It may sound silly, but when you're particularly deeply emotionally hurting, sometimes the most helpful and loving thing you can do for yourself is take care of yourself like you would take care of a sick kid.

Some things to consider: -Comfy and cozy and safe: What clothes make you feel comfy, cozy, safe? What places feel best to spend time in? What comfort objects are helpful?
-Rest: Do less stuff. (I know, I know, fellow avoidance-via-productivity fam, I know.) Take naps. Go to bed early.

My PT lowkey blew my mind today during my latest mobility assessment and I wrote it down immediately bc tbh it totally tracks with what I know about trauma survivors and trauma recovery.

She told me, "Your problem has never been muscle *weakness*, it's muscle *imbalance.* 1/ Certain muscles of yours are SO strong--stronger than average--they're dominating by default & not letting these others play their role. It takes gentle, gradual, intentional focus on strengthening these muscles so your extra strong ones stop trying to always be in control. 2/

We should talk more about the post-traumatic impacts of this particular phenomenon. When your abuser manipulates and gaslights you into believing YOU are the abusive, hurtful, toxic one, it can turn into a core belief and fear with a chokehold on you for YEARS after the abuse.

https://twitter.com/stopworkplacebu/status/1590148854745559040

Survivors who have experienced this are often deathly afraid of hurting others and may believe they are even just inherently hurtful or predisposed to hurt as a default. They may worry deeply that they’re toxic. The shame is overwhelming and deeply embedded in the nervous system.

Yes. Being informed and staying connected is important, but the constant input of news/social media is a LOT. Twitter especially can be a form of hypervigilance that you may need to step back from if it’s too activating. It’s ok + good to cut back, set boundaries, or take breaks.

https://twitter.com/lmftherapistva/status/1590109234259464196

Adding to this to say, I also think mutes and blocks can really help make social media less activating. There are certain issues/subjects I have muted bc they’re triggering. I block certain types of accounts on sight. (I do also think I could be much better about blocking…

Hey Swifties. It’s time. 🕰 As is tradition: my track by track initial thoughts and feelings for #TSmidnighTS (including 3am Edition tracks and Target edition bonus tracks). I’ll be doing it in real-time as I listen thru, so it’ll be gradual. (To those uninterested, I’m sorry!) 1. Lavender Haze - I love that “meet me at midnight” kicks off the album and love knowing she was inspired by Mad Men for it.

The vibe of this song does a good job to set the tone for the album, too. It’ll never replace State of Grace as best Track 1, but… it’s a good choice.

The day after some intense triggers and flashbacks can be really rough and some stuff can carry over like a hangover. It’s SO important to take care of yourself when this comes up, so a few tips: -hydrate. Esp if you did a lot crying the day prior, you want to avoid the crygraine if you can
-nourishment. When we are extra triggered we aren’t always connected to our basic needs so you may not have eaten adequately. Proteins & fats are particularly helpful but food is food.