Even if this is coming from a place of good intentions, you are derailing a long overdue focus on men's actions and making sure as society hold men accountable for their actions.
You do a lot of harm by keeping focused only on what victims should be doing differently.

https://twitter.com/JimPyre/status/1166767569614843907

Think back to worst phase of car crashes resulting from drinking and driving, the reaction from everyone was "every driver needs to learn how to avoid drunk drivers on the road and stop doing harm to others
on the driver who isn't drunk

@honema @ErynnBrook Feminism is a reaction to patriarchy and the systematic marginalization of women in society.

Men are the enforcers of this structure and overwhelming benefit from it.

It is not asking men to be better for the sake of women, it is asking men to stop enforcing patriarchy @honema @ErynnBrook There is no equivalent structure of women marginalizing men, so the idea the women must better themselves for the sake of men is a) moot, b) further enforcing the existing patriarchal structure