people make Gilead jokes about the current climate of women’s rights. Read the Handmaids Tale we are already pretty close to this eventuality. Reproductive rights, incels, backlash against sex work and porn. It didn’t even take worldwide infertility to make it happen. Sure we won’t probably end up with Handmaids But we will end up with women losing rights May westerners want to hate on Muslims for denying women’s right and then turn and deny ‘Christian’ women rights. Abortion, the morning after pill, choosing your sexual partner, rape culture.

A clients guide to tipping your provider.

Gratuity. To tip or not to tip, that is the question.
It’s always a complicated thing right? Anywhere you go in a country like Australia or the UK where tipping is not the done thing how do you know what to do? How much should you tip in a restaurant or a bar? When should you tip and when shouldn’t you tip? It’s seems a mine field for many.
For countries where gratuity is not a form of etiquette and social custom it can be hard to understand its purpose and the reasoning behind it.

Whorearchy
A thread
First and foremost I’d like to give a shout out to the BRILLIANT word whorearchy. As a person with a passion for words (why yes, I did use behooves in a recent tweet, thank you for noticing) I love a pun, a play on words and especially completely new words. Whorearchy is a word that’s used to describe elitism within the sex industry. Merging whore and hierarchy to create a unique word describing something that permeates every section of our industry.

A THREAD
Nice Story Dude.....
An investigation into the psychological disorder of a Time Waster.

( Dr Charlotte is IN) A Time Waster, (TW for short) in case you didn’t know is a person who wastes the valuable time of a sexworker making false enquiries or making false bookings with zero intention of following through.

THREAD

I don’t need saving...but thanks anyway.

I guess. I don’t need saving from sex work.

I choose sex work.

Because I choose the job best suited to my needs.

That’s my right as a human being. To choose my job, right?

I am a sex worker by choice.

And I know you’re going to hate to hear this.

But so are MOST workers

Thread
(For the clients)
WHEN A CLIENT DEVELOPS FEELINGS FOR AN ESCORT

Yes this happens.
Sometimes clients fall for their escort.
Not all the time mind you. Just sometimes.
Let’s have a serious chat.
Take a seat. This has again just recently happened to a client of mine. And it makes me sad. Really sad. 😔 I liked this client, I liked our time together. He was nice and I enjoyed his company. But then he caught the feels. And that’s sad. He thinks he’s in love with me. But he’s not.

Thread/ Service Announcement:

How to shower before a booking with your escort.
Your escort has lead you to the shower. Yes, they wish you to use it. No, this isn’t optional.

Are you ready sir? Let’s shower up. 1. Take off ALL your clothes and use the hooks and hangars provided, if not fold neatly. Preferably away from any possible water run.
Trust me, returning to your clothes neatly folded will make it easier to dress in the daze you will inevitably be in after your booking.

THREAD

Spamming sex workers.
Why it’s NEVER a good idea
Nope...not ever. Nope not even then. Nope. No. NO! Once again, I open my emails to see a bunch of photographers and video makers wanting to take my photograph because I’m so (ahem) beautiful.
Even worse, many of these emails have been sent through adverting contact pages.
So basically I’m paying to be spammed.
Great.....

Loyalty. It seems a strange concept these days. To choose to be loyal to a person, or an ideal/ concept/ belief in the face of adversity has clearly gone out of fashion.
I’ve read toomuch Austen, fallen asleep clutching Bronte novels, aspired to the ideals of Hosseini... This dog eat dog world, where everyone is out for themselves and no one stands up for their friends. It’s heartbreaking how we have lost one of the most fundamental and important ideals of humanity.
Loyalty.