All I will say to y’all is that you need to INSIST on payment. PLS. This isn’t Fast & Furious. This “family” that you assume you have in these outlets who pretend to be *down* just long enough to capitalize off your labor do not care about you & will work you ragged if allowed to
Please. Folx DON’T care. We’ve talked on here before about people using “the culture” for an eventual paycheck & not caring who they hurt. It’s how most of these blue checks get paid bro (doubly ironic since GOC has always been in pursuit of verification but hasn’t gotten it).
Please stop writing for free. There are folx out here who will ALWAYS abuse that goodwill. If you must do so, in the very least, write for yourself. It’s always worth building something for yourself rather than building someone else’s empire and never seeing the returns of it.
Besides the “holiday” being an affront to our Indigenous siblings, it is also in line with America’s ever-present tradition of simultaneously celebrating White mediocrity and depravity and tbh, return to sender please 😐
In addition to this, if you *HAVE* to celebrate a “Christopher” today, there are others available, who aren’t directionally-challenged nincompoops.
Hi. It’s true that America’s White supremacist “education” (re: propoganda) system purposely obscures & omits all kinds of Black stories. AND it’s true that the technology/social media boom at the turn of this millenia has given us access to an unprecedented amount of information
~Both things~ can be true. Because nuance lol
So I think it’s unfair to be all like “omg stop dragging him” when all folx are really doing is telling him to open a book, Google something, or leave his bubble to learn something new. I don’t think that’s an unfair thing to ask of someone who professes to know better?
I hate how this question is a thing too (i.e misogynoir & colorism) but the older I get, the more I realize that it’s not because the asker is seeking validation (eff y’all, BW are dope), but more so because bigotry in dating is an immense time waster & who got time to waste?
Listening to Dawson yesterday remembering some things that Toni Morrison has explained about racial trauma/race-specific gaslighting, I am reminded that the most violent thing about racism is not just the actual violence but the joy & the *time* that it steals away from us.
And BW in these asking scenarios (even when it comes to BM) find ourselves asking this question because we already have 502052950204 things trying to tug at our very precious & not-infinite source of energy & we definitely do not want to & wasted time & affection to that list lol
What is with y’all and lying about the believability of male/non-women survivors? Like patriarchy doesn’t also chew them up and spit them out for being ~weak enough~ to be assaulted???? Hmm? What gives?
This ~superior victim~ thing that White women have going on is not the wave and it is precisely the thing that keeps undermining the efforts of #MeToo/#TimesUp and tbh, y’all need to let that shit go because if it that isn’t base narcissism, IDK what is.
In high school debate, my coach taught me that “I don’t know” is a perfectly good answer and is way more sincere than spouting BS.
The first time I used “I don’t know...[but we can research that]” in a debate, my opponent got so flustered that he didn’t really have a rebuttal. He had been expecting me to talk outta my ass so when I didn’t, he was shook 😂😂😂
This lil White boy spent the WHOLE rest of the debate trying to bait me into answering his bum question because that’s where he had formed most of his talking points and I skrrt skrrt-ed him every time and just talked about my own shit. And I won 😂
In my latest piece, I discuss the insecurity of WW & the sheer absurdity (& racism) of complaining that Serena Williams & Alexis Ohanian are too ~in love~ with each other online when you got folx like Ryan Reynolds/Blake Lively & etc out here.
ICYMI, near the end of last week, Ms. Heather of Slate put out one of her angry journal entries online, complaining about Serena and Alexis’s public romance, asking why they feel the need to be so perfomative and what they have to prove 😒
The language and obvious “I cannot mind my business” sentiment followed by the clearly “omg but why herrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr” undertones were so distinct that 99 percent of us did not even have to read the article to guess that an aggro White woman had fixed her fingers to type this.
Just to be clear, if I ever have spawn and you, a grown 31-year-old, are caught texting them, a not-grown 14-year-old—WHO YOU ARE NOT AT ALL RELATED TO— about *boys and relationships*, I am meeting you outside.
You gonna have to explain to your maker why you thought it was your business to be engaging in TEXTBOOK GROOMING with a 14-year-old 😬
And whewwwwwwwie with all these outlets acting like it was cute when Millie Bobby Brown accidentally blew up Drake’s spot. No motherfuckers. You should all be terrified. Mortified. Wtf?!?!?!
In my first ever piece for @Essence, I revisit Nipplegate & the treatment of Janet Jackson, rewind to this month’s US Open and the treatment of Serena Williams & discuss how both incidents are connected because our society virulently hates “cocky” BW.
I’ve been absolutely ITCHING to write something since I discovered (unsurprisingly) that Les Mooves made it his personal mission to destroy Janet. Ditto on what happened to Williams (and Osaka).
Mostly because, to me, there’s no way to not see the connection in both incidents. Powerful White men don’t like to be humiliated. They don’t like to be embarrassed. With egos more swollen & overgrown than Saturn’s rings, it is absolutely the worst thing for them—no matter what.
All that nigga does is cuddle baby lion cubs, swim with sharks and feed deer called Canela and Tay Tay—how is he possibly annoying you?? Like what in your spirit is aggravated by him being nice to and taking care of animals???
Get over yourself or block him LOL 😂
The other issue is some of y’all think hating things just to hate them is enough to stand in for an actual personality WHOOPS