But it is also important to recognize unheard pain.
Women and girls suffer under patriarchy.
But so do men and boys
This principle is a difficult one to navigate, because it requires naming and holding accountable the groups complicit in systemic oppression while also recognizing that their suffering under it is intertwined with our own and that individuals in that system require compassion.
To conceive of how this works, we have to understand that the primary function of consciousness is to take all the floating data we experience and weave it into a narrative that makes sense and allows us to function.
Part of what allows us to function and survive is that our brains create narratives that justify continuing to exist.
We then designed our civic infrastructure to be as inhospitable as possible to sleep on.
We incorporated bars and spikes into public architecture, we shrank, segmented or removed benches, added fences and shuttered public restrooms.
We leveraged laws that criminalized standing or sitting in any one place for too long, indecency laws to criminalize sex and nudity, public urination/defecation laws (Remember those shuttered bathrooms?)
I worked for a co-op. We categorically refused to call police on shoplifters. Repeat offenders might be banned, but the human cost of putting someone through the trauma of arrest and prosecution over cheese was not an option.
Social anxiety can absolutely hinder someone totally from engaging in social scenarios.
But if they don't completely keep someone from engaging socially, the question still remains, who does one socialize with when they ARE able?
If a socially anxious white person, (when they are able to socialize) chooses only to do so with white people when they also have the opportunity to socialize with non white people, then the social anxiety isn't the core of the issue.