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Jan 22 • 6 tweets • 2 min read
A woman was told by social worker & psychiatrist that in order to keep her kids she had to comply & take psych meds. She used to pick up the prescription & put them in the bin. But they wrote on her notes that since ‘taking’ them, she was nicer, calmer & easier to engage…
Now if that isn’t one hell of a placebo effect I don’t know what is 😂
The woman told me that she now looks back on that & laughs, they called HER delusional, and yet they apparently saw huge changes in her that they told her were down to ‘solving’ the ‘brain chemical imbalance’
Jan 21 • 7 tweets • 2 min read
I am acutely aware that the arguments I will present in my new book will be challenging, controversial and new to many readers. I know that whenever I discuss pathologisation and misogyny in mental health publicly, they invoke mixed responses and feelings in thousands of people.
Narratives, theories and beliefs about mental health are central to the lives of many. National statistics suggest that one in four people in the UK will experience a ‘mental health disorder’ each year (Mind, 2021) and one in five people in the UK are diagnosed with depression.
Jan 20 • 8 tweets • 3 min read
The way psychiatry has successfully convinced hundreds of millions of people that mental disorders and illnesses exist, and are down to ‘brain chemical imbalances’ whilst psychiatry itself can’t even agree on, or prove, those theories… is quite something, isn’t it?
People in the public are so sure that the science backs up these dodgy theories whilst the psychiatric regulatory bodies and associations dropped those theories years ago, and now even deny ever saying them. Websites wiped of all proof, authors claiming no one said it.
Jan 8 • 21 tweets • 4 min read
Huge thread for a huge problem.
This right here. This hit me hard.
We have to talk about the fact that people who have been abused are being recast as unsuitable jurors.
The main, and most obvious reason to challenge this, is that sexual violence and abuse is very common.
Here are some key stats:
⁃1 in 4 girls and 1 in 20 boys will be sexually abused before the age of 12 (NSPCC)
⁃1 in 3 women will be raped or experience an attempted rape in their lifetime (RAINN)
⁃1 in 5 British adults report that they were abused in childhood (CSEW)
Jan 4 • 6 tweets • 2 min read
Struggling with divorce disorder.
Raped last year disorder.
Abused as a child disorder.
Subjected to discrimination disorder.
Mum died from cancer disorder.
House got broken into disorder.
Had a car crash disorder.
Boss is a bully disorder.
Living in poverty disorder.
Sound like none of those things actually constitute a mental disorder?
Then you’d be right.
And yet, it’s what the entire psychiatric system is based on.
Dec 14, 2021 • 10 tweets • 2 min read
That anyone ever has to refer to their rapist as a woman is the ultimate form of gaslighting. What a disgusting and deliberately traumatic thing to do to someone who has been subjected to rape. Yet again, the feelings of male offenders above all else.
I saw another take on this the other day, where someone was arguing that those of us who use the phrase ‘VAWG’ or ‘violence against women and girls’ or ‘male violence’ are bigots & it’s a dogwhistle.
Millions of women and girls are killed, trafficked, raped and abused per year
Dec 13, 2021 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
Taken 12 years ago this week.
Me, 19 years old. I had ran away from my home town with my baby, 2 months before this was taken.
It’s such a weird feeling, running away to a town you had never heard of. But I think it made me who I am…
It taught me that I could rebuild my life and start afresh anywhere. It taught me that I was strong enough to live somewhere I knew no one, and no one knew me.
I moved there and picked up a newspaper, to find that a warehouse needed staff. I got the job and suddenly there I was
Dec 12, 2021 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
WE GET IT.
Boris and hundreds of others in power have been breaking restrictions whilst the rest of us suffer.
So what are we gonna do about it? Sit on our sofas and mouth off on Twitter?
We never protest, we never do anything. We never vote them out. We just moan 🙄
Sometimes I get tired by the social media outrage at the same time as the total lack of motivation for activism or change. Millions of people are fuming about this but millions of them will still vote them back in.
No one will really protest. They know this.
Dec 3, 2021 • 8 tweets • 2 min read
If I hear ‘lessons will be learned’ about the murder of Arthur Labinjo-Hughes, I might actually scream.
Been in this field since I was 19 years old and we haven’t learned a fucking thing. Still going round & round with IRs saying the same things, finding the same failings.
Every SCR or IR I have ever read comes down the the same things:
Professionals are overworked and don’t not receive good enough supervision
Training is too shallow and too basic to handle these cases
Professionals are burned out & traumatised, creating lack of empathy
Dec 1, 2021 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
We live through all these terrible and amazing life experiences.
We grow, struggle, develop, move on, work on it, evolve, and shift.
Saddening to build all of that wisdom, and then die.
I wish we had a more useful way of sharing collective knowledge without elitism & money.
Proper guts me that we have hoarded knowledge and information, and then commercialised it all. We buy it and sell it. We keep it behind paywalls and in institutions where only certain people are allowed access and only if they follow rules.
Wisdom and experience isn’t valued.
Nov 25, 2021 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
More & more violent men and their defenders are twigging that they can use trauma, ‘ACEs’ and their own experiences of abuse to justify their violence against women & girls.
We must not let this narrative succeed or become accepted in practice, theory or legislation
We have decades of psychological theory which contests this, but it’s an easy and seductive explanation for male violence against women - and so many people accept it to be true under the whole ‘hurt people hurt people’ message.
This doesn’t stand up to basic logic though…
Nov 23, 2021 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
I did some consultancy in the music industry. The misogyny and victim blaming blew me away. I actually came away from that work disgusted.
As soon as I started questioning the objectification & sexual assault/harassment of famous female artists shit got seriously uncomfortable.
It made me realise that sometimes I am asked to do consultancy or pieces of work as tokenism, and that I would never allow that to happen again.
I only work with people who are looking for true change, critical reflection and honest feedback about misogyny.
Oct 30, 2021 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
I think everyone needs to be paying attention to the amount of women who have been subjected to abuse and trauma suddenly being told they have ADHD and autism.
This is the next wave of pathologisation after BPD and EUPD, mark my words.
You may disagree, you might think that the huge increase in women being diagnosed with ADHD & autism (both currently described as psychiatric disorders) is a good thing, but I’m not so sure. I think it will lead to more women being oppressed & discriminated against.
Oct 6, 2021 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
Just saw yet another academic supporting ‘women’s self defence’ as a ‘solution to VAWG’ and honestly I am sick to the back teeth of hearing it.
70% of women will naturally freeze when attacked, no matter what skill or belt they have.
And what about disabled women & girls? Hmm?
It might sound like a progressive, cutting edge study to do conversation analysis interviews and funded interventions of teaching young women self defence with self reported confidence measures but when you’re being raped, groomed, abused or controlled THAT SHIT WON’T WORK
Oct 3, 2021 • 7 tweets • 2 min read
We have been working with several police forces and PCCs on their misogyny issues for months now, and I can tell you that some forces are absolutely ready, and have the right people at the top, to challenge and explore their misogyny throughout the force for years to come.
In all cases, they approached us (which is great).
They all already accept their misogyny issues exist, and are impacting their staffing, and their responses to crime.
Crucially, it’s about who is in charge and who is ready for uncomfortable exploratory work.
Oct 3, 2021 • 11 tweets • 2 min read
I do find it interesting which feminists are being ‘allowed’ to publicly talk about their work and their personal experiences - and which ones are being accused of attention seeking, lying, and self gain.
Almost like there’s a disgusting cliquey hierarchy that’s developed 👀
I guess it’s the same with any women, and any communities, there’s always the ones that are allowed to speak, and the ones that aren’t perfect enough to speak on their own lives.
Almost ironic that this dynamic continues in an arena where it’s not supposed to exist at all.
Sep 30, 2021 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
To everyone commenting on my thread about police corruption (most are well intentioned comments), saying to ‘take it higher’ or ‘go to your MP’. It doesn’t work. I’ve done this several times & had the same outcome. Scrutiny of police needs to be external, powerful & independent.
I have twice taken something to professional standards and conduct but it’s been completely covered up or denied. When I pushed for the truth and an outcome, I was actually threatened with arrest for ‘harassment’ for writing a letter back to the force saying I disagreed.
Sep 29, 2021 • 6 tweets • 2 min read
In 2014, a police officer entered my house under false pretences & threatened to ‘kick my head in’ if I didn’t drop assault charges against someone he was related to. He came in patrol car & uniform. Station denied it ever happened.
The info about Couzens today is way too real.
I let him in because… well, he was a police officer. Why wouldn’t I? I thought he was there to help.
I invited him into my living room.
He walked in and instantly switched on me. My kids were asleep in bed upstairs and I was alone. He backed me into a corner.
Sep 26, 2021 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
I don’t know why this is controversial but when I managed rape centres and victims services I would absolutely change the therapist if the woman didn’t want them, triggered by them, couldn’t relate to them, wanted someone else…
It’s HER journey, not ours.
It’s not about US.
I would always tell my staff that it wasn’t about them, not to take it personally, and that they needed to move aside to ensure the woman or girl got the best support.
Women requesting specific therapists: sexes, ethnicities, languages, backgrounds, accents, demeanour is common
The Lancet, how you gonna play like you care that female bodies and female biology have been excluded from medicine and science WHEN YOU WONT NAME THEM?
Thankfully, some of us actually can recognise, name and discuss medical misogyny, and will continue to do so.
Sep 3, 2021 • 5 tweets • 2 min read
Someone in my town was sent this today cos they bought a caravan!
It reminded me that my old neighbour used to come out & ask me how I afforded the weekly shop, and told me he had reported me to the social, told me I was fiddling the system, asked me how I afforded my car etc.
I moved away from there in 2019, but for 9 years he asked me how I afforded everything from shopping to my car. I kept telling him that I worked full time but he didn’t believe me. One time he came out and waved the Daily Mail in face and told me that scum like me rinse tax payer