If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy. If children live with jealousy, they learn what envy is.

If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.

If children live with tolerance, they learn to be patient.

If children live with encouragement, they learn to be confident.

I hate to confess this but I will...

The last couple of weeks have been surreal,

My dreams have been filled with special appearances,

Special appearances from humans the devil is trying to unsubscribe from the earth.

Interestingly, these humans aren’t my friends, They are my virtual fans and acquaintances in different Countries I have never been to, I also haven’t set my eyes on about 80% of them before so I am humbled by the fact that God is filling my dreams with the movie of their lives.

STORY TIME

Something interesting happened to me last year,

I was scrolling through Instagram in my living room in Dallas, Texas when I saw a picture in my feed.

The picture looked familiar so I kept staring at it, after a while, I clicked on it to check the lady’s profile page It was a picture of a young lady who lost her husband in an unfortunate circumstance a couple of years ago.

I felt sad but then moved on to work.

After a while, the Holy Spirit instructed me to reach out to her.

STORYTIME

While in my bedroom last month, someone’s name popped up in my mind, and at that moment I perceived death. Later that night, the same thing happened while I was preparing dinner, then I knew something disturbing was about to happen. I reached out to the person who happens to be an alumnus of Emotions City. She had flown down from Europe to attend our Emotional Intelligence Certification course in Lagos, Nigeria 2 years ago. When I sent her a Whatsapp message, she asked if she could call me and I obliged.

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A couple of years, I was gisting with an acquaintance, and during the conversation, he mentioned he could never marry a single mother I asked why and he said, They have baggage, he can't trust them not to sleep with their child's father again, he can't raise someone else's child and he has so many options so he can't settle for a single mother.

I met a lady on the streets while observing my regular prayer walk in the estate a couple of years ago. She had initiated a conversation with me when she noticed that I was praying.

She proceeded to inquire about who I was and which brand of GOD I was having a conversation with I gave her a synopsis of my identity because I had noticed her in the estate too.

Then she informed me about her spiritual status. She was a Christian until she lost two of her family members to terminal illnesses.

Just before you attend your watch-night service.

Watch-night service can be dramatic.

Full of emotions on God's faithfulness.

How God preserved you from death, business calamity, and destruction. While at it, please have mercy on your fellow worshipper.

Some are attending the service in pain.

They lost their spouses this year.

Some lost their children.

Some lost their parents.

Two years ago. I drove by a boli seller who was roasting her plantain under the rain at Ilupeju. I parked and asked why she wasn't under a shade. She said if she left her wares on fire they will get burnt. I gave her a few notes and drove off to church. While at church. I had tears in my eyes. I couldn't imagine my mum roasting plantain in the rain. I kept pondering about it till I posted it on Facebook. A friend from the US reached out to donate to her. 48 hours after I drove back to her to hand her about 250k.

I met a lady on the streets while observing my regular prayer walk in the estate a couple of years ago. She had initiated a conversation with me when she noticed that I was praying. She proceeded to inquire about who I was and which brand of GOD I was having a conversation with. I gave her a synopsis of my identity because I had noticed her in the estate too.

Are you aware that,

1. How you do one thing is how you do everything.

2. The first thing is to determine the CAUSE and EFFECT and move them from effect to cause.

3. Blame weakens, Responsibility empowers. 4. The conscious mind is 5% of your thinking and 95% of your subconscious mind.

5. The best learnings are unconscious.

6. There are two types of motivation
- Towards motivation
- Away motivation

7. Imagination is powerful than knowledge

5 soft skills you need to succeed as a Coach.

1. Rapport

Building a relationship is a fundamental skill for a coach to have. You’re entering an agreement with a client where they let you in on their deepest desires and fears. It’s difficult to do this without developing trust 2) Rapport is built on features of ‘sameness’, perhaps because instinctively we feel less threatened by someone we can relate to and more easily relax and open up. It includes many different aspects from physical appearance, body gestures, voice, language, beliefs and values.

Why you should focus on becoming more emotionally intelligent in 2020

90% of top performers are high in emotional intelligence (EQ).

People with high EQs make $28,000 more annually than their low EQ counterparts. We’ve tested emotional intelligence alongside 33 other critical skills and found that it subsumes the majority of them. It’s no wonder that 90% of top performers are high in EQ and people with high EQs make $28,000 more annually than their low EQ counterparts.

One day all the employees reached the office and saw a big advice written on the door.

"Yesterday the person who has been stopping your growth in this company passed away. You are invited to join the funeral." In the beginning, they got sad for the death of one of their colleagues, but after a while they got curious to know who was the man who stopped their growth.

Everyone thought: 'Well at least the man who stopped my progress died!'

Five Emotionally Intelligent Habits for handling Work Frustrations.

Unless you lack basic social skills, it’s hard to imagine getting in trouble for expressing positive feelings at work. Sharing enthusiasm and encouragement is usually beneficial to everyone around you. It’s the feelings on the other end of the spectrum that most of us struggle with. We’ve all gotten frustrated or overwhelmed at work.

How to find an Emotionally Intelligent Mentor.

Everyone wants a good mentor. They can help you get ahead at work, and provide an important sounding board when you’re trying to make a tough decision or deal with a tricky coworker. But finding the right person can be easier said than done. A 2019 study found that while 76% of people believe that mentoring is important, only 37% say they have such a relationship.

The Qualities Of An Emotionally Intelligent Partner. For the longest time, I believed that love was the only thing necessary to maintain a healthy relationship.

Right? We all dream about a perfect future alongside a loving partner, without even considering the emotional qualities necessary to maintain a healthy relationship.

Have you joined my tribe?

Here is how to.

A lady stormed angrily into a car dealer’s shop. She was upset with the fact that she found out that the brand new car she bought an hour ago was overpriced. Knowing she could have purchased the same brand and model of car for about $5k less somewhere else was incredibly painful. She felt cheated, screamed, and shouted till they called the cops on her. When the cops came, they perused the purchase document, then confirmed that ownership has been transferred whether she feels cheated or not.

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Thank you so much for your MESSAGES and PHONE CALLS. I am sorry I couldn’t reply all. I was overwhelmed.

I am however grateful.

Thank you for celebrating me.