wondering how we learn and how we relate. grieving, celebrating, getting distracted. desi doing experimental humanities
May 31 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
Everything in life comes with trade-offs. I highly recommend using ~decision trees w/ several layers, doing thought experiments to figure out what you actually value. Some things have near-infinite consequences or rewards; you gotta factor that in.
Btw this does not have to be so literal as [writing down a decision tree], though if you’re not familiar with that tool you prob gotta start there
I do this in my head, and the [values] are not strictly numerical, I try to assign value to qualia but also consider the qualia on their own terms
Dec 26, 2023 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
Sincerely believe a 🔑 to making your relationships better is to recognize when something ‘trivial’ has symbolic value for you, so you can communicate its actual importance to the other person
Similarly, you gotta buy in when the other person tells you smth matters to them
You might really love somebody and rly have the same values as them, but that doesn’t mean you’ll value every single individual thing the same way that they do. Don’t expect them to read your mind! If something minor represents something bigger for you, say it explicitly
Mar 4, 2023 • 10 tweets • 2 min read
The only time I’ve ever fallen completely in love, it was effortless. Neither of us intended for it to happen, but it would have taken a Herculean effort and profound insincerity on both of our parts to avoid it or even slow it down; it was like gravity pulled us together
We gave each other chances to opt out, we tried meekly to pump the breaks, to no avail
Within weeks we passed the event horizon, it was inevitable neither of us would ever be the same again: simply being exposed to one another meant we could no longer imagine ourselves apart
