1/ On Monday, we will bury my husband's Grandmother. On Monday, I was scheduled to give 4 talks in Chicago at a National emergency medicine meeting. I emailed the organizers and apologized that I must cancel last minute. Why do I write this here? 2/ Recently, I went through what I can only call a very ugly divorce from a place I worked at for the last 8 years of my life. I put every ounce of myself into that place. I often picked the institution over my own family. Rather than play with my kids in the evenings, I worked.