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taurean bonvivant | nonbinary/she | assoc director: @wcmsu | editor: @tpr_IWCA | research: neurodiversity, trauma, writing
Jan 15, 2021 9 tweets 2 min read
If you require your students to share formal uni paperwork to receive disability accommodations in your class, lemme just tell you this right now: that is a ridiculous, ableist, unfair stance and I am writing a short thread here to tell you why. (1/7) Accommodations almost always require a formal diagnosis. Barriers to GETTING a formal diagnosis are enormous, expensive, & VERY slow.

It took me 7 MONTHS from beginning the process to getting a copy of paperwork. And that's without trying to give that paperwork to anyone. (2/7)
Sep 9, 2020 4 tweets 1 min read
Still feel like the phrase "love is love" (intended to validate queer couples) erases all the differences & miracles & places of wonderment that make queer love so different from not-queer love. OFC I love my wife, but our relationship dynamic isn't the same as a cis-het couple. I KNOW we grocery shop, bicker, and snore in our sleep like cis-het couples do. But I am nonbinary; our dynamics, cultural information, Burkean rhetorics, & ways of engagement are different than cis-het couples because we live in/are of a very different world than those couples.
Aug 31, 2020 11 tweets 2 min read
A little parable on self-care that has some twists and turns (thread).

I used to run. Like, a lot. Like, two dozen health marathons in two years. And then, hard things happened in my life & I stopped. Started feeling really anxious any time I even thought of running. (1/10) For several years, I would attempt comebacks. It never really stuck. It was hard to make a routine when I was battling my mental health. I also didn’t want to invest in the process (new shoes etc) because I knew I was unreliable about follow-through. (2/10)
Aug 26, 2020 5 tweets 1 min read
Today's Pedagogy Tip:

Get your ego out of your classroom! Take your job seriously, but don't be self-important. Remember that this semester is just a moment in time, that your students are in precarity & are also Real People, & that they have needs & self-care boundaries too. To clarify: When students are absent, seem tired / disengaged, or can't get it all together to meet your arbitrary (& they are, let's be real, arbitrary and randomly curated or selected based on imagined timeframes) deadlines, it is VERY LIKLEY NOT *clap* ABOUT *clap* YOU! *clap*
Aug 24, 2020 9 tweets 2 min read
Pedagogy Tip of the Day:

Always analyze which of your classroom practices are ableist, or only serve students who fit your prefab ideation of who a "student" might be.

Examples to follow in a short thread.

Read, RT, pass it on, etc. 1. Do you only present your classes/lectures orally?
If so, students with hearing disabilities as well as students with certain mental/invisible disabilities will struggle to fully access course information. Consider providing written notes, captioned audio, or multimodal format.
Aug 19, 2020 8 tweets 2 min read
Today at a pedagogy development meeting I got to trot out my favorite teaching position:

Stop having attendance policies.

(Short thread.) Attendance Policies serve NO purpose aside from making sure folks are okay/safe/not falling away.

You're there to grade learning/mastery.

If a student can ace assignments without attending lectures, why shouldn't they ace the course?
Aug 16, 2020 7 tweets 2 min read
Somebody please unpack the vague pleasantries of this tweet in ways that explain to me how real people with real needs will be served & lifted up. Like, in specific.

I want be supportive but this just... isn’t it, for me. I don’t see how shunning voting protects disabled people on Medicaid. I don’t see how shunning voting protects women, people of color, or queer people from the ways legal systems have been designed to seek them out and harm them.
Jul 10, 2020 10 tweets 2 min read
My therapist told me something recently thats way more helpful than it seemed at first:

Stop trying to understand why people act how they act or are how they are. Deal w. the action/behavior, not their history. What matters isn’t how you got here, what matters is HERE.

Thread: Obviously she’s not talking about systemic oppression or anger, or about abandoning compassion.

But on GOD, how many abusive people have I let stay in my life bc I understood why they were jerks? How much bad behavior have I excused? How much “insecurity” have I been hurt by?
Jul 7, 2020 6 tweets 2 min read
Sometimes when I tease her/am bratty, Stacia says: Is that how you wanna talk to someone you love?

I think about that a lot. I apply it other places. It makes me better. Is this how I wanna talk to someone I love? Or respect? Or care for? Or want to show kindness? Sometimes, when I am sulky, I ask myself: How do I want to talk to someone I love?

I’ve learned to treat other people the way I feel about them. Not the way I’m feeling about my current mood. It makes me better.
May 21, 2020 4 tweets 1 min read
Thread!

As a kid, after my shower, I’d comb my long red hair back from my face in a slicked style very similar to how I style it now. I’d look at myself for a long time, feeling like I looked just right but also that I’d never be able to have hair that really looked like that. I felt... handsome? And very much like myself. And very much like I’d never get to be that person any time at all except alone after my shower. I couldn’t have short hair. I couldn’t look less like a long-haired girl. I carry so much sadness from those feelings of “never.”
May 3, 2020 4 tweets 1 min read
The harder thing to address isn’t happiness. Its what folks can’t imagine or unrecognized sacrifices a person has made to be with their partner.

A lot of folks, me included before Stacia, are really happy in many ways bc they have no idea they could be even happier yet. If you’d asked me if I was happy in my first marriage, while it was going on, I would have said yes. My partner was truly my best friend and we got on great in many ways and we seemed happier together than other couples. I didn’t even realize what wasn’t working, at the time.
Apr 30, 2020 5 tweets 1 min read
Thinking about the perennial “Should I change my name?” convo in higher ed marriages.

I had wondered hard on this myself.

But as my recently updated handle implies, S & I opted for hyphenation. We’re BOTH Drs (💪🏻), and we wanted a shared family name.

We feel good about it. The decision was easier for us because we have the same titles and degrees and neither of us felt we were giving away our achievement to someone else.
Apr 9, 2020 4 tweets 1 min read
This.

Every time someone tells me that millennials are trash, I remind them that I’m a property owner with a PhD, that my current “adult” job is the first time I’ve EVER had a single job/under 60-hr workweek, that I was told my 70k student loans were “good debt,” etc. I grew up & graduated into recessions; I did everything “right” — a marriage, no children, no frivolity, no vacations, used cars. I do everything Boomers claim I don’t but ought, and it has still left me in precarity.

We’ve gotta start being honest/transparent about this stuff.
Mar 19, 2020 4 tweets 1 min read
Listen. I’m frustrated with the Gen Z spring breakers too.

But imagine being born into and growing up in a seemingly completely hopeless world riddled with economic & social crisis. Imagine thinking it’ll only get worse in your lifetime, bc it only ever has.

(Thread) And then imagine being so young that still most of your biggest concerns are friends, flirtations, high school or college graduation. Imagine that the “adult world” as you’ve known of it is solely a despair-pit, & imagine you lost your last few months of avoiding it. (2/4)
Mar 13, 2020 7 tweets 2 min read
OK, I have to say it:

Salaried faculty using this time to write op eds, tweets, and other media about how HORRIBLE their lives/jobs/this stress are need to get a goddam grip.

You’re home safe & being paid.

Others are facing extreme financial & health precarity right now. And some of y’all really are out here screaming THE STATE OF EDUCATION IS SO DESTITUTE HERE IS MY 39 TWEET LING THREAD ON WHY ITS AN INDIGNITY TO ASK ME TO TEACH MY TWO CLASSES ONLINE FROM YHE COMFORT OF MY HOME — it’s not a cute look. Not a cute look at all.
Feb 28, 2020 4 tweets 1 min read
Annual reminder that @MatildaMusical is the absolute best piece of musical theatre written in the last twenty years, and that is a hill I will die on.

And I say this as someone who has seen *everything,* and 95% of the time with the original cast in NYC.

Matilda just... slays. It’s a meditation on trauma and abuse — who gets help? Who doesn’t? What will happen to the people who never get help when they grow up? How can we break the cycle? What is courage? What is despair? What is insanity?
Feb 24, 2020 8 tweets 2 min read
Unpopular Take (1/1)

I just saw Parasite for the first time, & I have lots of feelings.

Can’t get past whole thing feeling like a meditation on the idea that poor people = stupid, lazy, con artists, desperate, & violent. What was the point behind that? That poverty is endemic? (2/2)

Totally loved the acting. The filming. The editing. The special effects/green screen.

But how was this movie not hideously offensive to anyone who has experienced poverty and desperation?

Reminded me of Knives Out, in its “Look! We whites know some whites are bad!” vibe
Feb 6, 2020 4 tweets 1 min read
Okay, #broadway twitter. Don’t let me down. I gots a question for you:

What is your favorite #sondheim lyric? Extra points for deep cuts. My right now mood, which could change any moment as I keep watching Sundays tonight:

“Sundays, disappearing as we look.”
Feb 4, 2020 14 tweets 5 min read
Tips for Not Being an Asshole By Accident: A Memoir
by: Karen, living with PTSD and trying to not make it anyone else's problem

A Thread. 1. Do you ever feel like your mood takes sharp turns downward? You feel fine, & then something minor happens, & you then feel not-fine-at-all? When that happens, do you get angry/sullen?

First, ask yourself: Who do you make receive that energy from you, and why is it them?
Jan 18, 2020 4 tweets 1 min read
Serious question, because I have emphatic opinions on this myself & was recently told I’m wrong..

If your partner is regularly liking semi-naked or sexual pics of other people on OG, including (but not always) people you know, is that ok? Ah! *IG, not OG
Jan 14, 2020 4 tweets 1 min read
Remember:

Your students are citizens of the world.
After your class, they still will be.
Your job is to, somehow, make them better at it.
Do your course goals reflect their growth?
Are you scaffolding their paths to engagement?

They're whole people.
Don't give up on them. It's too easy to really fall into believing BA degrees are solely about content mastery. Really, that's what grad school is for. A majority of UGs will not pursue grad study, may not work within their majors, etc. That said: What is your class doing for them, then, as a PERSON?