One of the reasons modern adults are so lonely is that every action is seen through the lens of the construction of the individual self.

Every act of combatting loneliness has to be filtered through this lens of construction. “If I go to a bar, I am the type of person who goes to bars, is that the type of person I want to be? What does it mean about me to go to a tiki bar vs an Irish Pub? I’m not sure there’s even a bar that would fit my Nancy Myers clean girl aesthetic. Plus, what kind of people would I even meet at this bar? The kinds of people who go to bars?”

It’s dizzyingly overwhelming, thus, everyone stays home and watches extremely personalized videos about what People Like Them are up to out there.

https://x.com/ScarletAstrorum/status/2054672873185276221

This is also partly explanatory of the dating/marriage decline. Cannot even begin to tell you how many times I suggest some generic, popular with young people activities to single friends and the pushback is all about the semiotics of the activity.

You don’t have community because you aren’t a good community member. You don’t host events, you don’t know how to cook, you don’t know how to dance, you don’t know how to sing, and you aren’t doing anything to learn. You can’t tell stories or jokes. You don’t have community because you stopped drinking for your health but you don’t invite your friends to the gym, either. You don’t have an open door policy and you don’t drop in for tea. You don’t play an instrument and you’d rather stream something than see a live band.

everyone is talking about the Great Wealth Transfer but what’s already underway is the Great Heirloom Transfer

hop on marketplace to see what I mean…

KEYWORDS for finding beauty:





Lacquered/ lacquer/ lacquerware- refers usually to Chinese/Japanese designs in furniture or wood items with a shiny coating and intricate details

Pics in thread all from local marketplace listings, I bookmark these searches!

Even if you don’t buy, it trains your eye