10 lessons on influence from one of my favorite books

If you want people to like you, start here....

// Thread // 1. Stop criticizing people

We all make mistakes.

Stop jumping to criticize people when they do.

It's counterproductive.

Most people become defensive and stop listening.

Instead, lead by example and offer your help.

None of us are perfect. No need to remind people.

"I'm scared to approach her. She might reject me."

- What would you grandfather say?
- What would he tell you to do?

He'd say "Do you still have a pair of nuts? Man up and stop being a pussy. Do it, or some other guy will."

Channel that old school energy and go after it. Rejection means nothing. Absolutely nothing

Do you know how many times I've been rejected?

A lot.

Guess what? I moved on and approached someone else

Many of the women who denied me told me straight up how they respect the boldness

What do you have to lose?

From awkward loner to becoming the life of the party.

- 5 steps I used to overcome social anxiety -

(STORY THREAD) It feels like it was yesterday...

Upset and smoking as I looked out my window.

This is was my life: wake up, videogames, look at phone, sleep.

I was depressed, lonely, and didn’t want to be alive.

I was panicking.

I couldn’t believe this is what my life had become.

Thread: Journaling

- A Guide For Beginners - Journaling is a tool that changed my life.

It's helped tremendously in managing stress and anxiety, processing emotions, goal tracking, and rewiring my mindset.

Many people want to try journaling, but don't know where to begin.

Here are some tips to get you started..

I used to have panic attacks at college

Step in the classroom, sit down, and BOOM, panic and anxiety would set in

I'd immediately get up, leave the class and do deep breathing in the hallway

I believed the classroom was causing the panic

So I stopped going...until I had enough of the constant need to escape

I was tired of fearing the classroom..

I was tired of fearing "What will people think if they see me having a panic attack?"..

I was tired of running...

The Art of Journaling

- 5 Tips for Keeping a Journal -

(THREAD) Journaling is a game changing tool. Many sleep on it because they’re worried about being made fun of for keeping a diary. It makes you think of a young girl writing about her crush as school. But guess what? You’re not writing for other people. You’re writing for you.

Stop suffering in advance

If you're anxious about some possible future event, say to yourself: "I will deal with it when (If) it comes, but until then, I will focus on my present reality."

- Accept the worst case scenario
- Focus on what's in your control now

Peace of mind "But how do I accept the worst case scenario? Why would I want to accept it and give it?"

1- Acceptance isn't resignation.

Acceptance means to acknowledge a possible future (or current) reality. You see the situation for what IT IS, not what You want it to be.

7 Ways to Be a Better Conversationalist

- Thread - 1. Be Present

Presence is key

If you're focused on anything other than the conversation you're having, you're not present

You're distracted

This will lead to miscommunication and the other person feeling like you'd rather be doing something else

Focus

The Stoic Remedy for Anxiety

(THREAD) Around 40 million people in the U.S have an anxiety disorder (18% of the population)

That's 1 in 5 people

300 million people globally

How much of that is just mental? I don't know, and I'm not here to debate that

I'm here to offer a remedy

20 pieces of advice I'd give to my 20 year old self

- Sunday Thread - 1. You are in control of your emotions

Society wants you to believe otherwise through prescribing you something.

2. How you feel depends on how you think

You react to the belief and judgement you hold about the external, not the external itself

Perspective is everything

27 Lessons From 27 Years of life

- Birthday Thread - 1. No one is coming to save you

Your family and friends love you, but in the end, they are not responsible for the choices you make

You need to make it happen for yourself. They’re not coming to help you

It's all on you

We're all born with the power of discipline

It's a muscle that you build or allow to wither away

- Strong discipline = High quality life
- Weak discipline = Low quality life

So, if you're reading this, you CAN be disciplined, you just need to start working out that muscle Self control is the backbone of discipline

It's the ability to exert conscious will over your automatic habits

It's looking at yourself in the mirror, after years of f*cking up, and you say to yourself "I'm not doing this anymore" and you DO something different

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📖 10 Lessons I learned from the “Meditations” by Marcus Aurelius

This was a life changing book for me—maybe it will change you!

Here are some lessons you can learn and implement in your life right now:

Read below 👇🏼 [1/10]

• “It’s silly to try to escape other people’s faults. They are inescapable. Just try to escape your own”

Marcus taught me to forget what other people are doing, saying & how much they criticize you

You have enough on your own plate, focus on being the best you can be.

[ THREAD ]

💀 Memento Mori 💀

Latin for: “Remember that you will die”

This is an ancient Stoic exercise that’s been used for thousands of years to transform people’s lives

How can it change your life?

Well, you’ll have to read 👇🏼 So, why is it so important to remember your own death?

Well, the obvious answer would be that people forget or don’t think about it because it’s uncomfortable

👇🏼

10 lessons I’ve learned from the book “How to Win friends and influence people” (by Dale Carnegie) that will change your Social life today

A simple guide on how to make people like you

[THREAD] 1-Don’t criticize, condemn or complain

No one responds well to criticism, in fact, people react defensively

It’s better to try and be patient with others by seeking to understand them, not criticize them

So stop complaining & condemning people

Here’s a Guide on how to become the guy in the phrase “Who is that guy!?”

The guy everyone stares at, wondering with curiosity, as he strolls through the room looking like a god

Read below👇🏼

[THREAD] Ever wonder what it would be like to be “that guy”?

The guy everyone stops to look at as he passes you by on the street...

Or the guy that commands a room...

Yeah, it’s not as hard as you think, it’s just going to require some work on your end..

Let’s jump into it 👇🏼

7 ways to enhance your day & become Highly productive

1-Goal setting
2-Scheduling
3-Workout
4-Utilize a System
5-Work on ONE task
6-Eliminate Low ROI activity
7-Take action

If you've been procrastinating or falling behind on your goals, this thread is for you

[THREAD] 1-Goal setting

This is crucial

How can you achieve your desired success if you don’t have a goal or plan to get you there?

Sit down today and start writing down your goals

Daily, monthly and yearly goals

This will create a blueprint for you to clearly work towards your goal

7 Principles of Stoicism that will enhance your Social life

1-Gratitude
2-On fearing death & rejection
3-Time wasting
4-Stop caring what others think
5-Be Present
6-Be Empathetic
7-Celebrate your friends

🏛An Intro into the mind of a Social Stoic

[ THREAD ] 1-Gratitude

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking”
-Marcus Aurelius

It starts here, being grateful for all of the good that you already have

Be grateful for your friends, family, clothes, and the roof over your head

2 WAYS TO START A CONVERSATION 🗣

-Direct approach
-Indirect approach

Are you tired of never knowing how to start that conversation?

I got You!

[Short THREAD] This was something I always suffered with as a teenager

Seeing someone I wanted to talk to but didn’t know how to start a conversation

For this, I missed MANY opportunities, but it’s ok, life is full of opportunity

📓 25 SOCIAL SKILLS lessons that will make You Socially Intelligent today!

Let’s jump right in!

[QUICK THREAD] 👇🏼 1. It’s not about WHAT you say, it’s how you make them FEEL

The words, for the most part, are irrelevant

The vibe, energy and intention behind the words are what counts

Focus on how you want someone to feel rather then fixating on WHAT to say

You’ll be much more effective

10 Signs of Social Intelligence 🧠

1-Smile
2-Good posture
3-Strong eye contact
4-Fluid hand gestures
5-Let’s others talk more
6-Listens & relates
7-Comfortable Touching people
8-Walk with a swagger
9-Speaks at slower pace
10-Keeps calm under criticism

[ QUICK THREAD ] 1-Smile

How do you feel when you see someone that looks angry?

It’s a downer

No one will want to interact with you if you look pissed all of the time, it’s just negative energy

Plus, smiling is a sign of confidence and boosts others moods