5 THINGS YOU THINK ARE ANXIETY, BUT THEY ARE ACTUALLY ADHD:
1. Procrastinating on a project youβre good at
You delay because starting means potentially failing publicly. Anxiety says perfectionism; ADHD RSD says deliver nothing rather than risk a finished product that could be judged unworthy.
Jun 15 β’ 6 tweets β’ 2 min read
THE ONE THING THAT MAKES AN AVOIDANT ACTUALLY WANT TO COMMIT (MOST PEOPLE DO THE OPPOSITE)
Most people try harder when an avoidant pulls away: more texts, more reassurance, more affection, or sometimes the opposite, giving them endless space. Both approaches usually push them further away.
There is one approach that actually works, and it goes against every instinct most of us have in anxious-avoidant dynamics.
It is not more love, more reassurance, or giving them more space. Those strategies tend to backfire because they trigger the avoidantβs core fears.
More pursuit activates their fear of engulfment. Excessive space can feel like abandonment or disinterest, prompting them to shut down even more.
The result is the same frustrating push-pull cycle that leaves both people exhausted.
