SNIPPETS FROM MY HEART: abuse has an environment.

Abuse thrives on power and ignorance.

A house help feels incapacitated because he/she thinks of their job and get into the victim mindset and the boss gets into the power role of do it or you lose your job.

#AdultingAndStuff A child is left at the mercy of an older person and the adult leverages the child's ignorance to finger them or rape them even.

See, this is a power game every time.

Seniority & Superiority is power (factor in African upbringing)
Money is power
Knowledge is power

SNIPPETS FROM MY HEART: Your assignment isn't communal

I know you want support 24/7. I want it too. I want to wake up in the morning to encouraging text messages and prayers and surprise massages and food specially made by friends. Mind you, we get these things But on some days, you'll sound and feel like a crazy person because you actually look like a crazy person. You'll believe things that an average person can't comprehend (mind you they're not average because they're small minded but because they carry a different vision)

SNIPPETS FROM MY HEART: You're important in the scheme of things.

I know this sounds cliché but it's got to be true. The bible speaks of an army that neither jostles nor break ranks.

If you've ever walked for pageantry or ran a race on track or even participated In a march past, see how frustrating it is when your neighbour leaves their lane and bump into you or worse, abandon their duty post to content yours with you? That's how frustrating it is when you abdicate your throne because you think you don't count.

SNIPPETS FROM MY HEART: Love preserves itself.

Many times, we do silly and careless things under the guise of "it's my life after all"

It's not your life alone if you've submitted to God.
It's not just your life when you've chosen to be in relationship with others. It's not just your life when you have children.
It's not just your life when your friends are true come hell or high water.
It's not!

Every decision you take affects their lives too.

If I eat every sweet thing and don't take care of my health, these people are OBLIGATED...

SNIPPETS FROM MY HEART - Work is worship.

Years ago, I came into an understanding "every time my heart is in truth, I'm in worship."

This meant I could no longer claim worship only in church or on the altar. This meant worship was no longer a song.

Worship became a life If I can't minister to others while doing anything, then I must assess that discrepancy.

To stand in this postulation meant I had to ask God

SNIPPETS FROM MY HEART: it's your decision to pour out.

It's a norm to hear people say "I'll give it back to you" 😂😂😂 that's a terrible place to be; where what comes out of you is dependent on the stability or the insanity of another person.

#Snippetswithministerliza I know we should let people know what we can't tolerate and to draw boundaries means to speak assertively and that's the problem. We drop assertiveness for aggression and we fight to prove points that are not even points.

SNIPPETS FROM MY HEART: Accountability is adulting

You're an adult and no one is contending it. If you need to reiterate it in every conversation, then you're the one who has an issue.

To absolutely refuse all forms of accountability because you're an adult Makes me question how much you know about adulthood

Adulthood is strongly dependent on our decision making skills. If I choose have sex at 25 with a 40 year old man, it's MY DECISION. If a 13 year old decides to have sex with the same man, we'll hold him for rape and coercion.

SNIPPETS FROM MY HEART: Finishing anything is a skill.

There are so many options out there that you can change your mind a hundred times a month and still have options literally. Emotional options, romantic options, academical options... Name it. I understand you hated your course at Bachelor's so you dropped out, you disliked your job and quit, your partner wasn't matching your energy and you broke up and your business wasn't working so you closed it. Why is it consistently not working?

SNIPPETS FROM MY HEART

Yesterday, we talked about 'over-promising' check it out here if you missed it

https://twitter.com/Ministerliza/status/1394253072197726210?s=19

Today, let's check out 'humbility'
LOL 😂😆😂 I don't know who coined the word but Man! It describes us We come into a space and we try to play it calm and humble. The problem with this humbility however is how fake it makes you.

You're very smart but you're playing stupid so people don't think you're proud. You've got a solid opinion but you won't talk at the board meeting...

SNIPPETS FROM MY HEART

It's not unusual to impress people (lover, client, staff, colleague, opposite sex, anybody). It's instinctive. We do it to represent who we think we should be or who we expect ourselves to be. Other times, we are honestly looking for attention Some other times, we're setting standards. Other times, we're selling our brands and we need them to perceive us in a certain way.

The problems set in however, when we
1. Put unnecessary pressure on ourselves.

If you are ever in an abusive situation and you get the courage to get evidence in order to fight for justice, don't ever let the abuser know you have it.

Don't email it to them. Don't threaten them with it. They've emotionally harassed you to a place where you won't make it. Sending them the evidence will only make them intensify their technique or find a new way to manipulate you.

The last thing you want in an abusive environment is your abuser negotiating the gravity of abuse.