I am not the daughter my mother wanted.

I have always known but it wasn't until a few years go when a cousin visited that it really sunk in.

This cousin who was maybe 17 years old looked so much like her that people would always assume she was her daughter. They would go to the shop together and come home gisting and laughing.

I would watch them as they gisted about men, love, marriage and other mundane things whilst giving her advice and acting like her mentor.

The threat of male violence holds women hostage & yes, I know it is our everyday reality, but this fear has fuelled women's cycle of inaction& timidity

We always say 'men have audacity' but we don't see that their audacity isn't natural, it’s nurtured & reinforced at every turn Recently I shared that women should blackmail professors who demand sex for grades and I got comments and DMs on how women will be murdered if they do that.

I am not oblivious to that possibility but, I also know that it’s an action that has worked for years and will continue to

I went to a pub close to home today to unwind and learn about my new environment in Senegal.

I climbed to the roof top with my 2nd class of red wine and sat on a table with a young man.

He wasn't overly dressed.. I could tell he was a local who wasn't well to do.. He was slightly tattered but honestly I love conversations and he looked like a simple guy.

We talked .. He didn't speak much English so it was half half conversation

Before an hour 2 male friends of his joined the table..One from Guinea and the other from Senegal..

My work and what you see is not my fight in the feminist agenda. My personal life is where my fight resides.

It's in the way I choose to live without wanting kids or getting married.

The way I challenged the uncle everyone feared at age 14 The way I date and get intimate with who I want unapologetically...

The way I go to shacks, gather women 15/20 Years older and teach them how to masturbate and negotiate sex.

Ever since I can remember the one thing I have wanted was my own space- not even a car.
When you ask my sister what my dream home is, they will tell you -An estate.

But here I was sleeping on the floor everyday for the last 4 years! I never share my personal life but I feel compelled to share even though my whole body is fighting it.

I started lolotalks 8 years ago with a webcam when I was in the university. This was during my 2nd degree..

But I want to zoom in on the last 4 years today.

Bored??? This should keep you busy for a little while.

Thread of questions. 1. If You Could Trade Lives With Someone, Who Would It Be?

At 3 months old, my family cut out of clitoral head (FGM1) because they didn't want me to grow up to be promiscuous.

This was never disclosed to me till I was an adult whilst I was educating my younger sisters about FGM and its implications. Naturally, I am curious about my body and I teach about sex and pleasure- I noticed that I didnt have a clitoral head but never wanted to believe that it was due to FGM

7 Ways to Teach YOUR children Consent without mentioning SEX. 1.Teach Your Children To Say NO

Teaching kids to say no might seem like an insignificant gesture, but the impact goes a long way especially in African cultures where children are not encouraged to be assertive or disagree with an adult as its seen as disrespectful.

Uwa was raped & killed in Redeem church, which did nt acknowledge her death until public opinion forced them

If ur church-or any church-is more focused on protecting its name than protecting its congregants,why are u not enraged? What value does ur church place on u as a woman? Women make up the majority of the congregation and church workers- offering themselves tirelessly year in year out.

The church is now a danger zone for women - so what actions are your churches putting in place to ensure women's safety?

Run out of things to talk about with your partner??

Here are 18 intimate questions to spark a conversation and connection..
Enjoy!! General Attraction Questions to Ask Your Significant Other

1. How do you describe me to other people?

2. How do you think I should describe you to other people?

3. What could I do for you that I don't do now?

4. What goals do you have for us?

I cannot overemphasize how much foreplay guarantees better sex! It makes sure that all parties are at their peak of arousal at the time of Sexual intercourse.

Been looking to get to that peak? Keep reading and I will explain how to get one to their peak of arousal by knowing what type of arousal ignites a desire within them.

@dayus4heaven @AishaYesufu @Ibilola_Amao @OmosuleIdowu @bofiasdaily @babaidris090 @Amakamedia @Iamoabraham @mpbeads_fabrics @joshua_adesogan @Antom_dapper @EstherIjewere @FireOFola @TerryannScott @lanrelewis @MistateeT @ImohUmoren @OgbeniDipo @BukkyShonibare @segalink @bolanleisijola @WaleMicaiah @ebuka_akara Thank you for having me.. I hope this can lead to great discourse where we learn from each other as I'm eager to learn from other people @dayus4heaven Humanism and Feminism
These labels have become very loaded words in recent times - with people asking - can humanists be feminists? Are feminist fight for all rights of sexes? Is humanism a way to ridicule the feminist agenda?

This thread has so many toxic and dangerous statements that I wonder why people are cheering the writer. This is prime example of what it means to weaponize femininity but the gag is that women are the ones who will still suffer at the end.

https://twitter.com/designmom/status/1040363431893725184

First, taking responsibility away from women and putting it solely on men is ridiculous and actually a way to disempower women. And even if all she said seems “attractive” in theory we have actually seen this in play.
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Something happened recently that made me highly ashamed of my actions and reminded me that despite all my humanitarian stance, I still subconsciously harbor deep rooted prejudices against some people. On my way to work, I bought dates as my snack and went to the kiosk around the office to buy water.

The man caught a glimpse of the dates and asked me if I was Hausa.

Medical Practitioners have said that the concept of an “intact” hymen is a myth! So what does that say about virginity testing?

CAN VIRGINITY BE TESTED AND HOW RELIABLE IS IT?

THREAD! Before I discuss the concept of virginity; let’s talk about this famous fellow – The Hymen.
This is a thin membrane that surrounds the opening to the vagina and can come in different shapes and sizes – some women are even born without one.

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THE ORIGIN OF THE YORUBA TRIBAL MARK Over 100 years ago, the drawing of the tribal marks referred to as ilà by the Yoruba tribe was common practice.