Today I watched @Amy_Siskind imply that a black woman, @AngryBlackLady, was a tool of the Russians for calling out her past support of Sarah Palin & trashing BLM - while countless white women who see themselves as leaders of "the resistance" rallied to Siskin's defense.
If you plan to be involved in politics at all, your past - especially your political past - is not off limits.
You want to be a leader of the resistance? Then you gotta own up to how we got here.
If you think there isn't a direct line from Siskin repeatedly attacking Obama & publicly lauding Palin to 54% of white women voting for Trump, you're wrong.
Reminded of a shitty relationship I was in with a dude. One of those relationships where a dude is super resentful that he's emotionally tied to you so he does a lot of passive aggressive shit to show he's still "a man" when all you want is for him to not be an asshole. Anyways..
I remember his mom talking to me one day. She knew her son what type of man he was.
"He's like his dad. Smart, funny, but afraid of admitting that a woman is as important to him as he is. We went through it all."
She goes on to describe the ups and downs of their marriage, how she stuck in there through 40 years and now they have a good life and all these memories and beautiful grandchildren.
Don't give Trump supporters shit. They are willing supporters of bigotry & violence. They are fans of locking human beings in cages, ripping apart families, criminalizing entire racial and ethnic groups, endangering LGBTQ people, sick people, and disabled people...
Kick them out of your restaurants.
Decline their invitations.
Turn down their money.
Boycott their establishments..
The entire election season we had pandering ass faux liberals acting like we couldn't call deplorables deplorable. Like we couldn't call people voting for open racists racist...
As a black woman in Trump's America, every day I see the echoes of my historical & ongoing trauma in what this administration is doing.
Every day I see how they are striving to categorize and demonize an "other" for their own gain. How they work to normalize violence & hatred.
I see it and it guts me, in the ways where it puts me and mine at risk, and the ways in which it puts others at risk in ways that look far too familiar.
I can see the similarities, the warning signs, I can raise the alarm.
And I can say "this looks familiar" and "this doesn't end well" without saying that it is the same. Without taking someone else's trauma & saying, "feel this pain again so that you will know that this is also bad."
Hey, if Jewish people say that they are uncomfortable with the use of "concentration camps" to describe the horrific treatment of undocumented immigrants bc it feels like an exploitation of their trauma from genocide, IT'S NOT BECAUSE THEY DON'T CARE ABOUT WHAT'S HAPPENING
And if some Jewish people are fine with it, that's an in community discussion for them to have. But that doesn't give us non-Jews license to override the concerns of Jewish people or shame Jewish people for voicing their concern.
And the truth is, we don't actually have to invoke the deep trauma of Jewish people in order to point out that separating families is wrong and putting people in cages is wrong.
It is outrageous on its own. It should be enough to force us into action on its own.
If you think the problem is Starbucks, or Waffle House, you are wrong.
The problem is this society.
We are being brutalized because White America is told to fear us simply for existing in our skin
but it's not only that.
We are being brutalized because White America thinks so little of our worth, and so highly of their own worth, that if we become even a mild inconvenience, it is seen as justified to insult, demean, abuse, and even kill us.
So, a few weeks ago, my kids & I were eating dinner at a local Korean restaurant. We're the only black people in the place.
And this white couple is sitting next to us...
And this lady was doing that thing where you really want to be a part of the group in the next table so you are like, self consciously chuckling when something funny is said & then quickly looking away & pretending to care about whatyour boring husband is saying.
And after like 45 minutes of this weirdness she finally blurts out at us,
Ok, so that last thread reminds me of my own, far less exciting experience with workplace lunchtime theft. Imma share anyway...
This was WAY back in the day when I was working in Telecom. Not, like, cool wireless telecom. Landline telecom. This was all CAT-5 & T3's and shit. Like, half of the people who worked there were former military - because it's one of the few places you get training in landline
But I somehow got a job there & I needed it because I was 6 months pregnant.
But socially, let's just say that this wasn't a place where I fit in.
today I got a call from a major national paper I'd never worked with before, offering work...
Saying they were writing an editorial about these recent sexual harassment and abuse cases. They were going to write about how it's great that women are coming forward, but that we need to treat each case individually and remember due process.
They wanted to know if I would write a rebuttal to their editorial.