Gifted a friend of mine a fitness plan about a year ago. He stuck with it, and acheived some amazing results. Before embarking on his journey, I not only discussed with him the grit necessary to acquire his dream body, but attempted to prepare him for a life he may not have been fully ready to experience. Once his physique began to drastically improve and his BF dropped to almost single digits, his marriage began to hit the skids. Although he did NOT indulge in the increased attention he received from women, his wife still had an issue with the constant looks/fawning. He was no longer the "lesser" partner. A lot of insecurities emerged from both sides.

Was watching a YouTube discussion about power dynamics in our community. A woman who is a fierce debater, told a brother 40k a year ain’t no money. The brother in turn accused her of being cruel, and lack compassion for the men who earn such and work hard. Let’s be clear, HE FUCKED UP! In regards to power/resources never plead with a woman for sympathy. It’s a fool’s errand and only speaks to your lack of competence. If you wish for those around you to treat you respect, demand excellence of yourself.

Currently there’s a Twitter tech space filled with black tech professionals telling stories of racism etc. Some of them started crying. I got the fuck up outta there before it became even more embarrassing. It bothers me that my race has become synonymous with thin skin behavior in the professional world. Look, tech is a fuckin jungle. These “90 days to front end dev salary” charlatans won’t give you the real.