INFJ. I like fairness, logic ...and singing tv themes.
Sep 21, 2019 • 15 tweets • 3 min read
"That didn't happen Mum. Why are you lying?"
One of the most frustrating things I found about living with a mother with BPD, was the lying. Lying about Dad was the most common. Back when my parents first broke up, I took what she said as the truth. If Mum said Dad was horrible
A 9 year old of course doesn't say, "start from the beginning, what happened?" They feel angry...at their dad. As children, we are told that lying is bad by our parents, so wouldn't even consider them lying to us. I'm not talking white lies, I'm talking making things up
Aug 13, 2019 • 14 tweets • 3 min read
Letter to my alienating parent
Dear Mum,
I know you found the break up hard. I know you found maintaining any meaningful relationship hard. I know you had a bad relationship with alcohol. I know you had underlying mental health problems. But we were children. (1/14)
I remember the days where you'd sit on the kitchen floor, crying. You'd tell us Dad had done this to you. That he didn't pay for us, he was a bad husband for breaking up the family. We'd see Dad & we'd be angry with him. He never corrected us. (2/14)
Aug 12, 2019 • 14 tweets • 3 min read
When you look back at things with older eyes, what seemed normal, wasn't. My parents split when I was 8. My mum would constantly slate my dad, come into his house when she was dropping us off & look through his stuff. She would often tell us how SHE looked after us...(1/14)
...when I was young, as my dad left us a lot.(When in fact, he was simply doing a graduate placement for 3 months, not abandoning us).She'd tell my siblings & I that he had another family,when he didn't.I'd often listen at the top of the stairs as she would scream at him,(2/14)
