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May 4 • 8 tweets • 3 min read
the main defining characteristic of hate is a feeling of helpless trappedness
I may fear bears
I may growl at a small dog that's being aggressive
but I HATE mosquitoes.
an individual mosquito, I do not hate, I merely kill. (unless I'm trying to sleep and it's buzzing and I can't quite get it, and then I do hate it!)
the invention of "we've committed to be monogamous but we haven't committed to stay together forever" is weird and tbh contractually sus
like implicitly it's "I won't have sex with anybody else while we're still together, but I could break up with you then have sex with someone else and that wouldn't be cheating, but don't worry I won't, but of course we're not ACTUALLY committed for life yet don't be ridiculous"
Feb 10 • 11 tweets • 3 min read
what nobody tells you about "trying to do what's rational" is that you end up rationalizing a lot of stuff
the only stable thing I can steer by is: what I want
...to be clear, it's not the words "what I want". it's a type of question-and-answer. other words:
- what seems good/right to me
- what makes sense to me
- what I am drawn towards & repelled from
- my own yesses and nos
May 29, 2023 • 7 tweets • 2 min read
I'm realizing that when I try to aim to MAKE MORE MONEY, I feel selfish & grabby
but I feel more sane & Whole-some when I aim to HELP MORE PEOPLE, in sustainable ways
when I aim to CREATE MORE WEALTH, while capturing a similar fraction of the wealth I create as I do now
like yes, I need more money in order to have the life I want to have. but I'm seeing if I can reorient towards the idea that if I'm not making enough money that that means either:
- I'm not helping the world enough
- I don't have my wealth-creation hooked up to my own engine
May 21, 2023 • 19 tweets • 6 min read
"the five senses"—hold up wtf are you talking about?
who cucked your own awareness of experience?
you obviously also have a sense of balance, and of temperature
and if you pay attention, you also have a sense of where your limbs are in space, and nausea, and love
a "sense" might mean several different things: 1. an individual receptor cell (eg rod & cone cells in eyes) 2. a sense "organ" (a system made of many of these cells, eg an eyeball) 3. a sense "field", eg "vision"
these are all fake! all made-up abstractions
useful—but fake!
Oct 14, 2022 • 9 tweets • 4 min read
"value collapse" is something I've noticed somewhat with myself and others, using the @CompliceGoals app to track their goals
...the system works a bit too well! if you don't put in a social goal, you can find yourself neglecting your social life, etc
I'm having a really satisfying experience of writing a summary of my worldview where each paragraph begins with "It seems to me that:"
It makes space for the rest of the paragraph to be clear & bold & non-hedging & brief, without coming across as dogmatic or "you should agree"
in other words, it makes it a lot more straightforward for me to say what's obvious to me that may not be obvious whatsoever to others, without any sense of argument
poll: your experience of my ongoing '"X" is a word' thread
I'm considering doing a small amount of filtering, removing any that feel obvious/boring to me or something like that
I've been tweeting nearly all of them (main exception being eg "2am" if I already did "10am")
"altho" felt kinda dumb when I'd already done "tho"
Sep 26, 2022 • 4 tweets • 2 min read
🤯 finally realized why I use so many fucking words
I am trying to solve failed communication IN THE GENERAL CASE
I'm kind of a communication guy, but I actually agree.
> Communication is a sign of dysfunction. It means people aren't working together in a close, organic way. We should be trying to figure out a way for teams to communicate less with each other, not more.
Communication, when it is occurring, needs to work. But the *need* for communication (ie explicit coordination) especially lots of it, is a sign that you're out of sync!
You know that thing where neither person can hear the other because they both feel so unheard?
I call this "knot-listening"
3 step solution:
1: hear *yourself* thoroughly
2: hear the other person thoroughly (by their standard!)
3: get them to hear you
If 2 isn't working, return to 1.
the important thing is that I've found a way to feel superior to both
originally from XKCD xkcd.com/774/
Sep 24, 2022 • 7 tweets • 2 min read
I've been thinking that we could probably use bespoke offramps for cults, but it seemed obvious to me that they'd need to be written by people who'd left those exact cults, articulating new views that actually transcend & include the old views, not just pay lip service
What have we gotten ourselves and each other into?
It's hard to explain it, but it's something we just can't not do
How did we get here? What is this place that we're in?
Is there a boundary? Where does it end and begin?
♫
I'm not just waiting, I'm actively seeking to find
A way to untangle this seemingly impossible bind
It's more of a dance, not a question of how to make love stay
So whether fast or slow, let's go where we can go, today
♫
oh fascinating, just discovered that "neologism" is supposed to refer specifically to a word that is new but has substantial traction
before that it's a "prelogism"
and before that it's a "protologism"
...unfortunately, neither of those words took off! 😆
I can sorta see the use for those concepts, especially "protologism" to refer to unpublished jargon used in private notes or by a closed group, but every prelogism wants to be a neologism so there's an incentive to say that it is (I do this)
Aug 14, 2022 • 10 tweets • 3 min read
I am coming to the conclusion that everything I was trying to get myself to do is better approached by exploring how to allow myself to do it
😤✋❌ how do I get myself to do the thing?
😎👉✅ how do I allow myself to do the thing?
if "I want to do the thing", great! the motivation IS THERE, for some part of me calling itself Malcolm.
the issue is that some *other* part of me doesn't want to do the thing, for whatever reason, or I'd simply be doing it
Afaict, this is basically true:
> "Nobody knows what's wrong with themselves. Everyone else can see it right away."
Two addenda: 1. This applies to groups too. Every group has a blindspot. 2. By default, nothing A says about how B's wrong will be comprehensible to B.
Jul 18, 2019 • 10 tweets • 3 min read
#ThingsIwantToExist: better ebook readers. Hell, a better app for reading digital text altogether—when I shift from "ebook reader" to "interactive reading" I find myself thinking current best thing might almost be "paste into gdocs" and that's nuts.
Here's a related thread someone else made, with a few suggestions (spaced repetitions, auto-summaries, etc)
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