While we're changing our understanding of bigotry to being about what you do rather than who you are, how about we also change our understanding of empathy vs. compassion in the same way? By "empathy" here, I am specifically talking about affective empathy. The state of participating in another person's emotion. This experience is itself an emotion, which means it's involuntary. And involuntary states have no moral value.

Okay, just for fun, let's take a crack at explaining these supposed contradictions John McWhorter claims typify "third wave" antiracism and thereby invalidate it.
persuasion.community/p/john-mcwhort… 1. Well, yeah. Nobody who is apologized to is obligated to forgive the apologizer. But the further context for this is that it's a damn trope by now that black people are hounded to forgive white people who abused them. See e.g. @KeefKnight's excellent show "Woke" on Hulu.

Disbarred homophobic and anti-porn nutjob Chris Sevier is behind legislation in Iowa, Tennessee, Hawaii, Alabama, Arizona, Virginia, Arkansas, South Carolina, Wyoming, and Kansas where he easily got @RepRandyGarber to sponsor his bigoted legislation. kansascity.com/news/politics-… "In 2010, he tried to abduct his infant son during a supervised visit with his in-laws and was arrested for assaulting his father-in-law. His seven-month old son was also injured during the fight." hornet.com/stories/chris-…