Dudes who are feeling "afraid to even date now!", you're late to the party. I've been "afraid" most of my adult life, not because I expect that I'm going to be accused of assault, but because I am afraid I am going to hurt or scare someone without meaning to.  1/n You aren't a rapist? Great! That's not enough. Don't do things that a rapist would do. Don't create situations where a person you like is afraid. Do your share of the work in making people feel safe. 2/n