No one "ignores the elephant in the room and focus on a spider climbing the wall" better than African elders. They'll ignore molesting uncles and cheating husbands, but when it's time to talk about whether you greeted when you walked in, they'll show up like Avengers in Endgame In a weird way, a lot of our elders have convinced themselves that their culture, customs, and tribe have made Africa a better place. They comfort themselves with these cute proverbs and sayings and swear that they have wisdom flowing out of their pores.