1/ You're walking your healing path. 🌿 Everything seems to be falling into place—moments of calm, supportive connections, and purposeful steps. Life feels like it's coming together. Then, grief hits. 💔 2/ "Why now? After all the work I’ve done?" Here's the truth: This isn't happening because you're broken. It's not because you aren't trying hard enough. In fact, this grief is a sign your healing work is paying off. 🌱

GUILT vs. SHAME

They are different.
One is a primary emotion
One is a thought about right/wrong.

I'll explain

(long, and you've been asking
Thanks for waiting...)
🪡🧵 SHAME IS A PRIMARY EMOTION
An emotion with us from birth

Shame and Guilt are very different
Guilt is a thought involving agency
Guilt is learned

Guilt is when you do something wrong and have the thought
"I shouldn't have done that, I need to resolve this and make it right"

👇🏼

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Why Abandonment Hurts So Much and How to Heal

It’s not just about being left.
It’s the feeling of being unseen, unloved, unworthy.

Here’s why it hurts so deeply—
and how you can begin to heal. 🧵 2/
As babies, love = survival.

When a caregiver isn’t emotionally present, it sends the message:
You don’t matter.

This creates shame—“Something is wrong with me.”
That belief can echo into adulthood, shaping how we see ourselves and others.

1/ 🧵 Nervous system healing is a brave journey, and every step you take is transformative—even when it feels challenging. Let’s dive into the fascinating dance of expansion and contraction in this healing process.👇 2/ 🧠 Imagine your nervous system as a rhythm. When you experience regulation (expansion), you feel calm and connected. But soon after, you might feel dysregulated (contraction). This isn't a setback—it's actually a natural part of healing.

🧵1/ Understanding the Fawn Response: The Silent Struggle to Please.

Most people know about the fight, flight, and freeze responses.
But have you heard of the fawn response?
👇🏼 2/ The Fawn Response:

It’s often overlooked but deeply impacts those who grew up in unsafe or emotionally volatile environments.

Let’s break it down ⬇️

1/🧵 Boundaries: More Than Saying No, They're the Key to Letting Life In

When you think of boundaries, you might picture walls or limits. But boundaries are more than just barriers. They’re like a cell membrane—designed to both protect AND let in what’s nourishing. 2/ Think of a cell. Its wall is selectively permeable. It keeps harmful substances out but allows nutrients and oxygen in. Your boundaries should do the same: keep out harm, let in support.

GUILT vs. SHAME

They are different.
One is a primary emotion
One is a thought about right/wrong.

I'll explain

(long, and you've been asking
Thanks for waiting...)
🪡🧵 SHAME IS A PRIMARY EMOTION
An emotion with us from birth

Shame and Guilt are very different
Guilt is a thought involving agency
Guilt is learned

Guilt is when you do something wrong and have the thought
"I shouldn't have done that, I need to resolve this and make it right"

👇🏼

4 Ways that Somatic Experiencing Helps You to Heal

Somatic Experiencing (SE) is a type of therapy that focuses on the relationship between the body and mind, and how this relationship affects our physical and emotional well-being. Here are four ways that SE can help a person to reconnect with their body, emotions, and others:

🧵1/ Understanding the Fawn Response: The Silent Struggle to Please.

Most people know about the fight, flight, and freeze responses.
But have you heard of the fawn response?
👇🏼 2/ The Fawn Response:

It’s often overlooked but deeply impacts those who grew up in unsafe or emotionally volatile environments.

Let’s break it down ⬇️

🧵 1/ Imagine a childhood where exploration is met with encouragement, not punishment. Where tears bring comfort, not dismissal. Where every stumble is seen as a step forward, not a source of shame. 2/ This is the power of feeling safe in early childhood. It’s the foundation upon which healthy emotional development flourishes. It’s the secure base from which a child ventures out bravely into the world.

1/ 🧵 Nervous system healing is a brave journey, and every step you take is transformative—even when it feels challenging. Let’s dive into the fascinating dance of expansion and contraction in this healing process.👇 2/ 🧠 Imagine your nervous system as a rhythm. When you experience regulation (expansion), you feel calm and connected. But soon after, you might feel dysregulated (contraction). This isn't a setback—it's actually a natural part of healing.

1/ 🧵 Healing isn't always a straight path. Sometimes, out of nowhere, grief hits you hard. You might think,

"Why now? Everything was going well!"
But here's the truth: that grief is actually a sign of progress in your healing journey.

Let me explain. 2/ Imagine you're hiking, and suddenly you pull a hamstring. If you’re safe, you’ll feel the pain right away. But if you’re being chased by a bear, that pain won’t register until you’ve escaped. Our emotional lives work similarly.

🧵 Panic attacks.

They’re terrifying. And for years, they held me captive.
The irony?

The suggested cure—meditation—often made things worse.
Let me share how I learned to make peace with panic and why meditation can be both a challenge and a solution. 👇 1/ When you’re in the throes of panic, it feels like your body is on high alert—heart racing, breath quickening, mind spiraling.
Meditation, with its emphasis on deep breaths, can feel impossible.
“Focus on my breath? I can barely breathe!” That was me.

Somatic Jargon defined # 7

What is interoception?

Think of your body like a house with countless sensors. Interoception is the system that collects and interprets all the "signals" those sensors send.

Lets explore 3 states: 🪡🧵 1. Physical Sensations:

cold
thirst
hunger
fullness
warmth
muscle tension

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🧵 1/ Healing starts with one nervous system at a time.

In today’s fast-paced world, we often find ourselves disconnected, overwhelmed, and anxious. This thread is for those feeling stuck and yearning for clarity. 2/ As professionals, ambition drives us, but so does anxiety. We push forward, but often at the expense of our peace and connection to our true selves.

We wonder: Is there a way out?

GUILT vs. SHAME

They are different.
One is a primary emotion
One is a thought about right/wrong.

I'll explain

(long, and you've been asking
Thanks for waiting...)
🪡🧵 SHAME IS A PRIMARY EMOTION
An emotion with us from birth

Shame and Guilt are very different
Guilt is a thought involving agency
Guilt is learned

Guilt is when you do something wrong and have the thought
"I shouldn't have done that, I need to resolve this and make it right"

👇🏼

8 Examples of Toxic People and How to Hold Your Boundary

1. The Manipulator: This person uses guilt, shame, and emotional manipulation to get what they want.

To hold a boundary, be direct and firm in your communication, and don't let their tactics affect your decisions. 2. The Narcissist: This person is self-centered and lacks empathy for others.

To hold a boundary, set clear expectations and limits, and don't let them make you feel guilty for prioritizing your own needs.

5 Ways to Separate Yourself from Your Emotions

1. Mindfulness: Mindfulness meditation helps you develop the ability to observe your thoughts & emotions without getting caught up in them.

Take a few deep breaths & focusing on the sensations in your body as you inhale and exhale. 2. Emotional labeling: One way to separate yourself from your emotions is to give them a name.

For example, you might say to yourself, "I'm feeling angry right now" instead of simply experiencing the anger.

8 Examples of Toxic People and How to Hold Your Boundary

1. The Manipulator: This person uses guilt, shame, and emotional manipulation to get what they want.

To hold a boundary, be direct and firm in your communication, and don't let their tactics affect your decisions. 2. The Narcissist: This person is self-centered and lacks empathy for others.

To hold a boundary, set clear expectations and limits, and don't let them make you feel guilty for prioritizing your own needs.