We do well when we know our role.
When we know where we stand.
When we know how the other person feels.
A funny thing happens when we don't have enough context. We fill in the context ourselves, like a game of Contextual Mad-Libs. /1
To illustrate my point, let's look at the client of mine who coined the term "Contextual Mad-Libs" in a session yesterday.
Some relevant context (see what I did there?):
The project management tool that this client's employer uses allows for comment threads under posts. /2
Jun 22, 2021 • 16 tweets • 4 min read
As #ADHD people, we start receiving negative messages from a very young age. Over time, we start learning to brace ourselves for facing another thing that is our fault, our problem, our dilemma.
The inherent problem is that we get really good at taking on blame, *period*. /1
We start to become blame sponges. We absorb blame and assume fault in situations where we have no ability to affect change.
My partner is stressed? Must be my fault.
My coworker is upset? Must be my fault.
A project I was collaborating on failed? Must be my fault. /2
