Sex & Dating Coach | Creative | Computer Scientist | AuDHD | disabled from LASIK & C19 | he/him | #ActuallyAutistic | #CovidIsAirborne | obligatory ░🐈░
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Nov 16 • 20 tweets • 4 min read
I can tell you right now, as a professional dating coach for the past decade, this kind of thinking is why so many people struggle and never get better. And also, it's just objectively false. I was single for the majority of my life until I learned the SKILLS required 🧵
And yes, most of the things holding people back from having a successful and fruitful dating/married life are SKILLS! And, luckily, bc they are skills, they can be LEARNED. Once you've learned all the skills required, there is actually VERY LITTLE luck involved. For example:
Nov 11 • 6 tweets • 2 min read
I love how I've been trying to write a reply to this tweet for a half hour now bc long covid destroyed my ability to read & write. Most days I can't comprehend more than a single tweet worth of information at a time. And hundreds of millions of people have long covid now! 🧵
Reading is no longer going to be an easily accessible hobby for most after MULTIPLE covid infections destroy their brains and ability to focus and comprehend the written word. This is why we've been telling everyone to fucking mask and to mitigate covid spread
Oct 31 • 20 tweets • 4 min read
Honestly surprised to see so many anti-porn people giving me shit for saying that the rise in undateable, toxic men is due to the rise of fascism and far right indoctrination among young men and NOT porn. Talk about brain rot lol. Anyways, a🧵 to piss off the haters...
Once my brain is working again, I'll do a research thread with all the data. It's VERY CLEARLY fascism & far right ideology that is rotting men's brains, NOT porn. Like there is so much data showing men are being indoctrinated into this stuff recently at alarming rates,
Oct 23 • 6 tweets • 2 min read
This is exactly what I want as well. People do best when their romantic relationship is with a PARTNER. The whole conservative notion that women need to be subservient to men is bullshit perpetuated by weak little boys who are afraid of the power of the feminine
For these "men", they are too scared to see women as equals. They are afraid to see the powerful woman within their wives. They NEED women to be subservient bc they are cowards, unable to rise to meet a powerful woman as an equal.
Oct 21 • 17 tweets • 4 min read
So, this video actually explains HOW she didn't notice they were incompatible for three and a half years. The reason is bc she's codependent. Notice how much she's excusing his bad behavior. She's still trying to save him even after he did such a heinous act to her 🧵
I'm a recovering codependent who dated several others. I actually went through a breakup similar to this, where I felt blindsided after thinking we were the perfect couple, no incompatibilities, (funny enough, it was also after three and a half years lol)
Oct 19 • 9 tweets • 3 min read
This dude is lying—like yes, there IS a loneliness epidemic, but it's NOT affecting men disproportionately. It's affecting the genders equally!(receipts below). There IS a male entitlement epidemic however (which he's demonstrating perfectly here with his need to center men) 🧵
It's frustrating how often this happens. Like no, not everything has to be male centric. The entire world is lonely right now! Capitalism has destroyed our third spaces and our communities. It's MUCH harder to socialize now than ever before.
Oct 13 • 12 tweets • 3 min read
This is what I specialize in coaching bc I used to have crippling social anxiety & rejection sensitive dysphoria. Like I could barely talk to strangers, let alone shoot my shot. But now it's functionally gone and it was actually easier than I thought to get over. A 🧵
There are usually two things preventing people from being able to shoot their shot: negative thoughts telling you you can't, and negative emotions/feelings that we don't want to deal with (some people would also say there's a third issue, negative beliefs about yourself)
Oct 8 • 9 tweets • 2 min read
One of the worst parts of being an empathetic human who actually cares about others while surviving in late stage capitalism is that, you can't actually help people unless you have enough capital to survive bc helping is unprofitable. It's such a horrible feeling.
Today I had to work on my business bc I'm almost broke. But there are SO many things my brain is categorizing as more important (like the pandemic, the genocides, the hurricane), but I NEED to work to survive, and can barely work as it is due to long COVID.
Sep 16 • 5 tweets • 2 min read
The brain/neural inflammation that comes after a covid infection can be intense. I was constantly rageful for 2-3 months after my infection. My mom noticed it. She said I was like a completely different person. But that's not the worst part ...
The scariest part is that I've spent over a decade training my nervous system to be calm and to be able to handle intense emotions, and I can tell you the level of rage I felt was MORE intense than anything I felt before training. So really think about that,
Aug 15 • 11 tweets • 3 min read
As a men's dating coach who's worked with hundreds of men this past decade, so many thoughts. Too many to write. But if you want to know the common thread, you can see it in all of the replies: so much self pity and women blaming, and very little taking responsibility.
Putting the economic issues of late capitalism aside (which is definitely a factor bc everyone is broke and burnt out), many men who aren't that affected by this are deeply disillusioned by dating bc they've been indoctrinated into the manosphere way of thinking about women.
Aug 9 • 16 tweets • 3 min read
Pretty much everyone I talk to has long covid symptoms currently. They don't call it long covid, but like I have friends and relatives who are super fatigued all the time. They think it's from getting older or over worked. But it only started this year or last year
Other friends are now super forgetful or they can't think or read like they used to. They think they're just burnt out or over worked. But, again, it only started in the last few years and it's persistent.
Jul 29 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
I still can't get over Olympic athletes, who are using all kinds of the latest tech and nutrition/sports science to increase their edge by the TINIEST fraction of a percent, are not avoiding COVID, a virus that causes endothelial damage, resulting in less than optimal blood flow
Seriously, why are all these Olympic athletes rawdogging COVID air without a respirator, risking impaired vascular activity that will 100% affect their performance? And why isn't the Olympic committee protecting their athletes? (That's rhetorical, I know they hate their athletes)
Jun 30 • 23 tweets • 6 min read
Since everyone keeps claiming LASIK is super safe and has a 99% success rate and keeps calling me a liar and a fear monger bc I say it's not and that the industry LIES, here's an ENTIRE thread of receipts (recreated with permission from one of my support groups):
Neurotrophic keratopathy -- According to this article, the complication rate of neurotrophic keratopathy alone is 16.7% after LASIK. Source: iovs.arvojournals.org/article.aspx?a…
Jun 23 • 23 tweets • 7 min read
I still can't get over how bad AI has become. And this is coming from a computer scientist who spent over a decade studying and programming AI.
I fucking LOVE AI, but here are 10 reasons I absolutely fucking hate it now, a 🧵 ...
1) the massive training sets required to train them cannot be obtained legally so they are stealing huge amounts of content w/o consent, all in the name of "innovation"
A lot of people are misunderstanding what this research is about bc the concept of "tight transmission bottlenecks" is not a common concept. This research isn't saying we should be afraid of a single viron that could cause an infection...
In the context of viruses, you either have a tight transmission bottleneck or a wide transmission bottleneck (TB). A tight TB means that only a small number of viruses initiate an infection, while a wide TB means a high number of viruses create an infection. Why does this matter?
Jun 10 • 7 tweets • 2 min read
I honestly believe everyone with long COVID should give nicotine patches a shot for a couple of weeks JUST to see if they help. Bc if they do, it's usually a pretty significant boost compared to everything else. Like I've probably tried 60-80 different OTC items for LC...
If I read about it having even a miniscule effect on LC symptoms (and I could afford it) I bought it and tried it for a significant amount of time before giving up. Out of everything I've tried, the BIGGEST boost to my quality of life came from nicotine patches.
May 16 • 25 tweets • 6 min read
Alright, I've seen threads going around claiming the NC Mask ban isn't a mask ban and the CC Community is making it worse by exaggerating. That's not the case at all. People are mistaking House Bill 237 with the law it's amending, and here's the proof: 🧵
House Bill 237: Unmasking Mobs and Criminals () is a bill of AMENDMENTS. It has four sections: dashboard.ncleg.gov/api/Services/B…
Apr 5 • 7 tweets • 2 min read
These stories are so deceiving. LASIK IS NOT a miracle of science, it's a monster of science and a bastardization of public health protections. I had 20/20 vision immediately after my LASIK too, just a few years later, I was BLIND from LASIK.
LASIK is an incredibly dangerous procedure. And the risk of complications is EXPONENTIALLY higher than what the industry reports due to fraudulent surveys and data manipulation. Even the dude who approved LASIK for the FDA is trying to get it banned after finding this out.
Mar 26 • 15 tweets • 3 min read
Lol, I was eligible to skip multiple grades and passed on MIT to go to Harvey Mudd for math & CS. The reason why? I was undiagnosed autistic & ADHD. Most (all?) exceptionally smart people have undx'd disabilities, which leads to crashing and burning out in our 30s...
We crash and burn bc our disabilities (that we don't even know we have) go unaccommodated. Worse still, the systems of corporate America & government are NOT designed to accommodate us, in fact, they're designed to be hostile to us.
Mar 14 • 24 tweets • 5 min read
Been too tired to read or write much lately, but I wanted to add a few things to that NPR article by the wife who is grieving the loss of her regular life more than she's grieving the toll COVID took on her husband. Let's start with some damning quotes...
"I want to keep my husband safe & healthy. But I also want our old life back. It feels selfish & trivial to say that amid [his] plight. He is terrified that if he gets COVID again, it will be as harrowing as the first time. And it could trigger a flare up of his chronic illness."
Feb 29 • 8 tweets • 2 min read
A family friend died very unexpectedly a few months ago. We just found out why today: fentanyl OD. But here's the kicker: their doctor wouldn't prescribe them anti-anxiety meds so they started getting them off the streets and unfortunately got a contaminated batch.
She was only 33 years old and was several years sober. But this war on drugs is pushing so many people to get their much needed meds from illicit places and it's putting their lives at risk. It's just so ridiculous bc it shouldn't be this way.
