On the Billy Graham Rule...

Do you know what's amazing? Having a husband who is faithful because he chooses you and not because he has no opportunity to choose anyone else.

I'm not fighting another woman for my husband. I'm winsome to him and he chooses. 1/5 My husband does a manly job in a female dominated place. He does things that declare "I'm a man" and make women very happy. He fixes their stuff, rearranges their offices,...

Recently he went back to school. All of his coworkers told him this is your chance to network. 2/5

I have real life friends who love Doug Wilson. Here are some stories what it's like interacting with them. The wildest one first...
In a conversation about sharing the gospel, I told them how much the love of Christ changed me and how I want to share that with my neighbors... I was greeted with an entirely blank stare. They responded by saying something like they didn't think the love of Christ was that compelling. The conversation moved on but I filed that away. I observed over time that they simplified nearly everything to black and white.

A couple of years ago in a conversation about Heaven the question came up "Will we have gender in heaven?" "I hope not," I said "because that would mean that I will be second best for eternity." My own words hit me with a flash of realization. 1/ I longed to reflect the image of God in my body like I believed that men did. Since then I have slowly been sifting through the theology that led me to believe that I bore less of the image of God. I found it as a subtext everywhere. 2/

It has taken me a while to work out what I wanted to say about this clip. I have decided to verge on TMI and talk about my honeymoon,...again. Now that your curiosity is piqued; Read at your own risk…

https://twitter.com/sheilagregoire/status/1773363997770645696

A lot of unhealthy aspects of this advice has been addressed but I haven’t seen anyone taking the angle that hit me. I'm here to highlight this advice helps NO ONE. We women who internalized it had extra baggage trying to wake up our own sexual imagination and responsiveness.

The honeymoon phase of our marriage ended with the literal honeymoon for me and evangelical marriage teaching on roles and submission have almost everything to do with it. As we closed the door of our honeymoon cabin I instantly shouldered a role defined for me my whole life. 🧵 Dating me said, “I don’t fit the common definition of submissive, but I promise you that I will give my best to our marriage.” Married me bowed to voices planted in my head instead. “A good wife must be XYZ.” I wanted to be a good wife. 2/7

Here is a reason I think you should be spending time alone with someone before you marry them...
My husband and I met and started dating at Bible College. There was a strict no physical contact rule for couples. So for the first months of our relationship we didn't really touch.+ (At least not so the RA would notice 😉) We agreed for break we wanted to hold hands. 2 hours into the 8 hour car ride he worked up the courage to reach over and take my hand. The thing about strict dating rules being set and policed for you is that you don't really see +

Finished #letusprey last night. Gonna post some thoughts.

Disclaimer; the details of my IFB experience may not match every ones. But I have been in IFB churches in 3 different states and the basic ideas have been the watermark of each of them. In my experience most of the parents who bought into IFB were decent parents. The problem wasn’t that they didn’t try to protect their kids. On the contrary they built “hedges” everywhere. EVERYWHERE. They were so confident in the safety of the world they had created,

I didn’t know I wasn’t happy. That’s what emotion silencing does. I didn’t know that the constant image management was draining my emotional bank, feeding my judgmental spirit, and creating a false sense of spirituality. I gaslit myself into believing joy was completely joyless.+ (I did the same with love btw) I believe the teaching that we should “conceal don’t feel” actually stunted my ability to be joyful too. As I have learned to grieve, to emote, to actually experience my emotions I have actually begun to feel more intense joy as well.+

Reading thru @KSPrior convo with the Moscow Theobros, I feel a strong urge to speak as a woman from a similar system. Disclaimer-I am not an expert on anything. I am just laying my experience alongside Emilie’s story.+
@ExaminingMoscow @DWsChristendom

https://x.com/KSPrior/status/1723502302185615433?s=20

There is so much dissonance between how they are spinning Emilie’s personal responsibility for her SA at the hands of Jim Nance and the rules that govern children and particularly females. In this world parents have to “win,” children’s will must be broken, and showing respect+