Masculinity isn't defined by culture, society or tradition. Masculinity isn't watching football, drinking beer, smoking cigars or playing sports. Masculinity is a set of behaviors and physical traits that simply separates you from a woman.
Masculinity is your penis. Masculinity is your confidence. Your self control. Your controlled aggressiveness. Your ability to endure hardships. Your ability to persevere in times of struggle. Your ability to improvise. Masculinity is your beard and broad shoulders.
Don't let society dictate to you what masculinity is. You're not less of a man if you want to cook or clean. You're less of a man when you behave like a woman. When you sway your hips. When you whine and bitch. When you easily crumble under stress. When you're over emotional.
A lot of men take things too personal. They complain that the girl is at fault when really they're just touchy, insecure and emotional guys. You can't have long term, low drama relationships with women if you don't learn emotional control.
You can't have long term, low drama relationships if you get furiously jealous every time she talks to another guy.
If you explode into a million pieces every time she says something you don't like.
If you always think you're in love with a woman when really you have Oneitis
When a guy comes to me for advise about a particular woman, I've noticed that a good deal of you simply have fragile egos. Everything upsets you. Everything gets to you.
Your prissy little feelings are always being hurt...
The typical and unhappy Nigerian woman isn't clinging to her husband out of love. Marriages last in Nigeria not because of anything special. It's seems to last here because in economically risky countries, divorce isn't common. Women fear moving out on their own
Women in Nigeria stay in marriages not because they want to, but because they don't have the money to leave. Think about that next time someone wants to use a marriage that has lasted long as a marriage that is also happy
I'm not saying there aren't long lasting, happy marriages... I'm saying they aren't in the majority. Most marriages of today that have lasted long aren't happy. They're tolerant and tired.